Lack of sleep due to having children

@jugsjugs (13045)
May 18, 2010 4:24pm CST
We are back to square one with my son.We had a problem with my son who is 8 years old not staying asleep once he finally went to sleep, well we then had months where as he would stay asleep all night aswell as settle down reasonably ok.Now here we go yet again we only got one hours sleep last night as he woke up and first he wanted more quilts as he was cold, then he wanted a clock in his room, then he wanted the extra quilts off his bed then he wanted the clock out of the room etc.His teacher spoke to him today and told him that he has got to sleep all night tonight so lets see shall we as we have had no whole nights sleep in over a month.
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@katsmeow1213 (29029)
• United States
18 May 10
At 8 years old he's old enough to get his own extra blankets without waking you, and a drink of water from the bathroom.. that's all he really needs in the middle of the night. Everything else, just say no and send him back to bed. My kids don't wake me up in the night unless they're sick.. anything else they may need they get it themselves without disturbing anyone else.
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@sacmom (14317)
• United States
20 May 10
I could be wrong, but I think jugs child is autistic. And autistic children aren't the same as typical children. Just because he is 8 years old doesn't mean that he can function at the same level as one. So if he winds up needing something before he goes to bed or even in the middle of the night chances are he's going to need his parents help to get it. It sucks, but that's just the way it goes.
• United States
20 May 10
She mentioned yesterday that he's ADHD, which of course I was unaware of.
• Philippines
19 May 10
Don't give him too much sweets as it makes a child too active. Hehe that's what my father's friends always say.
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@karen1969 (1788)
20 May 10
Yes, colours, additives and E numbers can cause this kind of behaviour and stimulants like tea or coffee just before bed.
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@mflower2053 (3227)
• United States
19 May 10
I am running on lack of sleep right now. My daughter who is 2 coughed all night long and if she wasn't coughing she was crying so I didn't get much sleep. Cough meds don't work. I want to try this thing called sinucleanse kids mist to see if that will help us tonight. I need some sleep. I am having trouble holding my eyes open now.
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@tessah (6622)
• United States
19 May 10
strange as it may sound.. put vicks vapor rub on the bottoms of her feet with some warm socks on afterwards. itll kill her cough quick nuff so you both get some rest
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@dorannmwin (36698)
• United States
21 May 10
I couldn't imagine having to deal with those kind of issues at this point in my life. My children are now seven and three years old, but they are able to sleep through the night and have been doing so since they were about six weeks old. They know that if they wake up during the night they are supposed to try to go back to sleep unless something is wrong (like they are sick). I don't know if there is any reason that you can't start instilling this in your son, but it might be a good thing to try.
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@neildc (17254)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
19 May 10
me and my wife also lack sleeps almost every night. our 3 year old son has sleep apnea and he snores too loud. not just because he snores loud that we lack sleep but we have to continue to monitor him while he is asleep.
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@emokiddo (28)
• Philippines
19 May 10
im not a mother now.. but. i also experience staying late up @ night just to watch my pamangkin.. its a mess that in the middle of my dream, ill be awakened..
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@cream97 (29169)
• United States
18 May 10
Hi, jugsjugs. I know how it is. I have a two year old, now that tends to wake up so early in the mornings, around, 2 and 3 in the mornings. She will want to stay up and play. But it is too early for that. People around us are trying to rest and she wants to be up. She wants to sing, and make noise. Last week, she was sleeping really well. She will have her stubborn moments. If she gets upset, my husband will have to take her out of the door so that she can get some air.. It is very tiresome. I will be glad when we move into a house so that way the neighbors won't be disturbed. Her sleep habits are back to normal. She just wants to get up when she wants to. And it is so early in the mornings when we all are trying to rest. It is very stressful. I know how you feel. Just do the best that you can, you can only do this.
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18 May 10
I do feel really sorry for you. I watch a programme called 'super nanny' who deals with difficult children. I hasten to add that your little lad doesnt sound difficult just perhaps attention seeking. One programme dealt with a little boy, younger than yours, who would just not settle. He was up and down all night, the light was too bright, the clock was ticking too loud, then the light was too dim. he wanted a drink etc etc and it went on and on. Super nanny suggested a relaxing bath, a bed time story, ( perhaps a 8 year old may be too old for stories)and a settled time for bed. then when he started getting up, taking him back to bed. if i remember rightly, she said first few times to tell him to stay in bed. then after that not to say anything, but just guide him back to bed and ignore him if he spoke to you. eventually it did work, but i may have got some of the details wrong. See if you can see some of her programmes. Also it might be that he is a little bit scared so a low light might help him. But you are not alone , its a problem that baffles lots of parents. when my son was little up to toddling age, i really thought i would never have a full nights sleep ever !!!
@dfcar47 (15)
• United States
18 May 10
I don't know you or your family nor do I know anything about what your son may fear. However he may be expressing his fears in some way that you'll be able to figure out soon. What kind of programs does he watch on T.V. before bed. Does he watch the news or does he hear you discussing the current news with others. Children hear somethings one way be their minds eye see what they hear another way. You need to talk with him not his teacher because your there for him at night not the teacher(unless the teacher lives with you). Let him know no matter what he feels you are there for him day or night.
