Black or White

@Jotomy (6351)
India
May 10, 2010 3:05am CST
We all know people in this world with black or white colour. Do you choose colour of the person to make friends. In my country also they will see whether the couples are in white or black at the time of marriage. Most of the Men choose girls with the white colour to get marry. I feel why this is so, is colour reflect the nature of the person? My husband is black and i am white. But we have good relation and understanding. I feel my husband is more good than me, this has no related with the colours i feel, then why people shows differences. Do you know such people who will give more preference to the white colour than nature of the person. And what is your opinion selecting of the people, will you give preference to the colour or nature of the person? Can you share with me related to this?
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18 responses
@maura21 (51)
10 May 10
judge actions ,,,,,,,,,if tghey act loud or ghetto...they r ghetto.........nothing 2 go with race i love all races but i dont like loud ghretto pple
@Jotomy (6351)
• India
10 May 10
Please if you don't mind can you explain me clearly i didn't understand your words properly.
10 May 10
u know young kids white or black any color..........hanging out street corners being loud acting foolosh destroying property
• Indonesia
11 May 10
Skin colour doesn't important, the important thing is "what colour is their heart??". Skin colour is just a cover, but the true thing is inside of their heart. Just like a quote "don't judge book from its cover".
@Jotomy (6351)
• India
11 May 10
Your words are just excellent. I liked your words. Thanks for your response. Have a wonderful day.
• New Zealand
11 May 10
I think most likely , people are choosing people who are of their own race to become a couple with because they feel safe with someone who is like them. After all , most people spend their lives around a family of their own race , so they'll choose someone of their own race to start a family just like the one they grew up in. I do believe though that there is some discrimination , some racism when people choose white people over black people or vice versa , etc ,etc because there are some stereotypes , which influence the way people look at different races , which ultimately influences their preferences of a mate. My family actually encourages me to marry someone of my own race , so it's hard to get their approval and get my choice partner...
@Jotomy (6351)
• India
11 May 10
Hi cynicalstephen, yeah it is good to choose of your choice after that you should not repent for that why you got married of such complexion this is a life matter and depends upon the individuals thinking. Thanks for your response. Have a nice day.
@GardenGerty (105287)
• United States
11 May 10
Unfortunately all over the world, there are still places where skin color is made to be important, even when it is not. Some parts of my country have more prejudiced people than others some places mixed marriages are very common. It is all the same to me, I have had friends of all shades of the rainbow.
@Jotomy (6351)
• India
11 May 10
Hi GardenGerty, Yes i agree with you, in my country also mixed marriages are there. Example is me. But the things giving more importance to the relationship and the persons attitude. My next door there is a couple with mixed complexion but they don't have intimacy. She is black complexion but her husband is white, he will always tell her that because of the dowry i married you i didn't like you much. That poor girl some times will come to me and cry. I think it is very critical to analysis the people with the complexion. Thanks for your comment. Have a nice day.
10 May 10
In no way do I think that friends should be decided on the colour of skin. The colour of the skin of a person is a part of their physical appearance they are born with and so in no way means that a person with a certain skin colour would make a better friend and I certaintly do not choose friends by their skin colour and while I do not know anyone personley who does, I know prejudice can go on between peoples skin colours, but ofcourse its a ridiculous way of acting and extreamley unfair and making no sense what so ever.
@Jotomy (6351)
• India
11 May 10
Hi bennystc88, when i was studying degree there is girl Leena who will choose to talk only with white colour complexion girls, If any of the black complexion girl come and talk in between she used to just ignore her without listening to her. Poor that black complexion girl used to feel bad always and sometimes she loose interest in the studies also. But we all friends encouraged her to get through the exams. She is one who got college first and the white colour complex girl Leena failed in one subject. So showing difference among the friends by complexion will lead to frustration. We should not make friends on the skin colour. Thanks for your response. Have a nice day.
• United States
10 May 10
The color of your skin is the least important part of you. It doesnt change you as a person. Doesnt matter what your skin color is because deep down inside you're still the same person. Some people tend to be with people of their own skin color because it gives them something to be the same about. I think it is very wrong and stupid to classify people by their skin color. You should see who they are on the inside instead of the outside.
@Jotomy (6351)
• India
11 May 10
Hi criizz180, you are well said. Appearance of the person may be good but inside the person may be awkward i know such people also. This is the world where all types of people are existing. But it is difficult to understand a person with the outside appearance. There are also people i know, they act good outside but inner they have so ugly thoughts some of them we can recognize with their facial expressions. Thanks for your response. Have a wonderful day.
@dropofrain (1168)
• India
10 May 10
If I talk about white and black then I prefer Black. Black is my favorite color. I usually prefer To wear Black clothes,Black jewelry,shoes, sleeper,accessories etc. My husband is also dark in color than me but the good thing is that we have made a strong relationship with each other.
@Jotomy (6351)
• India
11 May 10
Hi dropofrain, Ho its wonderful. Having a strong relationship in between the couples is symbol of love on each other. Colour should not be the cause for the relation, person is most important. Thanks for your response. Have a nice day.
• India
10 May 10
really judging a person with their color is so idiotic.. but thats in practice all over the world..i dunno why people with fair complexion is considered the best.they are given preferences wherever they go..the others with normal or black complexion are neglected.. i don prefer colors for any relationship..
