What is your first priority love or studies??

@hanizah (255)
May 19, 2010 8:55am CST
Hello guys, I have a question for you..If you are still a student what will be the first in your list?Is it love or studies? For me studies should be the first because if there is someone who told you that he loved you then you ask him to wait until you graduate then he insisted that he don't want to wait the first thing that will be in my mind is that guy doesn't really love me because he don't want to sacrifice for my sake..Well that is only my opinion..How about you?
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25 responses
@Metatronik (6199)
• Pasay, Philippines
19 May 10
Obviously that guy does not love you if he does not want to wait. I mean he is just treating a girl like an option, it reflects on how he respond on it. Seems that he has so many options like he does not courting only one girl but too many chicks. When I was student I never had a relationship nor never been in love with somebody else because I am really concern with my academics especially I have low grades so why would I entertain someone else in my life? Nevertheless I know it for myself that I am not yet matured enough to face a relationship or to have serious commitments. Other than that I don't like an idea that I have to play as what others are doing like fling and so on.
@hanizah (255)
20 May 10
Yes love can really wait...And guys should not play with girls....Thank you for you wonderful comment...
• United States
20 May 10
In the situation that I am in at the moment I put my love life first. I understand that this probably is not the best or wisest decision for many reasons. One being that we may not end up being together and the other being that it is not helping my studies at all :/ but honestly, I can not help it. I guess my heart just out thinks my brain if that makes sense at all. Like I KNOW I should probably spend more time with my studies, but I end up doing stuf with the woman whom I love instead. I find myself in these predicaments more often than one would think and it is kind of starting to drive me crazy. I love this girl more than anything and I really do think that I could end up marrying her! I think that is what keeps me going for her instead o my studies. Sorry for boring you with my personal story, but I thought I would share my personal experience/feelings at the moment for some reason; I can't explain it. Wel, I can only hope for the best for you and your lover! Happy mylotting!
@hanizah (255)
2 Jun 10
You can actually make them your inspiration but you really need to balance you time or else you will fail..
• United States
20 May 10
That is EXACTLY my point! Sometimes it's just impossible to help yourself. Love starts to control your life.
• China
20 May 10
Hi, Papadopulos, I agree with what you said. It really happens in reality.When we are in love with someone, we just can not help staying with her/him without giving much thoughts to other things. Sometimes,we want to spend more time on our studies, but we just find ourselves hanging out with our girlfriend or boy friend instead. We just can not help it.
• Singapore
20 May 10
Hello hanizah, When I was a student, my priority has always been studies first. There was love along the way. I told the person we could be friends until we both complete our A levels. And he agreed. We are still together till this day.
• Singapore
4 Jun 10
Another thing why studies is more important right now for you would be that the certificate/diploma/degree that you get now will stay with you forever. You will never know what might happen to relationships. Take care...
@hanizah (255)
2 Jun 10
Wow good for you...I am really looking forward to that happening in my life...How I wish I will find the right guy for me..A guy who understands..
@sskelvin (133)
• India
20 May 10
Obviously studies is the first priority always. If you ignore it,your entire life will be miserable as you don't get another chance. Love is important too,but life gives you enough chances to love somebody.Moreover love can interfere with studies so it's important to not think too much about love unless one has reached a high enough level of education.
@hanizah (255)
2 Jun 10
I really do agree with what you said...There is a lot of chances to hhave or to find your special someone..
• United States
20 May 10
Even though you know studies should be first, it is not always such an easy decision to make. The saying "blinded by love" happens to many people including myself. You just don't think or care about anything else.
• India
21 May 10
I have already completed my studies but if you ask me about choosing, it would be difficult – I would like to go for both but if it’s love or study. I will go with Study. Love will disappear if I have no money. Love is very important but other needs are not very less important. I may have a very good looking girlfriend but no job; she will not love me for long without money. We need job and that is possible only if you score well in study.
@hanizah (255)
2 Jun 10
It is a hard decision but we need to decide..
• India
24 Nov 11
That is very good, we should be independent on economics for sure.
@elvieb02 (695)
• Philippines
20 May 10
Based on experience, I suggest to everybody to prioritize their studies. Though I was able to finish my studies after getting married, there are lots of opportunities that I have to ignore due to responsibilities.
@hanizah (255)
2 Jun 10
The point is if you already have your family your time will be divided into two..Well you don't have a choice because they are already your family...And the worst is if you have a baby while studying because babies wake up often times so you wont have enough sleep... Am I right?
• United States
20 May 10
It really seems like most people are like you. They have put love first at some point in their life and after that happens, they try to keep other people from doing the same thing. Love blinds all thoughts.
@MsTickle (25180)
• Australia
24 May 10
You are very clever and you are absolutely correct. If he loves you, waiting for you to finish your studies should NOT be a sacrifice...it should be a natural thing in your relationship. If you give up your studies, there will be no going back. NOW IS THE TIME for you to put everything into your education so that you may reap the rewards in a few years. That's the most sensible thing for these times. Good luck.
@hanizah (255)
2 Jun 10
Thank you so much for your encuoragement..
• Philippines
2 Jun 10
if I am still a student I still choose my studies. When I was still a student I have so many crushes, but I don't go in relationship. I want to finish my degree and help my family, that is the only thing I had in mind. I keep thinking that i love is really for me, then that person will be willing to sacrifice and help me to finish my study, Instead of forcing me to have relationship. As you said true love waits.
