Should I tell my bestfriend I slept with her man 2 months ago?

SHAME ON U. wHAT GOOD WOULD THAT DO TO TELL HER. u ARE JUST TRYING to ease your guilty conscience. U may not be a bad person but as a friend u stink.

Yes you should tell her so she can see what her so called best friend would do to her behind her back. That would end our relationship if you were a friend of mine, Period. Your an idiot for doing that to your friend. Instead you should of talked to her about this before you went ahead and acted on your endeavor. If you don't tell her and she is a so called best friend the guilt is going to eat you up and she is going to know something is up. Until the truth comes out she will be suspicious. That is what best friends are about, they know that person so well that they can feel something is up and will ask until they get the truth. Been there Done That. That person is no longer a friend and no longer friends with the other friends we all hung around with.

Hi, KathyLaw. I think that holding secrets in is not always the way to go. You will eventually have to tell her. Don't keep anything like this a secret. She will eventually find out and when she does, she will be angry. Do the right thing by telling the truth. Don't keep this hidden for too long.

well, it depends..If you really want to make & admit, then you have to be ready for the consequences!!!

You have no right to call her Bestfriend. If you really are her bestfriend you shouldn't sleep with her man. Even though you're telling here that you like her man, you should have thought of your bestfriend. In fact, you should be talking to her about her man flirting on you. You people are so naive.

Wow what a situation! Now this is really serious but I guess it would be better letting your best friend know what you have done because it will be really bad if she should hear it from someone else. Who are we to call you a bad person we all do make mistakes.

all I can say is that I'm glad you are not my best friend. What are your reasons for wanting to tell her?

well to honest that is so mess up. there fine lines friends dont cross. and if you tell her i'll bet she wont want to be your friend anymore. and her man wont be her man. i think what you and he did is awful,

If she was on here saying her "best friend" slept with her man, I would tell her you were not a friend at all. And any one's man who would be unfaithful to his woman to sleep with me, would be unfaithful to me later if we hooked up. IT's a bad situation and you stand to lose a lot here... but it's better to come clean!

You know what? If you were my BESTFRIEND, I'd be very disappointed of you. Not just that maybe, I don't wanna be your bestfriend anymore. How can you do that to your friend? I am not judging you but what you did was truly wrong. No matter how much you and that guy like each other, it is still wrong to sleep with him. He is someone else's man. Worse, she's your bestfriend. What if you shifted situation with your bestfriend? How would you feel? To free yourself of guilt, better tell her and face the consequence of losing her and your friendship with her. Or, you can keep quiet about it, but for how long? Plus, are you confident that what you did will forever keep hidden from her? If you have that guarantee then , by all means, be forever silent about it and move on with your life. Leave your friend's man and find a man who is unattached and available. Goodluck to you.

I don't see the reason why you should tell her. What are you thinking of by the way? First, you slept with her man, and now, you want to tell your best friend the truth. It's commendable that you are honest with your actions, but do you think this will do any good for the three of you? Why don't you just make a clean break with her man and get on with life? Ask any woman here in myLot how she will react if her best friend told her that she slept with boyfriend, and you will know what to do.

I think you should tell her. Probably is very hard to do, but you will feel much better. I started this response with 'It depends on...' and as I typed on, I realise that if it had been me, I would rather have an honest friend than someone who keeps secret that big from me.

i think in this situation, u should tell your friend before its too late.. just imagine if u get caught by your friend while u and her guy sleep together.. i wonder what will happen..

In my opinion its better to get things out in the open rather than wait longer down the road and have her find out from one else rather than you. I recently broke up with my Gf she started dating another guy and she cheated on him with me so when I saw this guy in public i told him what had happened he wasn't to happy but Id rather not have some one hold info like that from me.

I would definitely tell her. Just to let her know that her man obviously cant be trusted!! I know that this is probably not what you want to hear but if he has done it to her then whats stopping him from doing it again in the future even to you if you decide to have a relationship. If you like each other though come clean as your sins often have a habit of being found outwhether you want to tell or not. I'm not sure that she will continue to be your best friend though. People do grow apart in relationships and friendships it happens all the time. Good luck to you if you decide to have a relationship with this man i hope it all works out for you.

hello kathy, so this is how you repay your friend since kinder garden, by screwing around with his man? i think that's not fair. am sure it's bye bye friendship if you tell her some day, you'd better be ready for that. . but of course it will give her an idea what kind of man she's in a relationship with.

For me no because your friendship would be cut off after you tell there's a gap to you both.

i think you should approach her and tell her the truth. you wouldnt want her to know this from somebody else dont you? it would just make matters worse. if you dont tell her, your conscience would keep bugging you everyday, and it is just that irritating. just do the right thing, and even if it means losing your relationship with your bestfriend, atleast you have done something selfless for your bestfriend.

tell her, before it's too late...

Yes, you are a bad person! But none of us want to admit that we are. The first thing you have to do is to admit to yourself that you did wrong to your best friend and you must forgive yourself, then tell your best friend what you did. She will be definitely get angry at you, but talk to her sincerely and ask for forgiveness. Let her decide if she still wants to continue having friendship with you and/or relationship with her boyfriend. Once you told her, then the burden will be over. We have to face the consequences of things we do, and for you is sleeping with your best friend's boy friend.