just when you least expect it......Surprise!!!!

United States
May 14, 2010 11:27am CST
Well it never fails.....when life is going rough, things are tight and you are living paycheck to paycheck and wondering how you are going to make it through the next month... life has a way of throwing more at you!!! My husband and I have been dealing with less money coming in, just getting by and we have 2 kids, a slow economy that isnt showing much of a rebound in our area and now we have recently found out we have another baby on the way...... oh and I didnt mention, not only did we think we were done having kids but I am going to be 39 this year.... so I am almost 40 and starting over with a new baby. We have gone through the "oh my gods" and "it will all work out"....to now I am 3 months and started going to the doctor appts....it was a shock to us but we are getting further along and starting to get into the "ok, we can handle this and things are going to be fine". Have you had a big "shocking" thing happen to you lately....just when things are getting by to... oh boy now this too....??? How are you dealing with it??
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@basqui (3892)
• Philippines
15 May 10
Oh, congrats on the baby on the way! That could turn out as a menopausal baby or something it was called, not sure really. Just be thankful of what God is giving you and be brave to conquer all trials that comes in the way.
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• United States
20 May 10
thank you, it was shocking at first but now I am almost 4 months and we are getting excited and starting doctors appts and our parents are getting excited as well. We said from the beginning somehow things will work out and that our kids were not planned or at least we werent trying and we said if it happened it would work out...so we are living proof that it has and we will continue to do so as well. thank you for the response and have a great day!!
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@basqui (3892)
• Philippines
21 May 10
Hope you'll have a healthy baby for you mom. congratulations again!
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@much2say (34578)
• United States
15 May 10
Neat - congratulations! I haven't had a shockeroo like that happen to me, but I did want to comment about the age thing. I had my first at 36 and I just had my second at 41. We are all a-ok! My oldest one is 5, so having a baby was like starting over. But the cool thing is, I was able to give a lot of my time to my oldest . . . and as she will be going to kindergarten soon, I will be able to give my second one more of my time. It helps that the oldest one isn't so needy with me and that she can actually be helpful with the baby. So for me, I feel it all worked out having this age gap. If you're getting the feel that things will be fine . . . chances are it WILL be fine. In just a few short months, you'll see that baby and see it's the best thing that ever happened to your family (again - hee hee). Congrats again!
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• United States
20 May 10
thank you... and it does seem to all work out and since my son is going to be 7 this summer,and my daughter just turned 2, and we just got her off the bottle and soon to be out of diapers... so hopefully just the baby will be in diapers so I only have one to deal with at a time...LOL thanks for the response and have a great day!!
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@tessah (6638)
• United States
15 May 10
reading yer discussion put this song into my head and i wanted to share it http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Geg6_-3jPzI yes.. ive been "surprised" by life.. and ive learned there is a reason for everything.. even if we dont know what that reason is. all i can say is all will be as it should be.. as it always is. congrats on the baby and much luck to you all
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• United States
20 May 10
first thank you....and that is so funny, I love that song and I tell hubby that same phrase when he gets mad about something..."sounds like life to me". I cant say were werent shocked since it was the least expected but now things are getting to the point that we can laugh and say its life and we will get through it. thanks for the response and have a great day!
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• United States
15 May 10
Does my husband having five heart bypasses, and now a stroke that's left him totally incapacitated and in my care 24/7, losing a business, our home, two rental houses, having my sister come live with us because her husband went bipolar, my nephew come live with us and discover he has a terminal disease, but no insurance, leaving the state we felt was our real home for another there never will count? If not, nope, can't think of anything. Congratulations, on your new baby.
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• United States
20 May 10
thank you....but I am so sorry to hear of your troubles... that is so hard to deal with but I hope that there are some bright sides to the changes in your life and that things will only improve from here. thank you for the response and have a great day!!
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@andy77e (5170)
• United States
15 May 10
This is why I do not have a wife. Life is much simpler and easier.
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• United States
20 May 10
well that is one way to look at it....LMAO!! thanks for the response and have a great day!!
