super friend

Philippines
May 10, 2010 11:29am CST
I have a friend who'd always brag about the things that she have and all the positive & fun events in her life. I'm always happy if my friends are happy, but in her case it's different. She'll tell stories to you over and over again, and it's all about her greatness. Since I'm trying to be a good friend, I usually listen patiently. Am I tolerating her attitude? I'm afraid that she'll continue on doing that, some people would get tired of listening to her and she might lose some of her friends. What am I suppose to do to help?
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@Ladyslipper (1330)
• Philippines
11 May 10
Hmmm.. You're friend shoul realize this as early as possible. One positive way to do that is to do your part of talking. Don't allow her to manipulate the conversation. You can also do the same thing she does. Try to manipulate the conversation. Don't let her talk. Just do all the talking the way she does. If you can't then introduce her to someone like her. Let her realize how it feels to listen to someone like her. I bet she will not like it.
• Philippines
12 May 10
I've tried to change the topics and do most of the taking, but it will still go back to what happened to her and what beautiful things she got. I'm just trying to think of it in a positive way. I could try the bragging thing, but maybe not too much. I always choose to be quiet of what I have in life. Thanks!
• China
11 May 10
The situation is somewhat same as one of my friend , almost every disscution with her is beginning with "I" or "My", eventually I found myself can not stand her anymore, so I tried to find an article from Internet, and refer to her , this article started with a quiz, this quiz is just telling what kind of person you are in your friends' eyes , and how to improve your social skills . Believe me , it works, she pays much attention on not always talking about herself from that, maybe you can take a try .
• Philippines
12 May 10
My friend have tried several personality tests in facebook and have told me about the results. She said that the results are really correct with her type of personality---strong, smart, friendly, etc.. All the positive things in the world. It made her so happy about it that she subscribed and posted it on her profile. Thanks for the response!
@yumanal (143)
• China
11 May 10
In fact,I am grateful to those who have been gloating,encountered in practice when things and people,I think that something between friends,there is nothing,nothing not to mind ,happiness is very important do not live in ivory towers,to look at the far point,not to think much,I fear,are good for the world,more and more good pepople!
• Philippines
12 May 10
Thanks for the response!
• Canada
11 May 10
I found that ppl who tend to brag alot like that really are looking for acknowledgement. Most ppl say it's because they don't feel that good about themselves, but that's not usually it. they want recognition. for instance, my sister in law drove me completely nuts, going on and on about how long she stayed married for, how great she had it living in the country when everyone else in the family got divorced and lived the city life. finally i said to my hubby (her brother), will u please tell her how good she did for herself? so next time she came up, he did and she never mentioned it again. so i would try really listening to what she is saying, and then say it back to her differently. once she hears you say it she should stop. hopefully. but some ppl are needier than others and it may take sometime.
• Philippines
12 May 10
Hmmm...That's one good idea. Maybe I should try it next time she'll brag about things. I'm hoping to hear more from her after her vacation with her mom and sister. Good luck to me! LOL Thanks!
• Philippines
11 May 10
It's our responsibility to correct our friend even if it means hurting them in the process. There could be a lot of ways in sending the message across like writing down your thoughts so you can explain how her being "boastful" might annoy everybody if done repetitiously, another way is reprimanding her by trying to appear comical or less serious. I could sense that you're one good friend so you need not worry of what the possible outcome might be once you confront her in a gentle manner.
• Philippines
12 May 10
I really don't have the courage to tell her what I feel. I don't know, but as long as I can bear it, I think I just let her do her thing. But maybe time will come that I'll do what you think I should do. It's just not now. Thank you so much for your response!
• United States
10 May 10
A true friend would tell her exactly how they are feeling and ask her in a kind way to calm down on the boasting because if a person boast about what they have then it will be takin away because a person should not be boastful. so you should just be a real friend and explain your feelings.
• Philippines
12 May 10
That's true. I just don't have the courage to tell her that. Every time I feel tired of listening to her, I would lie to her that I'm busy or I've some errands to do just to have some time away from her. And this is also a technique to let whatever it is that she wants to talk about just pass. Thanks!
• Philippines
10 May 10
Maybe you should asked, and tell your friend honestly. If she is really a friend, then she will understand. And I think, you should take a stand already. Allow her to know the value of listening through you. You know, it is so much different when both are communicating vice versa. It will have a closer bond between you too. I bet, you are the silent type that is why she is taking all the effort to do the talking. And more so, I bet that you get used to it. She is really your super friend.
• Philippines
12 May 10
Thanks for your response!I'm not the silent type of person but I think she just knows that I'm a good listener.