Are you a loner type person?

Philippines
May 17, 2010 10:29am CST
Why are there people who tends to be alone than to be with friends or having companions. I too was a loner back then on elementary, but i changed since i realized that theres more to life when you encounter with people, have friends and trusted companions.
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38 responses
@jugsjugs (13045)
17 May 10
I have alot of friends and there are times that i want to see them then there are other times that i just want to be on my own.I used to enjoy going out alot with a group of friends when i was younger that was before i had children.Nowadays i tend to stay at home as i like to spend time with my family.
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• Philippines
18 May 10
Yah, sometimes theres just an ego in me wherein i just like to be alone for awhile, sometimes i just feel like being alone and hate talking to other people
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@med889 (5958)
17 May 10
I am not a loner and hopefully because else I would have definitely be near my grandma who went to God last November. I like people around me and I like being with many love ones. I like to share and like to learn too so when we are alone or simply a loner then its we who remains the loser.
@Aitrita (145)
• Switzerland
17 May 10
I'm a loner but not that I don't enjoy being with my friends. I tend to spend time with them to some extent, getting back to privacy remains undisputed...unless I'd kinda feel drained
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• Philippines
17 May 10
I came to learn myself as a loner when I had a vacation in a province way back, and their impressioned of me is a kj or killjoy because I was so aloof. I was supposed to mingle with those new found friends supposedly and some relatives but I preferred to stay inside the room, read a book or fall asleep. I was so different then, though sometimes I went out talking with them but I found myself alone. I hate those moments. I was so depressed. Imagine, that was supposed to be a my memorable moment since I was a teenager then. But I wasted too much time in my teenage life. Thank God I overcomed it all.
@rosie230 (1675)
17 May 10
I would not say that I am a loner, but I am not someone who has a huge heap of friends either... I have an probably always will be someone who likes my own space, and I like to stay in rather than go out as well... I spend time with friends on occasions, and keep in contact with people through facebook or by using the windows live chat, I guess at the end of the day you are who you are and you become the person you feel comfortable with.
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@sender621 (14956)
• United States
17 May 10
Even as a child i was never a social butterfly. I so often preferred to travel in my own circle. I guess i felt like my friends didn't really understand me. I always felt that I listened to a different drummer.
@sskelvin (133)
• India
18 May 10
No,I'm not a loner but at the same time there are moments in life when I just want to be left alone,when I don't feel like socializing,etc It is a big loss to permanently be a loner actually.Life's best moments come when you hang around with friends or socialize with family,etc.
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• Philippines
18 May 10
It also depends on the mood, sometime i feel like im better off alone :)
@linwang (12)
• China
18 May 10
you need friends to be successful and need enemies to greatly succeed
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@Steinway (312)
• United States
18 May 10
Yes. Like you, I was a loner in elementary and high school. In all of my life, I've only had maybe one or two close friends in my life. I'm definitely not a social butterfly on any level. I like my oneness. My singularity, if you want to call it that.
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@grkelly (1218)
• Malta
17 May 10
I must say that i enjoy being on my own. I feel better and more secure. I was never very confident. When I am in a crowd or in a team, or even speaking up in class, I tend to be extremely aware of how i look, what i am saying, and above all what others think about me. This introversion proved to be a disadvantage in several aspects of life. I do not like to talk in public or to make friends or to mingle with people. I prefer to stay alone and feel better that way, I wish to change but i just do not manage to.
@cet1987 (209)
• Malaysia
17 May 10
Yes i am a loner type person. Of course having companions is really good and happy but not for me. I am not a social butterfly, and i am very choosy to pick a person whom i called friends. I do not want to pick a wrong person because wrong person will destroyed my future life. If I have got a problem, I prefer to be alone and solve it by myself.
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@epicure35 (2822)
• United States
19 May 10
I am a loner and have been since childhood. I just haven't found a place for myself between "loner" and "social butterfly". Sometimes it seems lonely, but, mostly it's not. I've never put much stock in "popularity", whether of people or ideas, so it's easy to stand alone on most issues. But, it's becoming increasingly more difficult to wrap my mind around the insane and evil behaviors most people engage in and tolerate. We are supposed to "tolerate" each other's shortcomings, but we are NOT to be tolerant of evil. Of course we all need trusted friends and companions, but they don't have to be many. Add to that they are few and far between. One or two trusted friends are a blessing.