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@maxyl12 (239)
• Philippines
15 May 10
That is difficult. Am still single but I am experiencing life is so hard when dealing in a small amount of money. I mean, its so hard to move, what to do or even speaking to a friend when my mind is somewhere else in what to do in next month with a little money I have. What more if I get married. Will it be ever alright?
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• United States
20 May 10
we have to deal with hard times in order to learn from them I believe, and we grow from them as well and only become stronger and smarter to build off of....even though we are thrown into the initial shock of things, eventually we will see how it is going to fit into our lives and how to deal with it and build from it... such as my hubbys work slowed down about 2 yrs ago and things got real bad financially for us last year and I decided to find work online....now I dont get rich off of the sites I use but I earn extra money for our family for the time I do get online and that has been a learning experience for me everyday. good luck with it all, thanks for the response and have a great day!
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@derek_a (10903)
15 May 10
Yes, I fully agree with this. I believe that karma (law of cause and effect), has an almost magical way of addressing the balance in life. Just like The cold of winter is balanced by the warmth of summer, so are bad experiences balanced by good ones. It is because we live in a relative world where everything eventually gives way to its opposite. As a Zen practitioner, I aspire to fully accept everything that is good and bad, and that way I don't have too many expectations and can stay more relaxed and calm during all situations. _Derek
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• United States
20 May 10
that is a great way to think and I believe in positive thinking as well... as long as I can always see the bright side of things then all will be well. thank you for the response and have a great day!
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@zralte (4186)
• India
15 May 10
Oh Gosh....Congratulation on the baby. I sure hope that does not happen to me - I mean about the unexpected baby. I have two kids myself and I am now 30 - almost 31, I don't think I can handle another kid at any age. Regarding the 'unexpected shocking thing', when our business was just starting up, we thought we would be alright after 1 or 2 years. We were just about to make proper sales of our products - getting orders - and the economy crisis happened and all the orders we received were cancelled and we were back to the beginning, no worse than the beginning, as we were heavily in debt by that time and no hope of selling in the near future. We had to drastically change our course of action and learn new things again. We are doing fine now, though still not profitable, but at least we don't have to borrow.
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• United States
20 May 10
thank you... it is a shock but once you get over that you get to the point that you can handle it and it will all work out... and we are at that point...LOL sorry to hear about your business, I understand that...as my hubby is self employed and things were so good a couple years ago and slowly decreased and then really got slow last year which was the hardest year for us to deal with financially.... things are not even close now but at least we have more work now than last year....so we only hope to see things improve for us. I hope things only get better for you as well...good luck with it!! thanks for the response and have a great day!!
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@charylady (424)
• Philippines
15 May 10
that's good news! you seem to have gotten over the initial shock and are now happily anticipating the new addition to your family. things happen for a reason. yes, you can do this!
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• United States
20 May 10
thank you...and yes once the initial shock wore off everyone if getting on board and is following my progress and wanting to help out and be a part of it...LOL thanks for the response and have a great day!!
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@cyrus123 (6383)
• United States
15 May 10
Congratulations! As far as the money goes, I hope everything will get better for youall in the long run. I'm single and I've never had any children but I'm living paycheck to paycheck, too. I wonder how I'm going to make it to the next month all the time, myself. In this economy, I'm sure everybody is in the same boat. As far as the baby is concerned, my mother had me when she was 41 so don't feel bad. I've known of other women who have had babies after 35 and 40, too. I guess it's still too early to know what the gender of the baby is yet, isn't it? Or do youall plan to find out? I haven't had anything shocking to happen to me lately except car trouble. However, that's nothing unusual for me. It can be very frustrating to have to do without a car for a few days, though.
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• United States
20 May 10
thank you... I was 31 when my son was born, just turned 36 when my daughter was born and now going to be just turning 39 when this one is born... they say women are waiting longer to have babies and I seem to be fitting in with that statistics....LOL we will definetly find out what it is... we did with both...we like to be prepared...LOL but I am only going on 15 wks and will find out at 20 wks.... so we cant wait for that. as for the car, I understand that...hubby had been called away to FEMA recently with the floods in Nashville, TN and he was gone for about 8 days and he took our only car with him and I was stranded at home with 2 kids and my drs appts and my sons school schedule ....at least I can say I have a great family and support so everyone helped out and chipped in with driving us everywhere. thanks for the response and have a great day!!