@hanizah (255)
2 Jun 10
yes true love waits...Don't be sad when guys don't wait for you coz one thing for sure they don't really love you...
• Philippines
20 May 10
Its obvious.. you ask if you are still a student? then it should be your studies.. coz if not then you will not be a student anymore.. dont study and just love and love.. But seriously, it depends on how you handle things. For me, you can go for both as long as you know how to balance everything.
@hanizah (255)
2 Jun 10
Yes..balance is the solution for everything...
@daliaj (5674)
• India
24 May 10
I don't have to think twice to answer this question. I am not a student now, but when I was a student, studying was my first priority. Nothing could replace studies. I don't think love matters a lot during school time. I was very sure that love should not have taken over my studies. As a student, I thought that there were many nice guys in this world and I didn't necessarily need to find a nice guy in school. There is a lot of time after school for that.
@hanizah (255)
2 Jun 10
yes that is really true...
• Philippines
20 May 10
I think the answer is already obvious. If you care about your future, then you put studies as your top priority. If not, then choose love otherwise. What I mean to say is that love is always there, while being given the opportunity to mold your future comes rarely. In my case, it has been inculcated in my mind to put studies first before getting in to romantic relationships. And I believe that true love waits. So, getting into commitment is not a race. Take a look at our society now. A lot of teenagers, or those who haven't finished school yet, already engage in PMS which results to early pregnancy. Whichever angle you look at it, it's definitely not right. You can also enter in to a relationship while studying but make sure that you won't get carried away with it to the point that it will already affect your studies. In everything that we do, it's always important to weigh things.
@hanizah (255)
2 Jun 10
Yes the answer is really obvious but most of the student doesn't seem to know the real answer...
• China
20 May 10
hello,from my angle of view,maybe, we can do both.why not? coz ,it is very hard to encounter someone special to you (what's more rare is that you are special to him/her at the same time )of course,it is also very important to get focus on your study, sooooo,we get a dilemma?Nope,because,you can handle the relationship between the study and love,and keep them in balance,it's all up to you.
@hanizah (255)
2 Jun 10
Yes just be focus...
@zhangxia (87)
• China
20 May 10
of course ,study .nightmare learn more ,then you have the preparation for a happiness .happiness is always built on the basis of finance .
@hanizah (255)
2 Jun 10
Yah you're right when you already have finished your studies love will just follow specially when you have a career.
@dilitha (36)
• Sri Lanka
20 May 10
My opinion is, you should know to balance both. But make sure you give priority to your studies. Without a proper job, your love will not become a reality. As a boy, no girl will be willing to marry a jobless guy. So, make sure you do your studies well and find a good stable job. In parallel to studies there is no problem of continuing your love affair.
@hanizah (255)
2 Jun 10
I am so impressed with your answer..That is really true..Girls want to have a husband who can feed them for the rest of their lives..
@galileo2008 (1141)
• Philippines
19 May 10
When I was still a student, I always make sure that my studies come first before anything else. I was very aggressive back then, so competitive (like comparing my scores with my classmates') and I always make sure that I pass every exams that I took. Now I realized I must have a very boring life as a student, I didn't have a night life, and not time for love. The positive side is, I did not get any distractions and I graduated right on time. Now that I'm done with my academe, I think it's proper for me to have somebody to share my feelings with.
@hanizah (255)
20 May 10
That is the right thing to do...competing with our classmates helps us to be more aggressive..And there is a right time for everything.
@airakumar (1553)
• India
20 May 10
My first priority was always a study, and will always be. Study is very important. Once you make your career, one can achieve all, also love in life. But if you can't make your career, no one will love you for that. I request all the student, choose study over love and your love is always there for you. I know the choice between having a career or making time for love is an extremely personal and individual decision. But my choice would always go to study and career.
@hanizah (255)
2 Jun 10
Yah we all need to finish our study so that we will have a good career in the future..
@ebuscat (5935)
• Philippines
20 May 10
For me that's good your opinion is so keep up the good work.
@hanizah (255)
2 Jun 10
Thank you for appreciating my opinion..
@stanley777 (9402)
• Philippines
20 May 10
Good for you that you chose to wait rather than risk your studies...Love is just around the corner they say, and yes if the guy really loves a girl, he would definitely wait and be patient. I think all students should prioritize their studies because it is much more important at the moment...
@hanizah (255)
20 May 10
You're right my dear friend love is anywhere..I mean if somebody cannot wait for you better think...The reason that he can't wait is he doesn't love you as much as he loves himself...Am I right?
• China
20 May 10
Well,if i can meet someone who i really love when i am still a student, i will try my best to strike a balance between love and studies. It is not an easy job to strike a balance, but i will try . i will study hard with the person i love to pursue our dreams.
@hanizah (255)
2 Jun 10
Yes you really need to do your best to balance your time between love and studies..
• Pakistan
20 May 10
It should be studies but unfortunately nobody want to see his/her love upset and anger with him/her. So no days Love is our priority. But its depend on person what is his/her interest. now regarding to question my priorities are both.
@hanizah (255)
20 May 10
Actually you can really have both as your priority...But you really need to know how to balance your time...