• Philippines
19 May 10
I am also like you, stuck in between, im really not a loner now but not also a social butterfly since i often hate talking to people that i just met or new to me, but i love to talk with my trusted and good friends. keep lotting and have a nice day!
@epicure35 (2822)
• United States
19 May 10
Brylle, Thanks for the great discussion and well wishes. Have a great day also.
• Philippines
19 May 10
No problem epicure and thanks too for your prompt response i was actually surprised to see many responses on my thread
@Canellita (12059)
• United States
18 May 10
I am not a "loner type persson" but I do need time alone at least a few minutes each day to reflect and organize my thoughts and just be quiet. I recently traveled with someone who did not understand this and things did not go well.
• Philippines
18 May 10
Well, i guess all of us needs to spend some time with the greatest person on earth, ourselves LOL, just like a person needs to spend some time with his/her family, we also need to spend some time alone, its that only time wherein we realize our mistakes and faults.
@Canellita (12059)
• United States
18 May 10
LOL, you don't have to be alone to realize mistakes and faults; other people are more than willing to help you with that! We do need time alone though just to refocus and regroup in order to stay productive and achieve our goals.
@cloudu (17)
• Philippines
19 May 10
I think I'll consider myself a loner type of person. It's not because I've wanted to be alone. It's just that I don't know how to communicate with others or rather I don't know how to socialize with them.
• Philippines
19 May 10
Wel, if you dont know how to communicate with others or to socialize with others, you should learn how or ask a person close to you to help you with that, if you can manage to help yourself, it will have big and great effects on you
@ladygator (3469)
• United States
19 May 10
I am a loner to an extent. I like to work for myself and since I write so much and do different art stuff that is better done alone. But I really enjoy being around people and watching them, talking with them, hearing what they have to say. People are very interesting to me.
• Philippines
19 May 10
Oh, i also noticed that artists and people who love art stuffs are loners or who prefer to be alone or to be with people who have their own similarities happy mylotting and have a nice day!
• Boston, Massachusetts
19 May 10
Hi Brylle, I don't have any problem in dealilng with people...i am an extrovert type of person and is really sociable. i am challenge in befriending loner people and making them come out of their shells. they just need overcome some interpersonal communications and relationships concerns and they can chill out once you estalbish a healthy rapport with them.
• Philippines
19 May 10
hi msfrancisco thanks for being such a kind person to those loners that might need some help, thanks to people like you that some loners or extremely loners can share what they really feel happy lotting and have a nice day! almost 40 responses!! thanks to all who responded to my discussion
@evepin (723)
• Philippines
18 May 10
actually i am both. when i am with friends i tend to be the lively one with lots of stories to tell and always engaged in conversation. however, there are times when i just have a world of my own, some moments when i feel like i want to be by myself only. funny how an extroverted person like me get to be a real introvert. cheers and happy myLotting!
• Philippines
18 May 10
LOL, i also have some friends like you who are very outgoing, and very friendly but so emotional and loves to be alone whenever he feels like doing it! haha
• India
31 Mar 11
Welcome to mylot No i don't belong to this class brylle.Because while i am in home, i am never alone, my family members are with me, if i am attending a seminar or workshop some where than in the hotel i am alone; but i keep myself busy with my research work, my laptop is always with me.. Thanks for sharing Cheers. God bless you, have a nice day ahead. Professor ‘Bhuwan’. .
• China
20 Mar 11
No i am not loner type person.I don't like to be alone. I beileve we can enjoy our life without being alone.When we are alone then we do feel boring and life become dull. When we share our sad with others then it reduce our sorrow and when we share our happy then we be more happy. So why be loner person. Good day!
@dorannmwin (36696)
• United States
11 Jan 11
I have never been a person that has never been a loner. There are times that I really don't want to be around other people because I have times that I am depressed. However, for the most part, I would say that I am a person that thrives from being around other people. Because of that, I think it would definitely be incorrect for me to say that I am a loner. I would go crazy quite rapidly if I wasn't able to be around other people for an extended period of time.