beauty or brains or personality?

@pierrella (1087)
Philippines
May 14, 2010 8:16am CST
When choosing a partner, which is more important? Beauty, brains or personality? I've seen a lot of people falling in love with a person because he or she is good looking. But I think, aside from the looks, it is also important that your partner has the brains and personality that will match yours. You have to get along well, otherwise, the relationship will be useless. If I were to pick one, I'd probably choose personality. If you were to choose only one, what will it be?
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• Philippines
15 May 10
Yes personality counts. When i have a crush, for sure before I developed a crush on him i find him first very attractive. I am attracted first to the physical appearance, even the way they wear their dress. But when I got to know this individual and I found out that their lacking of sense or substance, I get turned off and I will never like that person again. Person with such an average face but with personality and intelligence, became handsome or beautiful for me. their beauty is their personality itself. Its hard to stay for longer hours on person without substance, like they only know how to brag about themselves but when you asked about what is happening on Earth, they will give you a clear eye. I prefer personality because I based on the way they think. And I believe on beauty internally.
@gunagohan (3414)
• India
15 May 10
But, u first said that u get attracted by the physical looks in the first sight.. So ur attracted by the physical looks , so u don't look for an average person.. There is no probability in choosing an average person on their brain and personality..
• Philippines
17 May 10
I got attracted by physical looks at first, if this person is a friend of a friend I will have a chance to get to know this person I am attracted on external, but if it is not impossible to know him, I will just like him but I will never engaged in relationship with him. I get attracted on external but once I know his personality if it is good then I will continue to like him, but if not, then we do not have a future.
• Philippines
15 May 10
I would probably stick with personality. Since I'm going to be with the person for a long time, assuming that we would get married, then I think personality is one to go for. Beauty would fade, and brains, well, we can train someone to be more brainy. Hehehe. But personality is the person itself, and it's hard to tell someone to change their personality. LOL. Anyway, I like guys who are easy-going and who loves to have fun. I don't think I would ever go out with a guy, no matter how gorgeous he is, if he's really boring and we don't have anything to talk about because he doesn't have any hobbies at all. hehehe.
• Philippines
16 May 10
Thanks Pierrella! hahaha. I know what you mean, sometimes, my guy keeps on talking about UFC stuff, that I don't really get, and I just smile at him pretending to listen. Hahahahaha.
@pierrella (1087)
• Philippines
16 May 10
haha! I don't know anything about UFC either :)) My boyfriend's taking up law and he always talk about law stuff. I told him to talk about it moderately... up to the point that will interest me haha!
@pierrella (1087)
• Philippines
15 May 10
Good luck with your relationship. I hope it'll last forever :) I also love guys who are fun to be with. Actually, even if they don't have any hobby, as long as they can carry a conversation, I'm okay with it. Sometimes guys talk too much about their passion and it bores the girl. lol!
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@gunagohan (3414)
• India
15 May 10
Well to say actually and truly, i look only for a beautiful lady.. I don't mind her brain or personality.. I need a good looking girl with good attitude who understands me.. I'm already an average looking boy, no good girls will look at me by any chance, they all search for white boys, whenever i cross by they just ignore me..
@pierrella (1087)
• Philippines
15 May 10
hi gunagohan! don't feel down. I believe there is someone out there for everybody. Some people look beyond looks and you can see them right here in this thread. Most people look for good personality and for someone who can communicate with them well. So don't lose hope :)
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@rinzgca (316)
• Philippines
15 May 10
The girl who will love you for who you are and how you look will come. Not all the girls prefer white people. Oh, and by the way, if you're brown skinned, such qualities are hot to some white women, on the other hand. So, don't lose hope!
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@umabharti (3972)
• India
15 May 10
hi,choosing a partner seeing the personality,brains or good looking these are j4ust dont much importance.If the person with good personality is daily hurting u do u like to be with him/her.If the person is good looking and always says that u are below his standards would u like to live happily with such7 person.if the very intelligent brains always says u r a fool would u love to be with him /her.Love is what u need to make and be in relation.
