True Friend?

Philippines
May 18, 2010 5:01am CST
Now-a-days it is really hard to fin a TRUE friend. When I was just in highs chool I have this friend of mine whom I loved so much. After all the good times we had, one of my classmates suddenly talked to me and said that this friend of mine is talking bad things in my back. She was BACKSTABBING ME! Hell, it really hurts a lot. After all this time I thought she was a good friend of mine but whack! She was the princess of all the backstabbers in our school. Did this thing ever happened to you too? Being betrayed with a friend that you've trusted a lot and hell yeah it hurts.
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15 responses
@rosie230 (1674)
18 May 10
yeah I had the same problem at school, one minute my so called best friend was all chummy to me, and the next minute she would go off with someone else, and either ignore me or just slag me off, i hated it... i even tried again to be good friends with her a couple of years ago, as we both now have children, and i have known her since we were 4, but she had changed so much, she was hanging out with teenagers, and letting them look after her 3 kids, and she was so loud... i just couldn't be doing with it, so i dont see her now, only in the town if we happen to bump into each other... i just think we are so different now. I don't really have a best friend these days, I just seem to have a few people who are close to me in my life and that is enough for me.
• Philippines
18 May 10
Well that thing really happen to us. Because as we all know, THE ONLY CONSTANT THING IN THIS WORLD IS CHANGE. I'm just like you, I don't have a best friend but I have my close friends who are there to accompany me. I think it is better to have bunch of friends rather than having a best friend.
• United States
18 May 10
Life is about evolving. We all have been hurt by our friends. It's better that it happens to you, so you'll get more life experience and learn more about people. It's your chance to learn to read people.
@jamed28 (1909)
• Philippines
19 May 10
That is why when you got a true friend you treasure it. It was something that money can't buy. But of course it is very difficult to find a true friend. You can onlky be sure if a friend is a true friends, when in difficult times, they are still there. You look nice. Is that you in your avatar? You can add me here, and find out if I can be your true friend. :) :)
• Philippines
19 May 10
Hi Jamed. That's right, whenever a friend is ready to be at your side in spite of all the difficulties you have in life, then definitely that is the true friend you've been looking for. Yet, it is hard to find a true friend now, especially that everything comes in monetary. By the way, thanks for that compliment, yes it is me. I'll add you then and see if you're one of the real friends I am looking for. :) THANK YOU.
@saliyzhu (64)
• China
19 May 10
Maybe i don't experience these things in my memory. Pepole don't have the same friends in their life. What i mean is that we can have different friends through our life. When you are a children , you have a close friend. But when you grow up , the friend in you childhood may not be you friends at the moment. The world changes , and pepole change too. Some times ago, i met my close friend who was accompying me in the whole puberty in the street. But we have no words to talk about. It is embarrassing us. Some times i think why the friends can't be the true friends for the whole life. What a pity!
• Philippines
19 May 10
People comes and goes in our lives that is why. :) I'm glad you didn't experience being betrayed by a friend.
• China
19 May 10
Hi Chelleshey, I'd had a similar suffering.Once I had a close friend,I think so all that time.We wrote to each other and do each other's best friend.I took for granted all the time that we will be good friends forever,nothing will take apart us.I placed all my trust in him. But unfortunately,several years later,when we entered to different colleges,the so-called best friend betrayed me.He hurt me a lot.I even forgot how I could walk away from that painful times.But I was hurt.
• Philippines
19 May 10
Hi miranda. You know that only our loved ones can be the reason of our pain. But, we should move on from the pain they've brought to us or else we'll never learn how to move forward. There are really no real best friend and if there is, it's only our God. :)
@kourdapya (926)
• Philippines
19 May 10
It happens to a lot of people. I dont really have a friend who backstabbed me, I only experienced one where we already outgrown our friendship because time has passed by and we rarely see each other. We had other friends aside from each other, and because of that we are not as closed like before. I do have one who's insecure about me. She was jealous of my achievements, and the fact that I live a much better life compared to her, she started to treat me cold. I cannot blame her, but still I want to restore the friendship that we used to have. I think if you ever found a true friend, you should do your best to keep that relationship that involves a lot of trust. I think that's the most important. And also, communication, even though you dont see each other a lot, its important that you still keep in touch.
