A problem with my bestfriends and her boyfriend... Please help me out

Pardon if i disagree to other's opinion here. I had a problem similar to you when I was High school. I was hurt and I brought out the issue to my friend but the result was not really good. She said she understand me but she needs to have time to his boyfriend. That life was changing and it was also time for me to have boyfriend. Before I didn't understand her. I felt she was selfish that she wanted to be her boyfriend and will just talk to me when she needs me. But when I had a boyfriend also, I realized that it was the same way. I lessen the time for other people and things. my advice is just let her to enjoy and let her know that you are her friend even she's not beside you. I have many friends and even we don't talk for years we still have the same relationship.

this tends to happen with friendships that are long term. We find other directions in life and it seems that we are growing apart and then you are back to spending time together and then off on another path again. These types of friendships never really end. My best friend has been my best friend for over 40 years and we've drifted apart and always come back and it is like we lost no time in between. Hang in there. She is still your best friend.

Since you guys haven't fought or had any arguments there's no reason you can't call her and just say "hey, what's up? Want to do something this weekend?" It can be as simple as that. And if she says she's busy this weekend, then ask her when a good time would be good for her. Invite her to lunch! Anything simple like that.

It seems like you like her more then just a friend.....I see that your from the Philippines, so I don't think you guys are "Lesbian Lover". But That's is how life is. As you get older, your closes friends become more and more distance......And most guys don't really like their girlfriend spending to much time with her friends.....That's just how it is... What you should do, is call her up and ask her if she wants to go out on a double date. She brings her man and you bring you's......That way you get to see her..... My wife is from the Philippines.......she left her family and all her friends to to be with me. We live in New York City......but she's always talking to them on the web cam......She recently made friends with a fellow Filipino.....we double date all the time..... So give it a try........and good luck

Hey Hello There !!! I just want to ask you something ? did you always consider her as your best friend then you have no reason to hesitate to talk to her , come on speak up tell her let her know . how things are with you , what buggs u , she is your friend may be she is going through some problem so you have to be there find out and sort it out youself

you can always find another friend or family with whom you can share it (you're doing it right now at mylot, lol), especially if they have the same problem or experienced it before ^^

Let me share to you our story as best friends. We met when we were in the first grade as classmates. Had other friends then because a group during our High School time. There were 6 of us. We spent virtually everyday together. When we were in college we went to different schools, different courses and different fields. Had different friends and didn't spend time with each other anymore. It was okay because we had cellphones, we'd often write, or call each other. Met at least once a year during Christmas break and have our photos taken as a group. Further down the road we graduated, had our separate careers and still were very distant from each other. It was okay because we had different groups of friends as well. We no longer got the chance to meet up every year, but made sure than within 2years we could at least meet once. Soon people started going out of the country, had gotten married, or had relationships, had kids, got promoted, etc. Now, we no longer meet at all. But id our friendship over? Certainly not! You do not really need to be together all the time to actually be friends. The mere fact that we are able to give each other space to grow and have each own lives shows that our bond is tight. Whenever we do agree to meet up, we do meet up to the point of spending the whole day as a group. You have got to understand that people will have their own priorities - their own lives. You may not have a clear part of it, but you will be there in each other's heart. Perhaps you could try to call or send a message asking how is the person doing to make her feel that she is part of your life too. Who's to say that perhaps she is also waiting for you to drop a line as well? Perhaps it is she who's also thinking that perhaps you're busy so she doesn't want to disturb you.

Unfortunately this is human nature, especially when we are the type who lack confidence and seek to please partners. People tend to become engrossed in their boyfriends/girlfriends, especially in new relationships, to the detriment of their other friends. It's a natural phase in life, which no one can do anything about. When they get used to their situation, and also feel more secure and mature, then they tend to let others back into their lives. There isn't much you can do about it except to perhaps write her an email, explain how you feel but also stress that you don't just wish to hear from her when things are not going well, because that is simply taking advantage of you. I would then seek new friends and completely give her a wide berth. One day she might then realise your value and come back in a mutually acceptable way. But if you just remain there for when she has a problem that is all you will get. We don't get what we want by waiting for others to change. We get it by changing ourselves.

