teacher and student friendship..

Philippines
May 14, 2010 8:35am CST
well, we had just watched some movie late this afternoon. and since i don't have any friend to be with me, i brought along my student who happens to be my neighbor at the same time as well. then, we just did hanged out, and we were there. well, there were still some limitations among and between us. i used to be his teacher last semester, and i just make friend with them. hmm. how about you, are you in favor with this?. that your student will be your friend as well, the one who will be by your sided and face life.. such an irony. but then, we are of the same age bracket i think.. i thanked him so.. any comments?..
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14 responses
@manojt2 (179)
• India
15 May 10
Hi, It nothing wrong in having a friendship with your student. And no issues about the age factor. In fact, I have made some friends as my teacher and even my cousin who is 20 years older than me is teaching me C++. We are in friendly terms too. Its OK as far as you don't cross the line. I hope you understand what I mean to say.
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• Philippines
14 May 10
You should have told us Jing so Merel and I can go too hehehe. Seriously, there is nothing odd about it. Since the person was your student before, then there is no more issue about it. Usually, during the time when he is still your student, there should be a line between the two of you for the sake of delicadeza. As teachers we want to avoid the negative impression of students like the possibility of having favoritism. Now that he is not anymore your student, it is all fine.
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• Philippines
15 May 10
Haha, you both are nowhere. Aw. Hehe, we happened to be neighbors too. Then we watched. And the movie house was filled with people te. Iron man 2 is really doing well. But when you are to watch it, you will have the same feeling as us. It was a bit of less action and more of talking. Then, if you will bring your kids, if you have, I think they will fall asleep because the storyline is so long but funny. But I wonder why the crowd was so silent. Then there was the action and fight scenes. It was really less. Hehe.. it ended with, ‘mao ra to?” aw. Hehe.. sige, next time. Where are you this days? Nia pa maan ko iligan uip..
@rinzgca (317)
• Philippines
15 May 10
Yeah, I don't think there's anything wrong there too. Especially since you said he's not your student anymore. I happen to think that for some students, it's good that you come off as a friendly person and not as a terror teacher so that they would have more motivation to come to you for consultation on the subject. Hmm. In college, I was part of the varsity and of course there were people there that were older than me. One of these people graduated and started teaching. He didn't become my teacher but he did become the teacher of some of my team mates. They still hang out and play chess and computer games together. I guess, the point is that, it's ok as long as work is not affected.
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@charylady (424)
• Philippines
15 May 10
so he is no longer your student now. i don't find anything wrong with being friends with former students.
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• Philippines
14 May 10
I was a college instructor for 3 years. Most of my students are my age if not older than I am. I start teaching when I was 22. A lot of students who wants to befriend me. And since I am friendly by nature, I so hang out with my students. Sometimes I invite them to my place and do some stuff like watch a movie, play some games. We also go out sometimes hang out to their house and some others. But I agree that their should be limitations to that. I always remind them that once I am in school, I am their teacher. And when we are not in school they can consider me as friend friend or their older brother. And they love me for that. So for me their is nothing wrong with that.
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@charmeyn (83)
• Philippines
14 May 10
there's nothing wrong with it as long as its stays as a teacher and student friendship and nothing more than that. In my case, I have a close bond with some of my professors and treat me as their little sister. :)
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@Okebals (110)
14 May 10
i think its not bizarred in any sense.
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@twowizdom (861)
• Philippines
14 May 10
hi there jingbautista, on my point of view there really isn't anything wrong about a teacher and his students being friends though some people (other people from school like faculty&staff members) take this kind of relationship inappropriate. Well based on my experience, I also had some teachers who were really close to their students and because of this it got them in trouble. Some examples were like my teacher before when i was in HS. She was really close to her students and we really like her and shes really kind. Then since we are really close to her she would casually talk to us about life at work and their home, stuffs like real friends do. And she mentioned that because of her closeness to her students some of the teachers are getting mad at her, backstabbing her and stuffs because of what she's doing. We really felt bad for her cause we know that there really isn't anything wrong about making friends. Then the other example was like my professor in college last year. He was also really kind just like my teacher in HS and he really get along with his students and its a great thing cause college is hard enough so it would be great if there are professors like him who could light up the load and pressure of college life. And so just like what happened to my HS teacher the same thing happen to him only this time it was really gone that bad that he had to resign and quit his job. Now hes currently teaching in another university because of that but even though hes not with us anymore he still keep in touch with his former students. I guess the only reasons that the other teachers were treating my oh so kind teachers is because they're just jealous because they were able to capture the hearts of their students while other teachers are really hated by students.
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@gerald_lian (2193)
• Australia
14 May 10
I think a student hanging out with his or her teacher (eg. watching a movie, going for dinner) is fine, as long as each of them know their boundaries and not go over the limit. Anyway, both of you are in the same age bracket and both of you are neighbours, so I don't see any reason for you two not to hang out together if you wish to. I myself have hanged out with my teachers once in a while when I was still in school, and everything was OK. Even my parents obliged to it. So I don't think you should be feeling guilty for inviting your student/neighbour over.
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• India
20 May 10
Well there is no harm in it, i have taught in colleges for over 40 years, many of my exstudents and their spouses are our family friends, even now they respect me and my wife, some are close to my kids... Thanks for sharing. Welcome always. Cheers. Prof
@ivychan (15)
• China
15 May 10
Certainly teachers can be the friends of the students.Though Students are younger than you and maybe experence less than you, but you can also learn things from them,for example,the different ideas to the society and the passion of young~~
@don_naces (464)
• Philippines
15 May 10
There is nothing wrong with teacher-student friendship as long as both of you know your limits. Friendship is not a question of who that person is. One important thing to be remembered in teacher-student friendship is respect between the two of you. I mean in school, you are his teacher but outside the school, you are his friend.
@xeroeight (1061)
• Philippines
15 May 10
In my opinion as fresh graduate there's nothing wrong with hanging out with my teacher, as long as nothing bad will happen, me and some of my classmate also hangout with our teachers, and now we all graduated we still invite our teacher in our reunion or any event's we have, sadly teacher really have a busy schedule, but still having a great bond with teachers and student is one of the best thing can happen in our elementary, high, school and college life.
@jajabugz (72)
• Philippines
15 May 10
Well its a good relationship so nothing's wrong with that. Not all the time you are a teacher to your student, most of the times they are also your teachers. You owe a lot from them and of course they owe a lot from you. A little appreciation is needed. No need to feel superior from the other. It should be Equal in many ways. Nobody should abuse the other, cause if they did then that's the wrong part! They learn from you, you learn from them. It's a give and take relationship, it's like any other relationship. The difference is its exclusive from school or classroom.