Does it hurt your feelings? they give you their e-mail, then NEVER respond!

@bunnybon7 (35933)
Holiday, Florida
May 12, 2010 1:09pm CST
I know this is going to sound silly but when you are practically a "shut-in" and most "visits" you get is through your pc e-mail it means a lot to communicate through e-mail. Ive had 6 on here give me their private e-mail. 4 of them communicate regularly 2 refuses to answer even one e-mail also on another forum i have one that does the same thing. So, i think, did i say something wrong? Have i done something? I mean whats up with just saying/replying with yes im getting your email but have been really busy? or I dont reply to emails, i just like getting them...lol! Anyway, it shouldnt bother me but it hurts my feelings. I didnt even ask them for their email, they just gave it...Whats it about? what do you think causes this? does it hurt your feelings or just make you mad?
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• Philippines
13 May 10
hahaha yeah.. email and mobile. better not to give than not to respond.
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@bunnybon7 (35933)
• Holiday, Florida
14 May 10
thats exactly what im saying. you got it right civic..
@SViswan (12072)
• India
13 May 10
I don't know why that happens and why they give you their email ids if they don't intend to reply. One reason could be that they've given you their personal id which they don't check quite often. Used to happen to me when I was working and I would check my personal account like once a month and then I had quite a lot of emails to respond to....and it would probably take more than a day to respond. Honestly, I've got too much on my hands to think about personal emails....sometimes I wish there weren't people emailing me at all...lol
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@bunnybon7 (35933)
• Holiday, Florida
14 May 10
you mean it could be a case of "biting off more then you can chew, huh"? guess you are right and it shouldnt bother me. i didnt look at it that way.
• United States
12 May 10
I wouldn't say hurt feelings, but maybe disappointed some. I am not a 'shut in' but I really spend a lot of time on here and enjoy the topics and conversation. I like the 'visits' and look forward to them. I give all my friends my cell # and tell them if they want me they can always call the cell # cause I am probley on line. My husband hasn't said anything yet about this new hobby and I sure spend more time doing this then I do 'house work!' I enjoy the ones that I consider 'friends' (like you!!) I have given my email out to very few. I don't care for all the forwards. I had a relative that was ALL I ever got from her...as you can tell I am more the 'chatti' person. I have some emails I forward but they are really cute and it is very few. I was on another site and I thought I conversed real well with this person and then she disappeared. I found it disappointing. There were a few others on there that it was the same way but I don't think it was anything I said...at least I hope it wasn't.....
@bunnybon7 (35933)
• Holiday, Florida
12 May 10
yes you just wonder why? i have some on here that we forward info to each other, jokes, what not. and when one asks a specific question or wants to vent, im there with a reply. if they asked me not to send certain things any more like political, religion, i dont. im fine with that. i enjoy the difference in my friends. makes them interesting to me. i have one lady thats been an email friend for 12 yrs or so. we met on a forum thats long gone by now. we seldom do much but email, forward fun things. about once or twice a year we will email in depth about our lives. now thats what im talking about. !!
• United States
12 May 10
I have a couple friends that send me political and I don't pass it on. Some of it I don't even agree with. Some religion ones I pass on it just depends on how I feel about it. I am really enjoying the conversations here. thanks!
@bunnybon7 (35933)
• Holiday, Florida
12 May 10
you are welcome. iam also enjoying this. it seems i have a couple of friends i cant send certain things and thats fine. i only forward to friends i know will be interested.
@celticeagle (117872)
• Boise, Idaho
12 May 10
I am sorry this type of thing is happening to you.People are very selfish and self-centered now days. It is sort of a 'Let's do lunch' thing now days I think. And yes, people are really busy now days as well. They may not understand your loneliness and that you are reaching out the hand of friendship to them. Ofcourse it hurts your feelings. Yes, it does hurt my feelings at times too. I think I have found an interesting person that I would like to learn more about and they don't care to communicate. I think it is just one-minded people. PM me anytime and I WILL return your emails. OK?
@bunnybon7 (35933)
• Holiday, Florida
12 May 10
awwww, dear friend. its not nesisarily being lonely. its the principle with me i think. it feels like when you meet someone on the street that you know. you speak a minute. then next time you see them you say hello and they walk away without a word? you wonder, are they being rude for a reason? did you do something? or they didnt hear you? what? you know then you worry. is it me?
