Which is most needed for a loving relationship, LOVE or TRUTH?

@sharay (2778)
India
May 11, 2010 8:53am CST
Dont they both go hand in hand, i am asking this because some people say, "since i love you so much and did not want to hurt you, i hid the truth from you", is this an acceptable excuse?
10 responses
@kedralynn (992)
• United States
11 May 10
My dad tries using this excuse. So has a few of my exes. Honestly I think it's a cop out. If you love someone, sure you don't want to hurt them. Sure you want to protect them. But rather than lie to them, maybe you should just NOT do something that would hurt them that way you don't even have to lie about it later because there's nothing to lie about.
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@sharay (2778)
• India
12 May 10
yes absolutely, when both person have true love between them, i dont think any truth can hurt, they would have the ability to withstand any storm when they face it together
• United States
13 May 10
Exactly :)
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• India
13 May 10
both r required for true love both form a vital part without which love cannot survive show true love n be open n true in all matters no hiding shd be der between lovers if one follows this his or her love will be successfull!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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@sharay (2778)
• India
13 May 10
Not only between lovers, i feel this quality should exist in all sorts of relationships, at least the ones which are close
@nangisha (3504)
• Indonesia
12 May 10
I think you love someone you should tell every thing to your one, even it will be the bad news for her. I personally handle the truth better if he told me in first place than I know myself or from others. So I can say that was unacceptable reason, he just wanna to get away from the problem. They should learn the truth will set you free.
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@sharay (2778)
• India
13 May 10
very truly said nangisha...that is exactly my point of view too
• United States
12 May 10
I think they should work together in life. I wish That people could be honest with each other at all times. I know I try to be when ever I am in tough spots.
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@sharay (2778)
• India
13 May 10
Good and continue to be the same always...
@Nicapol (67)
• United States
12 May 10
Not a good excuse. Love can only be real if there is complete trust, honesty, and understanding. In reality finding out someone lied would cause more pain than hearing the truth.
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@sharay (2778)
• India
12 May 10
Exactly Nicapol, more than the truth that is being revealed, the fact that they had hid that from us make a great impact
• United States
11 May 10
I think actual, deep love can't exist in the absence of truth. The example you gave above is actually, when you peel away the layers, selfishly motivated. What's typically meant is, "I didn't want to tell you because it might negatively affect me." Basically, what you don't know can't hurt me. The flip side of that is when somebody confesses a wrongdoing, not because the other person will benefit from knowing, but because it will absolve the guilty party of the guilt he or she feels. Both are equally offensive, and equally deceitful, and equally proof of the absence of love, in my opinion.
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@sharay (2778)
• India
12 May 10
i completely agree with your view
@sender621 (14956)
• United States
11 May 10
Lov is always found to be the strongest foundation to start a relationship with. Truth and honesty are important for the nurturing and growth of that relationship. Without love we would be lost souls and the world would be a very dreary place to be. We all need love!
@sharay (2778)
• India
12 May 10
yeah...very true
@alocure (372)
• United States
11 May 10
in my relationship be have both we love one another and trust each other were not always together we do our own thing every once in a while with our friends!. its important to have trust with out trust why do you love this person and with this person if you love them? and why love them and dont trust them what is the point? You must have both to build a healthy relationship!
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@sharay (2778)
• India
12 May 10
trusting is a different subject, i am asking about truthfullness, what is ur opinion on that?
• China
11 May 10
Yes sometime it's acceptable excuse. But not always. Both are important for peaceful and beautiful life.
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@sharay (2778)
• India
11 May 10
yeah...they both go hand in hand for a fruitful life
@hisoka147 (606)
• Philippines
11 May 10
I think that both of them should always go hand and hand as you stated because without love means there is no trust which is in relation about the truth. I don't believe on the phrase that you have mentioned although it is a common saying and examples are even portrayed on some movies. My reason is that it's better to tell the truth directly and I'm sure that everything will be just fine if there really a love in between.
@sharay (2778)
• India
11 May 10
Thats exactly what my view is...when there is pure love why fear of any sort of consequence right