caught between two events---help!

@Cutie18f (9564)
Philippines
May 21, 2010 3:38am CST
Two important events are happening in two days and I am confused since this involves two friends of different levels. The first one is coming home after many years and has called over the phone to tell me that I have to meet her at the airport since she has lots of gifts and packages for me. On the same day and same time also is the scheduled wedding of another friend who I grew up with. This is also a very important occasion for her and had begged for me to attend the wedding. What will I do? I want to do both but it is impossible for I cannot be in two places at the same time. Any advice please? Which event should I cancel?
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20 responses
• Philippines
21 May 10
I am just thinking if you can attend to both... If you don't have special participation in the wedding ceremony, like if you're not the maid of honor, or something else, you can just catch up at the wedding reception. You can first go to the airport and pick up your friend. Then just bring her to the wedding reception with you. I guess bringing just one friend in the wedding won't hurt that much. You can introduce them with each other. That would be fun. If you can't bring your friend to the wedding, or he/she doesn't want to go with you, then you can ask him//her to see you the next day cause you have a wedding to attend. Besides, the wedding will just happen once. After the wedding, you and your other friend can spend the entire week together.
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@Cutie18f (9564)
• Philippines
21 May 10
Wow, it does sound so easy, but if I have to attend to both then I should be wearing the dress to the wedding and I am sure I wouldn't feel comfortable wearing it to the airport. Oh boy.
• Philippines
21 May 10
Can't you still explain to your friend that you can't pick her up? I am not sure though if she would understand... Whatever happens, I hope everything will turn out well on your side. Good luck!
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• Singapore
21 May 10
Cutie18f, You can always have the formal dress for the wedding to be left at the wedding venue through a friend, so that you can change when you arrive from the airport. Since, you are not playing any significant role with the wedding I am sure your friend will understand what you are faced with. Besides, you will have an additional friend for the wedding making a bigger crowd for the occasion. Hope this will help.
@Ritchelle (3797)
• Philippines
21 May 10
the first one that came to your knowledge should be the priority and the honest explanation of this to the one whom you would miss would be sufficient.
@Cutie18f (9564)
• Philippines
21 May 10
Yes! Thanks for enlightening me.
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• India
21 May 10
ya thankx a lot
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• Philippines
21 May 10
hi Cutie18f. hmmm...dilemma dilemma dilemma. your friend who will get married won't get married twice. if you miss the wedding, there is no repeat. plus she begged you to attend, that means your presence is important. your other friend who just got back is not going anywhere during that day, is she? plus, she will surely be busy with other people especially she's been gone to long. the attention will be divided among you, her family and her other friends. the gifts can wait. you just catch up on her after the wedding. =)
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@Cutie18f (9564)
• Philippines
21 May 10
The bad thing is, I already said yes to my friend who is arriving while the wedding invitation just got to me the other day.
@ongtina (1232)
• Singapore
21 May 10
It's quite simple. Wedding is "once a lifetime" event(of course that doesn't hold in the present day but it's still the wishes of all). Meeting up with friend that you had not seen for a long time is a happy thing but that can still be done the next day unlike a wedding(can't possibly postpone it to the next day for you!) Your friend will understand when you tell her that you have a wedding to attend that's important as you grew up with that person. She won't make things difficult for you and you can always made up for it with a big "welcome back" feast or party. However, you can't possibly made up for missing out on the big day of a friend you grew up with.
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@Cutie18f (9564)
• Philippines
21 May 10
You do have a point here and now I am not sure anymore.
• Philippines
21 May 10
I suggest you attend to the one with lots of gifts. It's your gifts after all. It'd be rude to let her carry all your stuff. When you get to the airport just explain to her that you have to attend a wedding so you have to move fast.
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@Cutie18f (9564)
• Philippines
21 May 10
I am really not up to doing both because this good friend of mine who is arriving has also talked about going to a restaurant she misses and she's picking up the tab as well.
@laydee (12815)
• Philippines
21 May 10
Hmm... You're really in for a tough one there friend. I'm pretty sure someone would cry over you not being there. But, if I were you, I'd probably go for the friend who's waiting in the airport. She has only you to be with while the one getting married would probably be busy with a lot of friends and family and being excited to get married. Further, weddings last longer, so you could go there after you met this friend in the airport. However, if the location of the wedding is somewhere far, then that's different. By the way, who called you first? Are you taking a very important role in the wedding?