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@celticeagle (117872)
• Boise, Idaho
12 May 10
Yes, the principal of the thing for sure! I try to live by the golden rule and so I know within myself that I probably didn't do anything but that the person is just not someone I want to spend time with because they obviously do not prize a good friend and are not respectful of me and who I am.
@bunnybon7 (35933)
• Holiday, Florida
13 May 10
thanks richnai. arent you the sweetie.
@MsTickle (24962)
• Australia
17 May 10
It does hurt my feelings a little but I'm so used to people rejecting my friendship or love, people who are insincere and full of bull, I just push things to one side and try not to notice. It doesn't make me mad. Several months ago I received a PM from someone on my friend list who had responded to a discussion. This person gave me their email and said if I ever needed to talk, blah, blah, blah. I added this person to my address book and gave them my email. From time to time I would forward emails to this person along with others in my address book. I never received any email from them in return. The other day, nearly a week ago, I sent a pm and gave the person a nudge and they said they would be in touch. I gave them my addy again and still nothing. I sent emails to them and still nothing. What am I supposed to think??? I'm prepared to give people the benefit of the doubt but when you keep reminding them and they continue to ignore you.....wtf?
@bunnybon7 (35933)
• Holiday, Florida
18 May 10
exactly. thats just what has happened to me with 3 different people on 3 different sites. so im just going to write them off as a no show and say oh well, their loss i have a couple of old friends i regularly email and they respond. likely all i need right?, bon
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@MsTickle (24962)
• Australia
18 May 10
Life is often sending one of those times when you need to cross someone off your friend list. Yes, it hurts but you did your bit and so it's them who lose out and them who have the problem. Rejoice for the friends you DO have and forget the others. Ta for BR.
@gabs8513 (48717)
• United Kingdom
12 May 10
Hi Bunny Yes it would upset me and I do not understand why they gave you their Email and are not responding back to you I mean I felt awful the other Day as a Friend had written to me but it went to my Spam Folder and should not have done I am sorry this is happening to you I know I can take a couple of Days to reply lol but I always reply Hugs
@bunnybon7 (35933)
• Holiday, Florida
12 May 10
me to. many times i dont check my other e-mails. i have 3. for different reasons so i dont load this special one with a lot of emails. so i may take a couple days to answer on one. But after 2 or 3 months? you think maybe they got upset about something and is just not telling you? i really dont know. im in the dark here as i didnt even ask for their email. and in my Good old days group, one lady popped up and gave me her email asking me if id like to arrange accepting a package of audio books she wanted rid of. again, we were just discussing books and i mentioned i love audio books but couldnt afford buying a lot any more. in the forum, she made a big deal of offering. then, she dont even answer. wonder if this is just a ploy to get my email?
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@gabs8513 (48717)
• United Kingdom
12 May 10
Well Sweetie it certainly sounds like it was I just get annoyed at People like that I really do You are a lovely Person and do not deserve this Hugs
@dragon54u (31605)
• United States
12 May 10
I don't think it would hurt my feelings. I get emails from people that are just forwarding jokes or stuff and I don't reply to those because I don't think they expect it. Maybe you're forwarding stuff without any "hello, how are you?" or something? Maybe they don't think you expect a reply? Don't let it bother you, just concentrate on friends that you exchange emails with and forget the rest!
@bunnybon7 (35933)
• Holiday, Florida
12 May 10
yes i can understand not answering or responding to forward jokes, etc. sorry about that. but when someone says e-mail me, i'll be there for you and you e-mail with "hi, how are you?" and they dont even say anything. then you do it again and say, "are you getting my e-mails?" and they dont even say, yes, im fine. then you wonder....why did they give it to me at all? You at least have replied. and iam sorry if ive sent to many jokes, etc. forgive me?
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@dragon54u (31605)
• United States
12 May 10
There are NEVER too many jokes in life!! You've given me a lot of smiles. I generally don't reply to forwards, though, as I'm usually pressed for time. If you've emailed these people with hellos, etc., and they haven't replied just write them off, so to speak. There are tons of other friends that you can share things with!
