Things people say about you... (in a bad way)

@Wizzywig (7859)
May 12, 2010 11:19am CST
What sort of things would bother you most? The way you look, the way you behave, the job you do... I would hate people to consider me to be lazy, uncaring, dishonest or a whiner, but I dont give a monkeys what they think of my clothes, hair, car etc. If I want to do something that is not harming anyone else, then I dont care if other people disapprove or think me weird or crazy. What would be the worst thing someone could say about you (apart from the obvious stuff like accusing you of crimes against people)?
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@oldchem1 (8144)
12 May 10
Likewise I don't car if they don't like the way I dress or look or about material things but I would hate for them to think me untrustworthy and uncaring
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@Wizzywig (7859)
12 May 10
Yes, those are the sort of things that would hurt deeply.
@laglen (19782)
• United States
12 May 10
I think my biggest weak spot as well as my greatest accomplishment, motherhood. Knocking my parenting hurts me most. Otherwise, I do well ignoring people.
@Wizzywig (7859)
12 May 10
... and NO-ONE is allowed to get away with speaking bad about our kids either, eh?People can criticise me but... not my sons or my mum!
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@laglen (19782)
• United States
13 May 10
well how could you speak badly about my daughter? she is perfect!
@Wizzywig (7859)
13 May 10
... as are my sons of course
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@Java09 (3085)
• United States
12 May 10
I have to say what annoys me that people say about me,is that I'm crazy or a nut job.They say that just because I'm on anti depressants,people talk to me like I don't understand whats going on.I hate being treated like that,I don't think it's very nice3 of them.People also talk bad about how I dress.Also how I speak.I pay no mind to their ignorance.I love to be unique.
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@oldchem1 (8144)
12 May 10
Be yourself and take no notice of them!!
@Wizzywig (7859)
12 May 10
I think its the people who call you names who are the ones who dont understand whats going on. I agree with oldchem - carry on being unique
@BarBaraPrz (20553)
• St. Catharines, Ontario
12 May 10
About the only thing that would really hurt is if someone accused me of being untrustworthy.
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@Wizzywig (7859)
12 May 10
yes, that would be something I wouldnt like either.
@kharlav (1672)
• Philippines
12 May 10
Hi there. Many people think that I am mean, that I look scary. They are afraid of me, especially the first time they meet me, because according to them, I look mean. Maybe its just because of the way I look. Sometimes, girls hate me, even if i didn't do anything to them, again, because of how I look. I am so, the opposite of how they see me, I am very shy and I don't get mad easily. They shouldn't judge the book by its cover.
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@Wizzywig (7859)
12 May 10
You are quite right - too many people judge on outward appearance only. Thats very shallow in my opinion. Some people were a bit scared of my brother because he was tall, had tattoos and piercings but he was a very calm, kind, easy-going, good-natured man.
@dawnald (84146)
• Shingle Springs, California
13 May 10
I wouldn't like to be considered stupid or be accused of doing something bad that I didn't do. I don't give a rats a** what people think about my appearance either or that I'm "weird" or eccentric or whatever...
@Wizzywig (7859)
13 May 10
Exactly - a false accusation is something no-one wants but those other things... yeah,i feel the same.
@sid556 (31005)
• United States
13 May 10
Hi Wizzywig, I have to say that someone questioning my integrity, honesty, parenting, etc would get my defenses up a little. Beyond that, people can say what they want. A lot depends also on who it is coming from. Some people just like to talk and there are some people that can say just about anything about me and it wouldn't bother me in the least. If it is someone that I respect and that means a lot to me then likewise, almost any negative opinion they might have of me would cause me to at least pay attention and consider if what they had to say might be valid.
@Wizzywig (7859)
13 May 10
Yes, who the comment comes from makes a big difference - some peoples opinions hold more weight than others. Thanks sid
• United States
13 May 10
asked me if i was male or female. but i just lost some weight and got a lot cuter.
@Wizzywig (7859)
13 May 10
Well, if you'd got cuter, maybe it wasnt that much of an insult??
• Philippines
13 May 10
if people say bad things about you and judge you as if they know you, remember this: the dog don't bark if knows the person. see you around mylotters.
@Wizzywig (7859)
13 May 10
A very good point... but I still wouldn't like to be thought lazy or dishonest even by people who dont really know me... tho' come to think of it, the people who DO know me wouldnt think it anyway... proving your point
@Ladyslipper (1330)
• Philippines
13 May 10
The worst thing that someone could say about me is that I don't have integrity specially when it has aomething to do with my work/ job. I value integrity a lot. It's something I consider very important. I always do eveyrything with integrity. I don't cheat just to compete. I always play fair. That's the reason it would hurt me so much if someone would tell me I don't have integrity.
@Wizzywig (7859)
13 May 10
I can understand that. There are a lot of people who have none and they are not to be admired!
• Philippines
13 May 10
I don't really care what people (those people I consider as "people" not friends and family), think of me. It is more important to me what I think of myself. I want to be happy of who I am and constantly think of ways of improving myself base on my standard I set for myself.
@Wizzywig (7859)
13 May 10
Exactly right. If we are happy with ourselves then "they" dont matter too much.
@weasel81 (2501)
• Australia
12 May 10
yrs ago i used to wear black knee high boots to school, before they cam back in fashion. it did go with what we wore as uniform, short skirt and black knee high socks. i know what people said behind my back but didn't care. but i'm waiting hear the local gossip, with what happened with me and the ex. but usually i don't care what people say. not much point in making mountains out of mole hills.
@Wizzywig (7859)
12 May 10
My mum always says "Whilst they're talking about me, they're not talking about anyone else". let 'em talk eh? (but i still wouldn't want to be thought lazy or dishonest)
@eileenleyva (10978)
• Philippines
12 May 10
I am sensitive enough and I easily get hurt by foul things people say about me. That is because I give no reason for others to criticize me. I am simple and honest and frank. I do not say bad things about other people. If there is some issue about someone, I confront the matter myself. I don't create rumors. So I don't like cheap talk either. If there is an issue about me, I'd like to be told personally.
@Wizzywig (7859)
12 May 10
Yes, I'd like to think that people would just be upfront and tell me if I had upset/offended them in some way. I know there is talk behind people's backs where I work but it is hardly ever malicious.
@raviudal (260)
• India
12 May 10
i love my life .............................................................. ............................................................
@Wizzywig (7859)
12 May 10
Glad to hear it - hope you continue to love it always.
• Iran
12 May 10
every time I didn't car about what people say about me.i believe it's not important,the most important thing is been a good person that can makes you good or bad not what people say just be the man who when think about him or herself feels happy and doesn't feel sorry. good luck
@Wizzywig (7859)
12 May 10
I think thats a great philosophy. If you are happy with yourself, then it really doesnt matter what other people say.