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@Cutie18f (9564)
• Philippines
21 May 10
Thank you for your suggestion. Yes, I think I should see that long-time friend who has gifts for me.LOL. In the second event also, I would have to worry about what to wear and what gift to give, right? It was my friend who is coming home who called first. I just received the invitation to the wedding the other day, so.
• China
21 May 10
I suggest you to attend the wedding, and ask your parent or other people to meet your friend at airport.
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@daliaj (5689)
• India
21 May 10
It is not easy to arrange between both the things because both are very important for you. I think you have to attend the wedding of your friend as wedding is a very important thing that happens once in somebody's life. You can also think about meeting other from who comes for a visit some other time. You can talk to her and inform that you have an emergency. You can fix a different time to meet her as soon as possible.
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@anuraa32 (2453)
• India
26 May 10
So what did you end up choosing....
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@Cutie18f (9564)
• Philippines
26 May 10
I did what some members suggested here--it was tough but I pleased them both. I jumped from one event to another. I picked up my friend at the airport and after a while, traveled to the wedding reception of my friend. It was stressful but I did fine at the end of the day. Thanks for all the input guys! You've been of great help!
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@anuraa32 (2453)
• India
26 May 10
Great to know you could manage both.
• United States
23 May 10
Simple. get another friend to pick up the traveler friend and tell her you will se her the next day and Go to the Wedding.It isn't every day a dear friend gets married! I don't even believe in a happy marriage would go to a friend's wedding, And I Hate getting dressed up, lol! If you don't go , you may lose a dear friend. No gift is worth that.
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@sid556 (31018)
• United States
23 May 10
I would tell the friend getting married that unfortunately, I have to meet someone whom I haven't seen in years at the airport but I will gladly come to the reception if I get home in time. If there is no way I could make it to the wedding then I would send a really nice card and a gift and wish them the best. The bride and groom will have plenty of guests and attention. I would imagine my presence is not going to be as important as the friend needing to meet me at the airport.
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@hagirl (1296)
• United States
23 May 10
I assume these events are taking place at the same time.... If not why don't you pick your friend up from the airport and take her to the wedding with you.... If the one getting married is a very good friend of yours she will also welcome her with open arms.....
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@jdyrj777 (6558)
• United States
22 May 10
Cant you go pick the one up at the airport then attend the wedding together???
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@pabreen (237)
• Philippines
22 May 10
Since you agreed to meet your friend at the airport then have your word of honor because she gave the first invitation. And for you friend who's going to be married then have a proxy for her anyway you can have other times for her.
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• Philippines
22 May 10
If I were to decide you go to the wedding. You are begged to be there and the wedding is one of the important events in the life of a woman. You are really important to your friend who invited you so do not disappoint him/her. Anyway, the wedding will still happen even without you, but because you are important being there makes it more complete. While your friends who will be going home, just ask her if she have relatives here to fetch her in the airport, instead of you. Tell her that you will be going with her after the wedding. If she is a good friend she can understand it.
• India
22 May 10
So Many suggestions from mylotters .. now tell us friend what have you decided as of now?? Marriage or Airport..!!
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• United States
21 May 10
I would say the airport friend needs you more and you can always attend the wedding after if it is close. I would also see if one friend will let you out of the obligation once the situation was explained to them. Friends can always suprise you tell them your situation. Maybe your airport friend will attend the wedding with you?
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• Pakistan
21 May 10
Do not cancel any of them just spend half time there and half the other..
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@karen1969 (1788)
21 May 10
It is difficult, but my suggestion would be to go to the wedding, because someone's wedding is very important and a special day for everyone. It is a shame to miss meeting your friend at the airport, but she should understand and you can arrange to meet her the next day. I hope you get it all sorted out okay :-)
• India
21 May 10
Request someone else to go and meet your friend at the airport on your behalf and send her a note explaining why you cannot come. Tell her that you would meet her at the earliest at the next available opportunity. Invite her over to your place. I think your friend would understand. This would take care of the situation. Wedding is once in a lifetime occasion and you cannot miss it.
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