@dorannmwin (36698)
• United States
15 May 10
No, it is quite frustrating when you put all of your time and thought into writing a person and sharing a big part of who you are with them to never hear from you again. It really makes you wonder what there reasoning was for sharing their email address with you in the first place. Are they trying to get something out of you or what is the reason. That said, I can completely see why you are frustrated by the situation.
@bunnybon7 (35933)
• Holiday, Florida
15 May 10
there you go. that was the word i really should have used. FRUSTRATED...thats the right word. thanks.
• United States
15 May 10
some people are just like that.i know a couple of people who never respond to questions,even a "how you doing",and yet they send me jokes,videos and chain mail all week.i don't get them. the one i'm actually thinking of blocking at this point,because i'm tired of them blowing up my box with junk every day.
@bunnybon7 (35933)
• Holiday, Florida
17 May 10
i know what you mean. ive had those also. but i usually just scan through and look at what sounds interesting. but then i might have more time then most.
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@ElicBxn (60834)
• United States
14 May 10
I'm sorry you are practically a shut in and that these people don't respond. I have to say that I don't give out my email because I'm notorious about not responding to things... I don't respond to forwards and don't forward them. I seldom reply to those survey things - like "answer in one word" or "four things about me" so, no, if they don't respond, I assume they are like me, over worked and over tired and just forget about them... Some times, if I know they are those kinds of things I won't even open them - I know, boring! I have enough trouble keeping up with mylot and now they've thrown facebook into the mix and I check over there a few times a week meanwhile, I think I'll take my meds and think about bed...
@bunnybon7 (35933)
• Holiday, Florida
15 May 10
well i hope you get a nice rest. anyway, i still dont get the reason for giving out the email address without being asked. i never do that. as i already have a ton of responding email friends. i was just being nice by even responding to these 3 people. so they should not be rude back.
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@ANTIQUELADY (36489)
• United States
13 May 10
HI BON, i know what u mean. It doesn't make me mad or even hurt my feelings but it does make me wonder why. Same thing on mylot. People ask u to be their friend & u never hear from them again.
@bunnybon7 (35933)
• Holiday, Florida
15 May 10
yes that has always been my problem with most social sites. at least here most of the people have to respond to some of our gabber or they dont get paid.
• India
13 May 10
well in simple words everyone can't be the same. Some get themselves excited in situations share their emails and then get themselves blocked up in busy life. Some are there who give mail id's just for time pass especially for girls. Some really don't have time. so see to which category the person belongs
@bunnybon7 (35933)
• Holiday, Florida
15 May 10
its obviously the "to busy" category, but just the same, 2 things. 1. if they are to busy, then dont go around giving out your email, as you already get to much e-mail! 2. at least be kind enough to respond back and say, sorry, ive been busy, but getting your mail.
@sulynsi (2838)
• Canada
13 May 10
just a thought, bunny, probably not true in every case, but my email, that I've had for over a decade just recently got some sort of virus and I can't receive any incoming messages on it. It's a hotmail account and I know others that have also been affected. first they stole my contact list and spammed people on it with garbage and now, I can't even use my email and I've lost some important info
@bunnybon7 (35933)
• Holiday, Florida
15 May 10
thats terrible, but mine is a yahoo account and thats where they've been avoiding me. also, this hasnt happened yet with yahoo and they have yahoo accounts also
• Philippines
13 May 10
like what you've said since i dont asked for their email then why they will get angry if i didnt reply as they cant control nor hold my mind. unless i asked for their email and they gave it and i didnt reply. besides its a form of spamming like spamming around for your email, i dont tolerate them and most of the time i just deleted them, unless those are from my friends who informed me that they will send me email information about a certain person or a certain things but then they must not expect me or anyone to just comply with them. if i received invitation i will go for it if im interested but if not then i will not, as i said they cant just comply what they really want as we have our mind to follow so why hurt their feelings anyway.
@bunnybon7 (35933)
• Holiday, Florida
14 May 10
uumm, i guess. not sure if you understood my meaning here. I didnt give them my e-mail vulontarily. they gave me theirs without my asking. then they act like they dont want to reply. this same thing has happened with 3 people on different sites. im just saying why do they give it?