@pierrella (1087)
• Philippines
15 May 10
Actually those qualities are more of a preference or sometimes we can call it a dream :) But yes, I believe that good looking people and/or smart people might have the tendency to look down on his/her partner especially if his/her partner is not as smart or as good looking as him/her.
@rinzgca (316)
• Philippines
15 May 10
I would also choose personality. You know, with a great personality a person could start to look good-looking or appealing. On the other hand, if the person really looks bad, well, there's always surgery so you can improve it. A bad personality will be hard to correct or change. On the brainy side, you don't really need a brainy partner unless you prefer brainy people. It is the personality that would make the relationship last.
@pierrella (1087)
• Philippines
15 May 10
Plastic surgery is so popular everywhere right now. And yeah, it can do miracles so there's nothing to worry about :)
• Philippines
15 May 10
My friends say I'm a very choosy girl. They say I have too high standards that's why up until now I don't have a boyfriend but I could see nothing wrong with it. Anyway, if I were to choose only one, I'd say I would want to choose brains. I'm not a smart girl so I need one to support my weaknesses.
@pierrella (1087)
• Philippines
15 May 10
Don't rush, the right guy will come :) You'll learn a lot from smart people.
• Philippines
16 May 10
Sure I won't. Thanks
• Philippines
14 May 10
If I can tell my heart who to choose, I will probably choose Personality. Well... good personality. It doesn't matter how intelligent the person is, personality is more important to be likable. If you have the good attitude people will respect you and that is important to me.
@sender621 (14894)
• United States
15 May 10
When we first meet someone all we can see is their beauty. We know nothing about the person inside. Once we get to know this person, we discover their intellect. You can have beauty or brains or both. If you are lacking personality, you are missing a huge part of life. Personality is what rounds you out as an individual. This is what makes you shine to others.
@ebuscat (5935)
• Philippines
15 May 10
For me personality because if you love someone you feel beautiful and the brains is more important to have the ability to work.
@Tangeryne (412)
• India
15 May 10
Hey Pierrella, I would say brains. I , like any human is natural attracted to good looking people and so I would stare and observe the person but what truly impresses me is a person with brains and substance. What good is a beautiful/handsome person with a great personality but is brainless(figuratively speaking off course). Looks do not last forever, just for a few years but what the person is- characteristics, traits all this matters at the end of the day!
• China
15 May 10
actually,i will choose brains. u know,my boyfriend has good looking and a nice personality,but we donot communicate much. because we are not at the same intellectual level.often it is boring to talk to him.
@pierrella (1087)
• Philippines
15 May 10
lol! Well, that's true. Especially when you like to talk about current events and issues or maybe politics, your boyfriend must be able to catch up with the conversation.
• Indonesia
14 May 10
I agree with you. If a asked to choose one, i prefer to choose personality.Good personality can reduce or eliminates disputes in our relationship. Someone with good personality will easily make friend with anybody, include our family. People like that will make me feel peaceful. Actually i love people who has three of them, so i tried looking for the best that will fill my life someday.
@ellepor (28)
• Philippines
15 May 10
PERSONALITY is the most important aspect in choosing a partner. what is the use of beauty if his/her heart is like a rock? and if her brain is empty? what is the use of his/her brain if she/he acts as if everyone is inferior from him/her? if a person has good personality, it doesn't matter if she/he doesn't look good, because the way she'll treat others, will surely capture everyone's heart.
• Philippines
15 May 10
for me, its personality. whats the point of being pretty or being smart if your attitude are bad. i mean, anyone can handle people who are pretty and smart, but having a bad personality is very difficult to understand and soon, you'll just end up arguing... :)
@pierrella (1087)
• Philippines
15 May 10
I agree :) I hate people who are arrogant and think highly of themselves. If that's the case, they will not listen to you and they'll explain things like they are the only right people in the world.
@poohgal (6845)
• Singapore
14 May 10
Personality is the most important. It's tough to hang out with a person with bad personality. Brain is also important as we must at least be able to communicate at the same intellectual level. I don't think looks is that important. So long as the person looks ok, I think it's fine.
@kezabelle (2974)
14 May 10
For me its personality if I had to choose out of the above three. But really their moral values are more important to me that in general they are just a good and decent person thats more important to me.