What lier...

Philippines
May 10, 2010 10:37pm CST
you texted your boyfriend around one in the morning. you know that there are times that he is still awake at those times but he did not answer any of your messages. thought he had already went to bed ,so you stop texting and had your sleep. the next morning you got a message from him saying sorry that he fell out of sleep that day that's why he was not able to reply on any of your text messages. later that day you checked your boyfriends facebook account. looked into his messages and found out that he is too busy chatting that time with a gal he met at a gamer site. will you get mad and what will you do?
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@roxxtime (299)
• United States
11 May 10
Yep. I am a bit of an amateur private detective because of a previous ex and I'm slightly psychotic. Here is the best advice I can give before you tell him you broke into his facebook find out everything you can about her and him and their relationship. Would be also good to access his phone if possible (while he's showering or something) and find out what he has in that. Look at deleted emails. Mostly see how hard he is trying to cover his tracks. Then you gotta do what you think is right.
• Philippines
11 May 10
how can i recover his deleted emails anyway? i really im frustrated right now. im being so naive
@ada8may21 (2405)
• Philippines
11 May 10
Hello roxxtime, good day!!!I would like to asked you, what kind of program is that, that we can track the conversation or every messages that they sent. Kindly please let me know. I am interested to purchase it and how does it work. Do I have to install it to his computer or what? thank you
@roxxtime (299)
• United States
11 May 10
Look in his trash file and if it's not there then you cant. Is this a computer you use together? If so check cookies. If you use the same computer you can buy programs for less than $50 that spy on the computer and show every single thing he does or types on the computer and see every message sent or read and that is an awesome way to keep track. It's not that I believe in privacy invasion it's just that if they feel the need to know what's going on behind my back and if he's too chicken to let me in on it I will find out because I have more of a right to make an informed decision than he does to privacy. You are not naive you are hopefull. I will tell you what, if he didn't delete his trash for the email you probably don't have very much to worry about. I am the kind of person that if you don't tell me.... its a lie by omission and therefore it is cheating the physical aspect of cheating means nothing. If you had a conversation with another female and chose to lie about what you were doing than you have cheated but that's me some people don't think it is til the physical part is initiated. Does he know you have checked his FB? If not don't tell him till you have gathered all the facts. You want to have a strong case so you know what's going on and don't go in blind.
• China
11 May 10
I totally understand why u r mad, but i think everyone needs some space. maybe your BF did it too over ,, but give him a chance and tell him your feeling, if he still doing that just let him go that also can set u free
@viviya (88)
• China
11 May 10
I agree with cerkeevans.If you are falling in love with someone,of course you are a bit jealous. But tell him your feeling,giving both you a chance:be,or not to be.
• Philippines
13 May 10
i see. thanks for your advice.i appreciate it.take care.
@nixxi76 (3191)
• Canada
11 May 10
I would question him on why he lied about going to bed when you found messages writen back and fourth when he was suppose to be sleeping. How dare he lie to you and don't let him get away with it! You deserve better than that! Take care
• United States
11 May 10
Is this a serious relationship that you thought he was only seeing you? If so then I would confront him on how serious he felt your relationship is. That you know he was talking to another girl on this game site. While having this conversation what the physical actions see if you feel he is talking truth or smack. If you feel its been serious you should be able to tell by his physical reactions in your talk if he is serious with you or not. Then make a choice in what you want to do.
• Philippines
11 May 10
he said i shouldn't worry at all because that girl is already married. but hey how come they talk for so long and heck,till dawn? i think thath not right anymore.
@Cutie18f (9551)
• Philippines
11 May 10
If he has lied to you, then he will most likely do it again. Yes, I would get very angry for making a fool of me. If I were in your shoes, I would just junk him and look for another reliable boyfriend. He is not worth it. He is a big liar.
@markleob (1902)
• Philippines
11 May 10
hahahah i am not a girl but i can put my feet on your shoes.. if my girl would do that to me, of course i will be very very mad at her.. i am a bit jealous kind of person.. you have to confront him about it...
• Philippines
11 May 10
i appreciate that.. yeah im kinda jealous too.. i just dont give him the idea that im being too possessive or what. thanks alot. i can do it,right? oh gosh. i dont know to start talking to him about that issue.
@cream97 (29087)
• United States
11 May 10
Hi jacquiline. Yes, I would not only be mad, I would be so freaking furious! He lied to me and that is very bad on his part. Knowing me, I would copy word for word, every word that was said between him and this girl on paper. I would then show it to him and walk off. I would leave on the paper, Too busy chatting to be sleeping..
• United States
11 May 10
Facebook and other social networks unfortunately tend to stir up these kind of situtations and unfortunates but you have to see everything as a whole not just judge just by your half. If it is a serious relationship then you should try to see things things as clear as what it is and not on what you believe because this little issues can cause major problems and you may not got the outcome that you expect. It is obvious that your trust level for him is already on a thin line and well unfortunately for the most part our inner gut feeling is right but just make sure you have facts and you are not basing it off of assumptions because if you accuse and there is nothing there you lose and well that is not what you want. When any relationship fails it is because of two because that is what makes it and can break it.
• United States
11 May 10
Jacquiline: move on girlfriend and find someone who really wants you, because it's obvious that Mr. Loverboy is play'in the field and stringing you along.
@jennyze (7029)
• Indonesia
11 May 10
Oh, how I hate this kind of incidents. It happened to me before. I confronted him and gave him chances, but it happened again and again. So I decided to walk out. I told him: "You are now free to talk and date any girls you want. Hopefully, you can appreciate a relationship in the future." Oh, he tried to get back to me a couple of times. I just could not imagine myself got hurt again.
@Crizzack (42)
• United States
11 May 10
if it was my girlfriend and she was hiding that she was talking to another guy to me. Id be angered and you have every right to be too. I would call her out on it, but like roxxtime said, do those steps and try to gather more info on it. then confront him.
@ptzkoh (96)
• Philippines
11 May 10
of course i will get mad. i will talk to him, why he'll need to do that to me just for that girl. maybe she's no longer happy with me.