Hi..I have an opinion but don't feel bad..I think your bestfriend doesn't realize that you are there waiting for her..What if you go and tell your bestfriend about what you felt lately because of her boyfriend..She will never know if you don't open up the issue.Don't be afraid about arguments, as long as one of you calm down and be patient I'm sure that you can fix that problem.You just need to have all the courage to tell her and talk about the issue.

Hi there, this happens most of the time. Most people tend to forget his/her friends when he/she is already in a relationship. I don't know why people tend to be like this. Then after he/she breaks up, they will come to you saying this and that, crying here and there. Since I value friendship so much, there's nothing else to do than to forgive and just wait for them to realize that they have a friend just around the corner. Try to make a conversation with your friend more often. You can try to meet her up from time to time too. I guess she is currently having the feeling of him being her world and all because of the so called "love" thing. But if she still shuns you away then just let her be. Mingle with other peers and create more circle of friends. Everyone changes through time, and we just need to deal with it no matter what.

A gap due to our friends love.. that really hurts. but wat u can do is u jus go and meet her. tell her that u miss her badly and u don want to miss her anymore. make her very clear that speaking with u will not create any problem in their relationship. don hesitate to speak

uhm..if she's not there for you..you know im here for you..you know that!!we can't avoid that-taken for granted by someone..i dont want to say anything against her because she's so kind.. just be happy that me and whole of the b.o.f will be there for you..k?

This is quite a common occurence. I am 40 and it happened to me many times when I was younger. As girls grow up, their priorities change. Sometimes, your girl friends are more important, then you find a boyfriend and everything is about him, so you kind of "forget" your friends for a while. If this relationship breaks up, I bet your friend will be in touch with you again, wanting to talk all about it! You can either try to ring her now and explain how you feel and see if she will make an effort to see you. But she is probably too wrapped up in her exciting boyfriend at the moment! You will lose some friends this way - I know I did - but some will come back. Good luck!

Things like that can always happen when one friend began a relationship. I experienced that before. I was just so excied with my bf so sometimes may forget my best friends but that doesn't mean i forgot her. So don't worry, if you truly care about her, just call her and ask her out for dinner or something interesing.

Hi, eli_noz. Well you could try writing her a letter to tell her that you would like to spend some time together so that you both can keep into touch with one another. And, tell her that you miss chilling with her. I am sure that if she is really a true friend, she will get back with you to enjoy your friendship together. Sometimes, when friends get involved into relationships, they may forget about the other friend. It should not be this way though. I hope that she will understand and become your friend as she was before she got into this relationship.

Just still be a friend to your friend. Although it is also time to have other friends around and consider to build friendship among others so that you won't feel so alone. Actually there are lots of things to focus your life. You also need to be around your family and help them. Just not think of being isolated or else you suffer. Cheer up and have friends around the neighborhood and get busy with life.

You simply have to meet her once for all and tell her that you misses her a lot these days and that you wish somehow if you both can still see each other if not everyday but atleasts once a week or twice and if we can be like before a bit because I miss those moments spend like a best buddies with you.

Hi,eil. This case always happened when a friend meets her love , we all come from that time , never have enought time with our love , and seldom have time with friends. Believe me , when the man feel tired to be together all the time , your friend will remember you , and contact with you, and when she find actually sometimes friendship is much trustful than love , she will learn to cherish your kindness. Just give her some time , life will teach her how to arrange her life .

Things like this happen in a relationship. Maybe your best friend is just too excited with her boy friend. This is a common feeling a girl would have to a boy next door. Well, try to understand your friend's feeling but you have to talk to her. Tell her what you feel. Or if you think she will misunderstand you for that, try to ask her for some bonding moments and tell her that you miss the old times. I know that your friend still love. Maybe she's just too attached with her boyfriend right now but it doesn't mean that she already forgotten your long friendship.

Hi, I should think you have the right to contact her, as her friend, and chat with her about the situation. You know, some men tend to be control freaks and, I'm afraid, many girls tend to play right into their hand by allowing them to control them. This may be the case, but if not, it may be because this is a fairly 'new' relationship, which, in a few months from now, may wear down to a more 'normal' relationship and then she may look you up again. It often happens like that. Anyway, I'd call her if I were you and ask how she is doing. Then see where the conversation goes. Tell her that you called because you missed her. Cheers, Virgo9