• Malaysia
18 May 10
Understanding our kids behavior is a type of self-nature-nurture learning process as we all as a parent also a kid in our past time. From what I noticed, kid's sleeping pattern depends on their level of life activeness and something very interesting for us to analyze related to their personality. It categorizes them into these formation, either; active, or super active, or hyperactive. I think identifying our kids' sleeping pattern and formation related to their academic achievement is something psychologically very special, to determine their level of IQ (Intelligence Quotient). Yes and for sure in analyzing this process it will also taking our time including our own sleeping time. But, the results from it is noteworthy for us as a parent to take the next action in supporting their IQ growth and the related academic development. From this point, a parent can may be write up one ebook as one good source of writing article from prolific/profound experience.
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@tolted (191)
18 May 10
hi there. sorry to hear your son doesn't sleep much. Unfortunately I don't have any advice to offer as I have not experienced similar but I hope things get better. Hang in there!
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@tessah (6622)
• United States
19 May 10
hes 8 years not 8 months.. have ya tried simply telling him NO ? to humor that behavior is rediculous.. yer kid isnt going to behave and do as hes told if you allow it and not give him any reason TO behave. turn his lights out.. tell em to get his obstinant little butt into bed or hes restricted from tv/vid games/etc for a week.. see if that inspires em to knock off his nightly shenanigans
@sacmom (14317)
• United States
20 May 10
That might work great on a typical child, but chances are it won't work for an autistic one.
@tessah (6622)
• United States
20 May 10
if you havent tried.. you dont know do ya? i understand there are different needs for an autistic child.. but giving him a crutch to use for bad behavior because you feel wrong in treating him "typical" and normal.. isnt going to do him a bit of good at all in overcoming and contending with his disability.
@sacmom (14317)
• United States
21 May 10
Who says I haven't tried? Autistic kids can be very different from typical kids, not just in their needs. Some may not understand or even care if mommy and daddy take away their TV/video games/etc. It won't stop them from staying up all night. If they're not going to sleep, they're not going to sleep. That's all there is to it. But I wouldn't expect you to understand that.
@lelin1123 (15645)
• Puerto Rico
2 Jun 10
Its the hardest thing to go through when you are not getting a good night sleep. Are you putting your son to bed at the same time everynight? Is there down time before he goes to sleep where he is relaxing? Not playing and having fun and then going to straight to bed. Maybe try honey milk that is what my mom would give us to simmer down and go to sleep. I hope this helps you in some way. Good luck.
@sacmom (14317)
• United States
20 May 10
I've been going through this with my oldest. He's been having a heck of a time going to sleep lately. It's been this way for a few months now. I think some of it has to do with puberty. He'll be 13 next month. Though I think another part is that he might be scared to fall sleep. Nightmares maybe? With him being autistic he can't tell my husband or I what's going on, which can make for some frustrating nights I'm afraid. It's not always so bad. My husband and I can sometimes use massage on him to get him to fall asleep, although it doesn't always work, especially if we don't catch it in time or if our son isn't ready to go to sleep. But when it works, it works beautifully...most of the time anyway. Once he falls asleep he usually stays asleep and then whichever one of us is giving him the massage can finally sneak away and get some sleep too. Well, I hope you can figure out something for you and your son. Because not getting enough sleep sure can take a toll on the body. Good luck!
@qamarep (4450)
• Pakistan
20 May 10
try to make some changes in his room that make him stay in his room that way he will be close to bed and fall asleep soon
@karen1969 (1788)
20 May 10
Do the periods of disturbed sleep relate to anything going on in his life? Maybe a problem at school, bullying, falling out with friends, worrying about something, that kind of thing? If it is not a continual thing, it might just relate to a short term problem that keeps him awake at night? I know as an adult, I can be kept awake when my mind is going over a problem.
@yresh12 (3222)
• Philippines
20 May 10
Hi jugs!! That must be really stressful on your part since you have a lot of things to do the next day. Why don't you try letting him drink milk before sleeping. I hope it would help.
@qamarep (4450)
• Pakistan
19 May 10
that can be very bad for a mother if she has to have sleep less for her kids
@mommyboo (13198)
• United States
19 May 10
I have discovered that now I have problems with insomnia occasionally so it's not even the fact that I have kids that keeps me awake at night. I could go take some tylenol pm too but instead I am here typing. Are there any physical reasons why your son has trouble staying asleep at night? I know that sleep disturbances can be all over, from not being able to fall asleep, to not being able to stay asleep, to waking up over and over or a combination. I truly believe at 8 that he should be able to take care of his own needs and allow the rest of you to sleep without having to get up and cater to him. When my older kids were younger I would tell them if they were tired, they needed to go to bed earlier. Now I couldn't FORCE either of them to go to sleep, only enforce a bedtime meaning that was when the tvs and games and lights had to go off and they were to be in bed. That didn't necessarily mean either of them went to sleep. I warned them too that if they didn't go to sleep, that was not my problem, and if they were tired again, it wasn't my problem either as I did what I could to ensure they COULD sleep should they want to, and I suggested it. Kids will eventually 'get it' if you tell them what they can do to fix their situation if they don't like it. Sometimes it takes a LONG time but it depends on the kid. My youngest is also more of a night person, but when she won't go to bed, I just remind her she will be tired and crabby in the morning. What can you do, you can't make anybody sleep.
@thanks1961 (7049)
• India
19 May 10
Children's habit will not be constant for a long time. It keep changing as they grow. Here in your case, it is not clear his past behaviour. How is he in the day time? Do he play for long time or just gloomy? If he has more physical activities, he may sleep at night. Also does he sleep at day time for 3-4 hours? Then also he may not sleep at night. If it is occasionally happens then I think it is Ok, he will change later on. But shows a regular habit, then need to check how many hours he sleeps in a day/night. As per his age, it is time to be normal. Observe him for some time more. Regards, Thank-s