@airakumar (1555)
• India
13 May 10
Never. I don't feel hurt for this. If someone gives me email and never respond, it doesn't mean, I will be sad or I am hurt. I too give my emails to so many people but never sent mail. I sent mails only when required. I know each and every persons in today's world is so much busy and had no time to do additional things. We mail each other when there is something very urgent or some news to share. I do get many forwarded mails each day but I never response to that mail.
@bunnybon7 (35933)
• Holiday, Florida
14 May 10
well i can understand that, but are you saying if someone puts in their subject line, "are you getting my e-mails?" you would not even bother to say/reply "yes, but very busy right now"? only takes a second, airakumar!!
@Hatley (164670)
• Garden Grove, California
13 May 10
hi bunnybon7 yes I think its really rude as they can always say please dont email me or I have been very busy sorry but I will call you or email you later. My friend Nelda and I try to stay in contact every week day,she from her job and me here in my room. I know she has to eaitt til break time or her lunch hour. But LIke you I am partly handicapped and do not get out so her emails mean a lot to me.And she always lets me know if she is really swamped at work so then she will phone me from home.No I think its rude not to answer ones emails, and no excuse for it either.
@bunnybon7 (35933)
• Holiday, Florida
14 May 10
exactly. and all i ever really expect, when you deliberately give me your email without even being asked is them to say, im fine or yes..very busy right now, but am getting your emails. not a hard task? right?
• Philippines
12 May 10
i think it would hurt me a bit if my message is important then she will reply. but i also think that she's not in the mood sending emails so i just let her explain why she didnt reply.
@bunnybon7 (35933)
• Holiday, Florida
13 May 10
thats the problem. not even saying, yes i got your email. no time. you know?
@Opal26 (17691)
• United States
12 May 10
Hi bunny! I know that I am bad sometimes myself about writing emails. I love to get them too, but sometimes it takes me awhile to sit down and write them because I hate to write them when I'm really depressed which lately is alot of the time. I have a few unanswered ones sitting in my box right now and I feel terrible that I haven't responded to them, and one was serious and should have been answered at least short if nothing else! So, please don't be mad at me if I haven't written to you! You know I love you and right now am just not myself. I will try to write you a private email to let you know what's going in the next few days. Love, Leslie
@bunnybon7 (35933)
• Holiday, Florida
13 May 10
Hi dear. so glad to see and hear from you. sorry im such a needy friend i know you've been going through a lot. dont expect a long e-mail. just a yes, im getting them. no time now. you know, that sort of thing. although it would be nice to know if you are ok also. i try not to be nosey. as ive went through all that stuff similar to yours before. know how much you need support. i was in many different forums when i found out and was going through all the pain and surgery, etc. not even sure if you've had to have surgery. but im here for you if you want to talk.
• Switzerland
12 May 10
Well my situation is another. I have given my e-mail to my friends or ex-classmates from German course. Then until now, even if I have sent lot of messages, they seemed not to reply. I do not know why. I even respond in German so they can understand really the text. But still I never get any answer up to now. I feel upset. Hoping they will be replying soon.
@bunnybon7 (35933)
• Holiday, Florida
12 May 10
see. you poor kid. im glad to see im not the only one in the dark about this. thats very sad that they cant just say, hey, ive been busy. im fine, how bout you? right? imsure you dont expect to hear their lifes story or inner most secrets, nor want to tell them yours, but just hi. glad to hear from you.
@Cherryd41 (1121)
• United States
12 May 10
Hi Bunnybon7 Nope wouldn't hurt my feelings at all goodness knows their are enough people here on MYLOT from all over the world to chit chat with and you have to understand that people are people and if they are the type who don't respond to emails then thats just whats going to happen besides sometimes it could be that they are out of town or unable to get online for whatever reason or in some cases like myself I just plain forget Some people have such busy days and have a lot of other things on their agenda and other online activities they are involved in and can't keep up sometimes with the demands of emails. But none the less don't take it personally I sure don't
@bunnybon7 (35933)
• Holiday, Florida
12 May 10
you sure have the right attitude. ive been telling myself that same thing for months but it just keeps bugging me and popping up in my mind. like i said, im just being silly and i know that but still cant help but wonder.