• Philippines
19 May 10
Yes it happens to a lot of people including me. It hurts but I just look at the bright side. Yes maybe this people who talk negative things at our back are just those people who feel so insecure about us. They feel jealous of what we have so they try to bring us down. Anyway, what's important is we're not the one who made such lame mistake. :)
@syankee525 (6294)
• United States
18 May 10
yeah had this happen a few times, and when i comfront them i just tell them at least be big enough to say it to my face, and chalk them up as fakers. then again it could be the person who is telling you is lying.
• Philippines
19 May 10
Hi syankee. Yes. I don't know why they were so afraid to say it in front of me. Being too coward? Well then, you are right maybe the one who told me is a faker. He might want me and my friend to go on separate ways, but unfortunately my friend admitted that she is telling negative things about me in my back. Well pity on her, she is so coward. :))
@blitzkiba (641)
• Philippines
18 May 10
I never experience this but if even i do ill never speak to that person again. But ill never do what he/she did to me.
• Mexico
18 May 10
Hi blitzkiba: I agree with you, why should we make the same sh*t to another person and hurt his/ her feelings. Inmy case I start talking to this person 2 years after this bad situation but you can imagine, it'snot the same and we will never be friends again. Thanks for your answer. Have a nice day. ALVARO
@raviudal (260)
• India
18 May 10
no ever .. this thing never happened to me ..
• Philippines
18 May 10
That's good. You're so lucky not to experience such thing. :)
• Philippines
5 Jun 10
Well so far I haven't experience that. I guess I am lucky with the friends I have. It is hard I guess to find true friend so when you do you have to cherish them. It is unfortunate what happen to you but that's how it is, you just have to try and forget about that person.
@thanks1961 (7046)
• India
20 May 10
Hi dear, I think school days are a treasure box for many. Most of the people have their life time friendship from the schools only. As our character and life is shaped in this age and our nice life time is surrounded with schools and school mates, our intimate friends will remain for ever. For me, after 20 years of school life, my school friends are scattered here and there. Still, even now also, in my free times I would enjoy those days. When time is we also grow up. We change as time moves on. In your friend's case I feel pity of her. Her circumstances might have changed to a more different one and she might have certain mis-understanding about you, probably on certain unclear incidents. However, if it is still continues, you can approach her and have a discussion. If again, she is not bothering, just ignore and believe that what you are doing is right and relax. Have a nice day. Thank-s
• Philippines
19 May 10
Hi. first of all if you have found two or three friends you are very fortunate. I only have two besides my family. Life is a constant change. you do not know in the future if your friend today is still your friend tomorrow because they will change their decision in life, you will change, people around you change and that's it. We are just growing ups and we continue to evolve. Even you, can be a backstabber to one of your friends. Sometimes it our actions that lead them to backstab us, but in the first place backstabbing is a bad attitude if you really are true friend you will never do this, instead if you hate a friend or a certain action they had done, you will tell them straight in the face and not on some fellow. anyway you and you alone can only describe what is the meaning of true friend. I have been backstabbed many times and those ugly rat did not experienced the same treatment after backstabbing me.
@emokiddo (28)
• Philippines
19 May 10
yeah..i also experience that!.. one, i have a friend, whom i treat her as my own sister.. years pass, she was backstabbing me.. i dont have any idea, why shes doing that to me.. maybe, shes insecure of me.. i wish that i will nver have a backstabber friend..
• Mexico
18 May 10
Hi chelleyshey: I have passed through a situation like this before and I can understan that it's really hard to know that a person you consider a true friend was not. There's always a big WHY, and What did i do wrong to deserve this? I have forgotten this person frommy university but I felt terrible in that moment. Now I feel that I haven't done anything wrong when I trusted in this person even if this person didn't deserve to be my friend. I get life experience. Thanks for sharing with us your own experience. Have a nice day. ALVARO.
• Philippines
18 May 10
I've been betrayed by a friend once. He's just too talkative. I confided on him something and told him not to tell anyone about it but he told everyone of our friends. He's just a blabber mouth.
@delkar (1716)
• Romania
18 May 10
I was almost in the same situation as you were. I had a best friend, now in college, but in the last weeks, he was too pround, and he thinks that he`s the best, and he has an attitude... He makes bad jokes, and he told me a lot of bad things this friday. Since then, we talked just a little bit, and today, when we met, we didn`t even said hy to each other. Myabe it`s better like that..