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@cyrus123 (6383)
• United States
21 May 10
Weren't those floods in Nashville awful? I saw some things about it on GAC the other night. I feel so sorry for all those people up there. Several country music stars were affected by it, too. Keith Urban had a lot of damage to his equipment and Kenny Chesney's farm was really flooded! As for the baby, I think it's a good idea to find out what the gender is when I really think about it. That way, you will have a name picked out. Also, if anybody gives you a baby shower, it will help your friends who buy gifts for you know what to get exactly.
@Shellyann36 (8619)
• United States
14 May 10
First of all Congratulations! I know it is probably a big shock but trust me you will enjoy this time around much more. I had my 4th son last year in September. Now mind you, I already have a 20, 19 & 16 year old. I started over as well. I find myself being more patient now and noticing the little things and cherishing them more. As far as shocks go I had a big one back in March. My oldest son wrecked our only working vehicle. It was a bad wreck. It totaled the truck and he is very fortunate to be alive. He come out of it with a fractured leg, slight concussion and some damage to his hand (bone showing but no nerve damage). After the shock of him being in the accident wore off we had to deal with the issue of no transportation. We have had to bargain with people to get rides but so far it is ok. We are hoping to get a new vehicle next month.
• United States
14 May 10
Thank you, wow you really started all over... my son is 7 and my daughter is 2, so I still have alot of stuff left over from my kids that I get to reuse. I am glad to hear you are enjoying it more and things worked out... congrats on yours. sorry to hear about your car...good luck on getting a new one, and that is great that your son walked away with very little damage, that is the best part of that. thank your for the response and have a great day!!
• United States
16 May 10
Yes I really did start all over. You have an age gap but it is not too bad. I think things will work out for the best for your family. It will just take some juggling and financial planning. The best of luck to you!
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@Thoroughrob (11771)
• United States
17 May 10
Well, congrats. I cannot imagine that happening right now. We do have things happen, but not like that. It just seems that it gets as bad as it can, and something else happens to make it worse. I hope things go well for you.
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• United States
20 May 10
thank you... I understand how things can happen and things get worse but we always try to think positive and find the bright side of things and how things work out the way they are suppose to....like last year when I decided to have a yard sale and sell all our baby stuff because we were done having babies.....well nothing sold...and I thought how could I have wasted 3 days of a yard sale and not sell one thing of baby stuff.... turns out we need that stuff again and even though last year I was hoping for the money from that stuff to help out with bills and things around the house we found the positive side that we still have all that stuff for this baby. thank you for the response and have a great day!!
@tigeraunt (6331)
• Philippines
16 May 10
hi, money is not everything. as long as both you and husband are helping each other, with all love and respect for one another, everything will turn out well in the end. am very happy for you. congratulations! ann
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• United States
20 May 10
thank you...and we have said even with the initial shock that all will work out....and we try to always think positive and find the bright sides of everything so we are with this too...and getting excited as well. thank you for the response and have a great day!!
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@Opal26 (17694)
• United States
16 May 10
Hey bookreader! Congrats! At least I think? I guess that things will work out, because they just have too! The new baby is on it's way and that's it! So, as you said things will find a way of working itself out because they have to! I don't want to get too personal about the "surprise" thing and the how's and why's! Life is full of surprises and at least you are loving parents and will welcome this child happily so somehow, some way maybe other great surprises are in store for you and your family! I want to wish you the very best of luck! Make sure to let us see the photos of the "addition" when he or she does finally arrive!lol
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• United States
20 May 10
thank you...and I will definitely be finding out what this baby is...I am almost 15 wks now and we find out at 20 weeks.... we found out for both of our other kids so we will want to know and be prepared this time too. we are getting more excited the further we get along and soon we will be picking out names when we find out what we are having...that may be another discussion I bring up here...LOL thank you for the response and have a great day!!
