Is being a work at home mom easy?

India
May 12, 2010 7:07am CST
I am a housewife and I have a kid. I am a freelance content writer. My in-laws were always against my stepping out of home and doing any job. Hence I was bound to choose a freelancing job. The job involves maintaining deadlines, sometimes working for the whole night, to be precise its equally taxing like a regular 9-5 job. Since I am at home, I have to look after my kid and take care of all the household chores as well. Hence at the end of the day I feel stressed out and exhausted. But I dont have any other option left. How many of u are going through this kinda problem? Any suggestions?
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16 responses
@dorannmwin (36608)
• United States
12 May 10
To be completely honest, there is nothing that is easy about being a work at home mother. I've been at home with my son since he was born three and a half years ago and I've only recently started trying to make some money from home. Based on all the reflection that I've done since Paul was born, I think that the best way to stay at home with him but to also be able to make money is to babysit from my home. That way he has someone to play with but the job isn't something that requires all hours of your life.
@Rysonia (310)
• United States
16 May 10
huh... that wouldn't be such a bad idea. Maybe after I get a little bit of money I can look into finding parents who have toddlers that need babysat. I could easily redo some things and make a few cheap purchases to make it doable... *makes a note of this*
@Rysonia (310)
• United States
16 May 10
My mother and I were roommates and shared her car until she moved out with little warning after I was laid off (they laid all of us off, economy they said). Sp now I am struggling to find jobs online that will pay, tending my daughter's needs, going with far to little sleep and hungry as hell but knowing I need to make the food last. I wish I had suggestions, I could use them as well.
• United States
13 May 10
Well, you could tell your in-laws you appreciate their input, but it's your life you are living, not theirs. That will probably cause World War III, but you might break free to do what you really want to do. However, working outside the home is no picnic either, when you have to come home and cook, clean, play with the children, put the children to bed, etc. The good news is, eventually you get an hour or two for yourself. If you stay home and work, as you said, you are also Mom and housekeeper during work hours and, since you are unable to concentrate until the children are in bed, your work day is extended, sometimes far into the night. Does that help anyone enjoy family life? My preference would be to work outside where I can concentrate fully on that job and then come home and fully concentrate on my family. But, you have to make the decisions as to what is right for you.
• China
13 May 10
It can be a very tough job to work at home, especially if you are a mom. All those household chores take up too much time and make you exhuasted at the end of each day. Besides, you're engaging in freelance writing which can be very time-consuming. I'm not a freelance writer anyway, but I often feel stressed out after finishing an article. So you're sure to be under great pressure as you need to follow strictly the instructions. I think you should decide by yourself and try to work out an appropriate way to balance your online job and your family.
@p3ks626 (6552)
• Philippines
13 May 10
I dont have a kid yet but when I would have one, I am going to stay at home and work at home as well. I think taking care of our kids is the most important thing for a mom to do, job is a second priority. I think you can still continue doing your job as a freelancer but you can lessen the number of hours so you will have more time for your child and balance your time so that you will still be able to do the things that you need to do.
@alexies29 (124)
• Philippines
13 May 10
Be proud of yourself because you still manage to earn money while doing household chores and taking care of your kid. I'm single and I don't have a child yet, and I sometimes complain of how stressful life is. I can't imagine being on your position. Keep on looking for ways to earn money online, and maybe soon I hope you can get a maid to take care of everything for you and your kid. Or if you don't want to get a maid, then try to manage your time effectively. Train your kid how to be independent, so that it won't be hard for you to take care of him while working.
@zralte (4186)
• India
13 May 10
Hi popeysen, I know what you mean. I am a work at home mom too, but not because I am pressured by anyone. I think you are a bit generous when you say 'it is equally taxing like a regular 9-5 job'. I think it's more taxing. That is, when you go out to work in a regular 9-5 job, you come home and you can relax. But when you work at home, your job is there, always. And yes, the household chores are jobs too. Try to take sometime out everyday, like 1 hour or so, just to compose yourself. Do whatever relaxes you, read book, watch TV, play with the kids, or whatever. And set boundaries with your in-laws, that when you work, you should not be expected to do the household chores. Try to have a normal working routine as in the hours that you do chores, and the hours you work to be paid, etc.