@Jotomy (6351)
• India
11 May 10
Hi nottheleast, i am very happy that mylot members are having a very broad mind and they judge the people fairly. your response is good. i liked it. have a nice day.
@alexies29 (124)
• Philippines
10 May 10
A person should not be judged by his skin color. Racial discrimination for me is slowly disappearing. People are becoming open minded and have learned to accept a person the way is. Each of us are unique individuals and should be treated fairly. No race or color is superior than the other.
@Jotomy (6351)
• India
11 May 10
Hi alexies29, you are right treating people fairly, i liked these words. No colour is superior than the personality. Thanks for your information. Have a wonderful day.
@jithinpg (87)
• India
10 May 10
The topic itself is quite debatable. But i don't feel anything reasonable behind choosing friends/partners based on their color. The color is a natural fact which we must recognize and realize first. But it is a common misunderstanding among different people that white represents something great and white is beautiful than black. But it is generally wrong, because a white woman doesn't always mean she is cute. Same is the case with men, and there are dark beauties who will beat the white beauties in attraction. The white skin is noticeable only if we are living in a place with majority of dark people. One will not be noticed on white skin if he/she is living in an environment of majority with white skin. So, believe in beauty first, color next. -Jithin :)
@Jotomy (6351)
• India
11 May 10
Hi jithinpg, your response is more realistic, yes, i too know many south Indian film stars are black and they have good photogenic and more beautiful. If you see any of fashion program there are both complex looks beautiful. I will see the beauty of the heart not the outside beauty. You will find many people who will not so good looking but they are so good, selflessness, clean and soft. Thanks for your response. Have a nice day.
@mr_pearl (5037)
• India
10 May 10
Hi Jotomy... I would say I agree with you that the nature of a person doesn't depend upon his/her complexion... Complexion is a natural feature and it is not one's mistake if he is black or white... It is just like that... I am glad that you have found the right person for you, and have given no thought to his complexion... Why some people prefer white partners? Well, let me tell you that I know an Indian lady (from my Office), who likes only black men. She will date only black guys. The darker the man, the crazier she is for him.. So it is not necessary that everyone likes a white partner... Yes, one thing is true that in India most of us like to be with a white partner. But it must be different in other parts of world, right?
@Jotomy (6351)
• India
11 May 10
Hi mr_pearl, yeah your are right, nature of the person doesn't depend up the complexion. Thanks for your comments. Have a nice day.
@monkeylong (3146)
• Guangzhou, China
10 May 10
As far as I am concerned, I think I am a person who usually likes to wear some black clothes or some white clothes only. For me, I think people who wear the white clothes may like that the people are so clean and tidy to people around. Then the black colour may give the people impression that they are so mature in life.
@Jotomy (6351)
• India
11 May 10
Okay thanks for your comments.
@libramie (562)
• Philippines
10 May 10
I don't choose the color of the person whom I make friends for nor their race. The first I prefer for is the attitude of one's being.
@Jotomy (6351)
• India
11 May 10
Yeah, attitude is the important for a person to choose a friend than colour of the skin. thanks for your response.
@nAyOhMi14 (298)
• Philippines
10 May 10
That's what we called discrimination, it depends to our perception.It's just our physical appearance so it cannot define us. But, I can say that white complexion have an advantage compare to black, based on my experience.
@Jotomy (6351)
• India
10 May 10
Yeah more people attracted to white complexion rather known by personally. Thanks for your response.
@Annmarks (39)
10 May 10
Colour should never come into it. I have a sister who is mixed race, cousins, also, none of this has ever made the slightest difference to me, its people, who they are, the way, they behave towards you, nothing, to do with their skin colour. Yes, no doubt, in other countries, as, in ours, there is still predudice around, sosmetimes, nothing, you say or do will ever change another person's attitude. Colour, should not reflect, how, a person is, their nature, personality, which determines, how, they conduct themselves through life.
@Jotomy (6351)
• India
10 May 10
Hi Annmarks, well said colour should not reflect about the nature and the personality. Thanks for your response. Have a nice day.
@cip116 (1011)
• Romania
10 May 10
Black and white are very elegant colors My personality is the equivalent of orange color (I am a "cold" person and orange color give me a warm feeling ) When I look at a photo I am attracted red things I think that is because my favorite people are very playful
@Jotomy (6351)
• India
10 May 10
Hi there, thanks for your response.
• China
10 May 10
To be honest,I have never met such a question.We are all Chinese,we are yellow.And when we met,we never think of the skin color.That's nothing at all.What we would think over is just wether he is handsome or charming.Maybe because of our skin color are almost same,we are never bothered by this. Concerned to your problem,I don't think the coloe matters.As long as there is love,all is not a problem.
@Jotomy (6351)
• India
10 May 10
Yeah this is very true as long as there is love colour is not a problem. Thanks for your response.
@trohichko (197)
• Bulgaria
10 May 10
I think judging by one's skin color is stupid and people that judge you by the color of your skin don't deserve you wasting time with them. These people are primitive no matter how much money they have - their egoistic and racist behavior brings only negative feelings. I used to know such people but I rejected them because of the way they act.
@Jotomy (6351)
• India
10 May 10
Good response, yes i can understand your judgment. Have a nice day.