@RachelleNH (1408)
• United States
15 May 10
Wow, congrats! Nothing this life changing has really happened to me lately. I'm down on money also. I'm self employed and have a cleaning business. I started losing people 2 years ago and haven't recooped any to replace them. I've been in a constant struggle to pay the bills. I'm dealing with it by trying to make more money online-getting creative with it too
• United States
20 May 10
thank you, and I can completely understand where you are coming from... I too worked in the cleaning field when I got out of the office field...and my mother and I cleaned a doctors office for about 4 yrs...then they cut back and let people go and started having the office girls clean up after themselves...it was sad to see that job go because it was easy and paid well. I hope things start to pick up for you and maybe you can look into offices...thats a possibility and usually a one day a wk job...can be useful to have the extra income....good luck to you!! thanks for the response and have a great day!
@tomitomi (5441)
• Singapore
14 May 10
First Congratulations! I believe that when you think and do good life has a special way of rewarding good people like you in ways you never dreamed off. It's the silver lining that completes the dark skies or the icing on a cake. If you are optimistic about things around you, you attract the good things. Likewise, it's also the same with negativities at the opposite end of the spectrum.
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• United States
14 May 10
thank you!! I have to say that is true, I believe in positive thinking and one day we will be better off one day and will be doing better financially one day...and that all things will work out, it was one of the first things we have said. thanks for the response and have a great day!
@cicisnana (776)
• United States
14 May 10
LOL, oh, of course, I imagine we all have.... I was one of the lucky (or maybe unlucky) ones who birth control didn't do anything at all for me. Child number one was conceived while using male birth control (don't know if the word is used here, but you guys know what I mean {I hope}, child number 2 was used using the pill (that was a SHOCK, yeah, mistakes happen with the male birth control but I never expected to get pregnant while on the Pill)... Child number 3 came along while I had the Norplant in my arm...I thought I was doomed to stay pregnant the rest of my life at this time. I quit using birth control all together. It was making me sick and I was still getting pregnant. We had 2 more! Plus my husband had 2 children from a previous marriage so we had quite the house full! After delivering baby number 5 I went for the tubal. No more babies. And I miss it :(
• United States
14 May 10
Oh my gosh... that is crazy but I would say it was meant to be that you were going to be pregnant...LOL I am going to get a tubal as well after this one, we have already discussed it after the shock wore off..LOL thanks for the response and have a great day!
@kezabelle (2985)
14 May 10
Yup mine is the same as yours, recently split with my long term partner though have two girls 6 and 4 and thought no more babies for a while (im only 26) started seeing a new partner for about 9 weeks and last week found out im 5 weeks pregnant all things considering my new partner took it fairly well! Im still coming to terms with it but for me a baby is a blessing and of course I will cope although with our relationship in such early stages i have no idea how much il actually be doing alone but I will still manage im very much looking forward to haveing another baby. It was a huge shock and obviously not planned but well I just think worse things could happen hey!
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• United States
14 May 10
I couldnt agree more, babies are blessings and at first it just wasnt something we were expecting but the further along we get the more we are getting more excited about it and we have said all along, that things will work out, it has so far!! LOL congrats to you and it is great to hear your new partner took the news well. thanks for the response and have a great day!!
@cher913 (25895)
• Canada
14 May 10
my hubby has been off work since last august and it may look that he has another job (although contract/temp basis) but the yipes factor has been our bathroom water leaking into our kitchen which needs to be fixed but we have no money!
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• United States
14 May 10
I completely understand... we have a small 2 bedroom house that we bought 6 yrs ago and it was a fixer upper and we have been working on it slowly and doing the work ourselves...so I know all about the yipes factor....LOL good luck to you and I hope your hubby gets that job!!! thanks for the response and have a great day!!
• United States
14 May 10
Congratulations My husband and I have been together 20 years...I will be 51 this year...my son turned 17 this past Christmas Eve, and my daughter turned 13 this past March...so we started later than most couples. I assure you everything will be fine...in fact it keeps you younger...running after them when they are young and keeping up with them physically and mentally(staying on top of what they are doing) as they become teenagers
• United States
14 May 10
thank you!! and that is so funny, that is what I told my husband too... the kids will keep us young...LOL, we had our son when I was 31, so we started later too. thanks for the response and have a great day!