@qamarep (4453)
• Pakistan
12 May 10
if you can make much money to need your requirements then it is very good
@SomeCowgirl (32273)
• United States
12 May 10
I am not yet a mother but I do work from home. When my husband and I do have children I would like to be able to stay at home but I am not sure if that is a goal we will be able to accomplish. For now I am just trying to earn as much as I can to help with the bills, and if nothing else to save a little bit of as well. I can't imagine how stressful it is for you, but I do hope you can find a little bit of time to relax during the day, and I hope that the freelance jobs become easier and less demanding for you, so you can spend good time with your children and husband.
@amykok (14)
• Malaysia
12 May 10
Hi I am working mother.. Is really exhausted/tiring to take care kids. Either physically or mentally. I am suggested since you are not able to take care the baby or kids, you dont hired maid or send them for baby sitting. Not because we dont love or care them , just if realy cant cope up. Why need to force ourself. Everything has the solution and settlement.
@webzap (885)
• Philippines
12 May 10
I can feel what you feel since I can see my wife in you. Doing all the household chores that includes laundry, food preparation, taking care of the whole family of 5 and its not easy. Then in between she will sit in front of her computer and do her daily internet tasks and before she knew it, she's sound sleep in front of that machine. Stressful of course when deadline is approaching, tired and exhausted, but when morning comes, start of a new day and the same routine as well.
@chaime (1153)
• Philippines
12 May 10
I too am a work at home mom and like you, I also write freelance to add to our finances. Its not easy but what I do is try to make my work not my life. I mean, I don't work the whole night or something like that. Don't take on too much work. I usually write 10-15 articles a day, and that's it, I don't add anymore. I work at around 5am-7am, then take care of my family till around lunch time. Then work again when my kids take their afternoon siesta.. around 1pm - 4pm. If I still need to work I work at around 10pm-12mn. Then I go to sleep. That's generally my routine. It has worked for me. If you need more advice, and such please do contact me and I'll be glad to exchange ideas with you.
12 May 10
Hi Popeyesen, I know the feeling, I'm a grandmother now, but trying to earn a living while having young children was always a struggle. I am now a freelance writer and have to meet deadlines too. Last night I was still working at 3 in the morning,and had to be up this morning at 8 for editing a paper I wrote for someone. The good thing is it does get easier, as you get older, and things just slot into place. Just make sure that you find time for hubby and child, and your in-laws will eventually relax. Best wishes Mizzminky :)
@ifa225 (11098)
• Indonesia
12 May 10
i ever think about that. but i am not super mother. doing all that stuffs without any help from other would be very difficult. sometimes a mother have to choose -work or home? if your husband gives you enough money to live, then stop the job and doing all the chores. but if your husband salary is not enough then ask for some help from your mother or sister or neighbor to do the chores.
@kukaw27 (50)
• Philippines
12 May 10
I am a mother too..it's not easy to be a housewife mom. And on your situation a freelancer/housewife mom..wow! that's a bit tiresome right? But I do salute you and the moms out there for keeping all the jobs well done through out the day. That's the role of being a mother, you have to even if you dont want to.
• United States
12 May 10
Well I know what you mean. Really it is like any other change in the household, being that the first couple weeks are harder until everyone gets into a new routine. It does get better once you get past the pitfalls and figure out what works best for your family. I freelance write and I find articles and then I write them at the table while my kids do school work or are outside playing and don't really need me then I go on later at night when everyone is asleep to type up and send out the work i have done. I would rather relax at this time but it is really best for me to have the peace and quite to be able to edit my writings. Good luck with what you are doing.