My brother is affected by me.

Malaysia
May 19, 2010 9:25am CST
Since I have depression, I began to isolate in my room. My brother who is 2 years junior than me, follow me and also isolate in his own room. Our rooms are side by side, you know what I mean? His behaviour also changes lately. He keeps quiet, scolding our parents, and I think he is affected by me. Because since i got depressed, i less talk to him and joke with him. I just like be around with myself. My question is, my good brother, will he recover from the past that I accidentally am haunting him and return as a normal person?
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10 responses
@redhotpogo (3935)
• United States
19 May 10
I think he will return to normal when you do. He probably admires you, and looks up to you. He probably feels that he might be the cause of your depression, and that maybe you aren't interested in hanging out, or being around him anymore. When you're not feeling well, and trapped, like there's nothing you can do with your life; nothing is going right, then its good to have someone really close that you can talk to. Its not going to make things all rainbows, and frikin singing birdies, but it will help. You and your little brother should talk to each other more. Its ok to want to distance yourself from the rest of the world, but its not ok to be alone. It will only make things worse. If you only allow one person to be around you, you should let it be your little brother.
• Malaysia
19 May 10
Yeah ... Me and him were the singing birdies of the family. Now it is so quiet since I got depressed. I really don't want it to be like this but I cannot control myself. I have to eat medicine zoloft, lexotan, and bromazepam everyday. He's big already 27. I know he will understand. He is doing law at local university.
@cream97 (29175)
• United States
19 May 10
Hi, wongchoiyee. I think that you and your brother should sit down together and have a mature conversation. Maybe he will open up to you to tell you what is really bothering him. And he can tell you what is on his mind. You two should talk to each other it may just help. Tell him how you have been feeling to know that he is isolating himself into his room because of your depression condition. I hope that you both can find out what is the main cause of your feelings.
• Indonesia
19 May 10
Hi cream, I agree with you. we have to make a little conversation so we know what is the basic of its problem..
• Malaysia
19 May 10
I have SMS and write a note to him saying I got depressed becoz of the friends I had in Form 4 and 5. BUt nothing change. He never spoked to me about anything, worse he stares sharply at me. I don't know what he mean, maybe he mean that I shouldnt stay on like this!
@vjagra (147)
• India
20 May 10
Why have you accepted depression as your natural self, wongchoiyee? Why not try challenging your depression to come out of it. If you make efforts to come out of it, your brother will be also positively affected. The best way to help your brother is to help yourself. There is a lot of help available online, if you want to help yourself. Or may be you should talk to people close to you.
@Gany15k (1674)
• India
20 May 10
Well, it can happen..It is normal in case of your brother , I mean he can change if you are depressed..But whether you have asked him any problem , why you are sad like that..may be he also might have problems.He would have thought to share with you but it seems you already silent.so he might have thought not to tell...so just ask him whether he is having any problem..If not then you have to change him.just talk him.Only we should be affected for our own depression..It should not affect any other.So just change him..! Happy mylotting..
@med889 (5958)
19 May 10
He is believing you as a path maker and to follow you its okay but he is too small to understand many things so better do not do any these acts in front of him as he will do the same. Just as you said and it's quite bad. You must talk to him and make him understand that what he is doing is not good.
@schareen (12)
• Philippines
19 May 10
I'm suffering from depression as well but instead of sulking or locking myself in the room, I try to amuse myself by hanging out with my family and friends and I just try to forget that I'm psychologically disturbed. It's hard because sometimes I just feel like crying and moping for no reason at all but I get by somehow with my loved ones' support. You know how hard it is to deal with depression so don't allow your brother to suffer the same fate. Maybe talking to him will even make you feel better. I wish you luck.
@Crizzack (43)
• United States
19 May 10
obviously you affect your brother deeply. and if you are depressed thats no reason to isolate yourself isolation fosters depression so it could only make it worse, for you and your brothers sake I would try to change that habit
• India
19 May 10
Well, nobody can tell. But, of course you can make it happen. If you think that you are responsible for his present behavior, you are the one who can get him back. The only difference is that you got to find the right way. Also, isolation is not the solution to any problem in this world. A stressful isolated mind can never achieve what a blissful mind can. So, try to work out the ways that may get your brother back; one of the ways can be talking to your brother directly as an elder brother.
@Cutie18f (9564)
• Philippines
19 May 10
Depression can be passed on to others especially those close to the person concerned. Why? You get depressed too looking at someone in such a state. You have to summon some positive energy from within yourself in order to save not only you but also your family. It is not good to live with someone so morose and feeling like a loser. Get out of your house and do something productive for your own good.
• United States
19 May 10
If he is following you and you can try to stop sulking around. maybe he will change his ways. I know just how hard it is to be around people when your depressed. I take my meds every day for this. But,your brother needs help from you and you should give it to him. hope you feel better soon.