Can YOU trust the people around YOU?

@anetteh (3591)
Sweden
May 21, 2010 3:15pm CST
I have had some issues with people around me, people who suppose to be my friends. People who are co workers- They have turned out to be no people you can trust. They stab you in the back, they talk behind your back and they just simply are nasty, cruel and deseptive. When you talk to them it seems okey, but then you talk to someone els and hear something they have said or done. And people ask you why do you like to be alone. Why wont you come and socialize with us. huh?
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@dodo19 (33320)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
22 May 10
yes, I do trust pretty much everyone that I'm close too. Right now, I really don't have any real reason not to trust them. I'm a pretty trustful person, at least when it comes to the people that I'm close to, that I love, and those I know really well. And I know that some people that I'm close to trust me as well.
@Steinway (312)
• United States
22 May 10
Oh man does this sound familiar! With work, when I started, I realized a lot of people were not my freind. That included the boss and a couple of other co-workers. And even for awhile I felt targeted. Like, they were trying to get rid of me. Now, I've been there almost six years, and a lot has cooled down in the environment. But, I know who is my friend and foe with working there. And friend wise, my closest friend, is my boyfriend. Whom I also work with. Friend wise outside of work, I have one friend who lives in a dowstairs apartment. But, here lately, I'm questioning his behavior and motives on a couple of things. And have felt like he has stabbed me in the back, definitely on one occasion. So, I'm kinda distancing myself from him. I may talk to him, but not as frequent as I have done in the past. So, yeah I definitely can relate why you would want to be alone than socialize with people.
• India
22 May 10
Hey friend no one is to be trusted here.. Every body seems to be good but we never know how they are so you should be alert innerr i think...god bless you
• India
22 May 10
Its not only your co-workers but most people around are like that…I think the problem lies more with people like us (yes, I’m of similar opinion) who cant mold ourselves or are too believing in nature. I think the best option would be to socialize with them but not be too personal or share all your views with them. Nodding your head to most around you, even if you’d like to differ, would be better than shunning them altogether. You know, the more you shun them, the more the tongues wag…so I do mix with my colleagues and people around but with an open mind and take what all they say, with a pinch of salt. Also, I’m careful not to open my mouth often…just flowing along with the tide. However, that’s not always comfortable with our nature, so most of the time I make some excuses (which sound valid enough) to avoid as much social dos as possible.
@benhilo (871)
• Tripoli, Libya
22 May 10
In general, it is getting harder and harder to trust those around you. The Chinese have an old saying, some say it is a curse, "may you live in interesting times". We do, certainly, live in interesting times. I see and have seen friends turn against friends, sons on fathers, daughters against mothers, siblings against each other. Once their was loyalty to ones family, religion, job, politics and to ones friends. But now, people do not seem to care. Loyalty is becoming a forgotten dream like chivalry.
• China
22 May 10
Hi, friend. This can happen to everyone. People around us, especially co-workers, seem to be in good terms with us most of the time. Whenever we meet, we smile and talk to each other; whenever we're in trouble, they seem to be willing to give a hand, though we may not need that help. But what we hear from others is totally a different story. Those kind and friendly colleagues are not nice any more, but rather, they speak mean things about you. It really hurts a lot to find out the whole truth. But again, we can do nothing about it. This is the law of this society. Nobody around you is trustworthy except your family members who sincerely care about you. So don't upset yourself. What you need to do is bear in mind that such colleagues are not to be trusted though you need to pretend to trust them on the surface.
@sid556 (31005)
• United States
22 May 10
Hi Anetteh, I have learned that you pretty much can't blindly trust many people in our lives. I have a few very close friends that I have known for years and I know I could trust them with my life. Beyond that I don't get to shocked at things like what you have described. I will take a person at their word until I hear differently and then I see them different. I'll still be polite and all to them but I am very careful about how much personal information I trust them with....like none and I my emotional distance from them. I don't go out of my way to hang out and be best buds with them. A good friend would not talk disrespectfully behind your back.
@lylisal (80)
• Mexico
22 May 10
It's a fact. But anytime u can try to know better to someone before u trust totally. Many peope are like u say, but many other doesn't. U can watch them and learn how they really are.
@nancy0618 (477)
• Philippines
22 May 10
No we can not always trust the people around us..even our relatives, you know sometimes these people whom you trust are the ones who will take you down... I am not speaking in general.. But it happens
@monkeylong (3146)
• Guangzhou, China
22 May 10
As far as I am concerned, I think I usually believe in my friends who are around me. If I do not beleve in them , I think in return , they will not believe in me at all. So I think the faith is just between each other,which I think can help me amke a good relationship with my friends around me. With out faith in my life, I think there will be no friends.
@leo1985 (164)
• China
22 May 10
personally,I do believe that there is always good guys and bad guys around us. So it's common someone dislike you and do something not comfortable to you. It's not the problem and everyone meet this issure here and there. So what you should do is adopt it and believe that some good guys exist. If you do favor to others, there will person do favor to you too.
• Indonesia
22 May 10
i have trust the people around in the past.. but they have failed me many times.. now i can't trust anybody except myself
@ohiocy (215)
• Malaysia
22 May 10
Well I have yet to met a situation as this although I have heard some cases through my friends. But I don't think I'll face it that hard because ever since I'm young I've already developed a theory for myself. That is: "never trust anyone to the full extent" I guess that is also why right until now I'm such a failure, socially speaking..
@ebuscat (5949)
• Philippines
22 May 10
For me now a days we don't have they trust too much because the bad people is much because in the bible 1John5:19 the leader of this system is Satan so it has many thing's bad worse now.
@krisnel (498)
• Philippines
22 May 10
in every person that we encountered in our life especially in our work. it is so hard to trust some of our coworker because of some not so good personality. but you can find some few that you could really give your trust.
@kharlav (1672)
• Philippines
22 May 10
I don't really trust anyone, that is why I don't tell any of my deepest secrets, because I know that they might use it against me or just tell someone my secret and then tell this person not to tell anyone, and so on. You can't really please anyone, so you can't helped being stabbed at the back even by your friend. When it happens, i get hurt but I just let it pass by.
• United States
22 May 10
I was stabbed in the back by people I trusted with my life. I will never be put in this position again. I now trust my mother and my sister no one else. I don't even trust my daughter like I once did. Life makes us learn lessons we don't want to but,it will be ok in the end. take care
@AmbiePam (49887)
• United States
22 May 10
I understand what you mean. At some point it is like, why am I even trying? Why do I continually put myself out there, only to be hurt, rejected, badmouthed, or deceived? And I think I don't want to even try to trust someone again. I don't want to make the effort to be friends. But I just have to keep telling myself I can't be the only one feeling like that, and I'm not - obviously you are too. And because I know there is more than just me, I know there are other people out there who are ready to befriend me just like I am ready to befriend them. But that doesn't take away how much more cautious I am about trusting people after so many times being let down. The caution is redoubled, but I'm still open to finding friends who really know how to be one.
@ifa225 (11098)
• Indonesia
22 May 10
i used to be alone too, seeing them treat me different. they are not like what they said. i just said hello to them then pass through. just make the relationship linger but not too intimate.
@Jaluke (677)
• United States
21 May 10
I trust the people around me. I always make it a point to surround myself with good, supportive people. I'm generally good at reading people so I can usually sense who is and is not trustworthy.