The Girl Next Door...

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@sagnik42 (3598)
India
May 22, 2010 11:15pm CST
I am sure you have read the subject of this discussion... Well, that girl is the reason why I am starting this discussion in the first place... Basically what I was thinking about was the girl that lives next door... You know she is very pretty and I hope she has a crush on me and... Sorry, that is not the point. Now as I was thinking about her, I realized how little I know about her. We hardly ever talk and she lives next door. That is when it dawned on me, that I spend most of time interacting with people online, rather than doing the same offline. In a way we are more alive in the virtual world, than in the real world. I know so much about people I have met online, but if you ask me what Mr. Roy does for a living I will have to pass(although he lives opposite our house). Is that the case with you as well? (I am not asking about your girl next door....I am asking about the part regarding interaction in virtual and real world)
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@preethaanju (3000)
• India
23 May 10
Yes a wonderful topic. We hardly care to think of people who live next door and other neighbors. We are so much obssessed with a life in an unreal world that we forget our neighbors. We must always remember that its he neighbors who will come to our help in times of need and not our relatives. Its very essential we keep a good rapport with our neighbors. In good old times there were more interaction between people living next door. But with the modern instant lifestyle and selfishness and greed to earn money we hardly find time for such interactions.
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@sagnik42 (3598)
• India
23 May 10
Very well said Preeth... In the old days people used to spend hours talking with their neighbours helping them out. In most cases now-a-days we do not even know their names. By the way are you like me as well? Or do you interact with your neighbours?
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@xeroeight (1061)
• Philippines
23 May 10
well about me I don't even know some names of my neighbor, I don't usually interact with because we all have different thing that like to do, they like basket ball, chit chat, but me all I want is to play online games, then I found this site, and other sites that I can earn money while playing online, even in school I rarely talk with someone, but I do have friends I also a member of scouting organization in our school,
@sagnik42 (3598)
• India
23 May 10
Thats kind of like me...Don't know the names of many of my neighbours. So, you play games online all the time? Or are you concentrating more on earning online?
@xeroeight (1061)
• Philippines
23 May 10
I am now concentrating on earning money online, I am trying to earn $1 per day here in mylot, hopefully I could I'm now at 30 cent per day.
@sagnik42 (3598)
• India
31 May 10
That is cool...Good luck..
@Hatley (164485)
• Garden Grove, California
23 May 10
hi sagnik yes it is so true. I have been mylotting for three years and when we were in our apartment, I knew more about my friends on mylot than I did about the people next door to me. And when the mail carrier put the people next door into our mail I had to take their mail to their door. this gruff man with a strong german accent came to the door," what da ya want?" I said," I have some mail here that was mixed in with ours ,here." He grabbed it and slammed the door in my face.Okay so much for neighborliness.I almost wished I had not bothered. but I met her mother later and she was a very friendly nice lady.exchanges like that with the man make me shy away from meeting my neighbors. but here in Gold Crest a lot of people here are more friendly.Maybe because so many are lonely as they move in here and their children get too busy to bother about mom or dad.
@sagnik42 (3598)
• India
23 May 10
It really is tough when children do not bother about their parents. They get so lonely and sad. As people get old they start losing most of the persons they hold dear and close. If children do not give support to their parents, then who will? It was a nice thing you did for that man, but not everybody is the same. But I do not need to tell you this, do I? You all this yourself. You should be teaching us, not the other way round.
• Philippines
23 May 10
Yes you're right. You should socialize with people in real life than on the net. It's more healthy and fun. It's true that you get to be however you wanna be in the net but It's more cool if you are yourself in real life. Just be true with yourself and meet new people for a change. You'll find that It's worth it.
@sagnik42 (3598)
• India
23 May 10
Thanks Visions, you really have good visions, eh? Even if I do not talk to others, I will definitely talk to that girl...
@Bethany1202 (3432)
• United States
23 May 10
I think I interact a fair amount with the real world... more so than on the internet, although the opposite used to be true. However, I AM a little shy but I still meet my new neighbors. : )
@sagnik42 (3598)
• India
23 May 10
Hi Bethany, nice to hear that you atleast interact with people in the real world. I am quite shy as well, and actually I find it easier to talk to people online than talking to them face to face... Do you face that kind of a problem?
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@dorannmwin (36698)
• United States
25 May 10
I know quite a bit about certain neighbors and there are others that I know nothing about. I know that the kids at the end of the street live with only their father and they don't even get to visit with their mother. Their father is unemployed at this time but studying for a nursing degree. The neighbors on one side of us, the wife is a retired medical transcriptionist and the husband is a self-employed electrician. The other side of us, the husband is a preacher and I'm not sure about the wife although I just learned that she works night shift. I really should learn more about the neighbors, but since we don't have a lot in common it makes it difficult.
@dawnald (84146)
• Shingle Springs, California
24 May 10
I interact with people much more online than in person, with the exception of my immediate family. In a way, it's sad. In a way, it's very cool. You get to meet people you never would be able to otherwise.
@Baluyadav (3644)
• India
24 May 10
hi,yes friend,it is applicable and reflecting the present situation prevail in the present society..you may put the discussion title as-The Girl Next Door...to attract attention of the members[may be i am wrong]but you can put it as people/families...next door also reflects your meaning. I am 47 yer old and i am eperinced the chnge in people's behaveur,attitude,working atmosphere,soil life human relations....during past 30 years...
@nixxi76 (3192)
• Canada
24 May 10
I try to be equally balanced in this situation. I like to meet my neighbors and work out in the world and meet people. Then I come here to mylot or go on facebook and interact on there as well. Take care
@lingli_78 (12844)
• Australia
23 May 10
to tell you the truth, i'm not really a very sociable person and i don't interact that much with people both virtually and in the real world... but i try my best to open up myself more nowadays and interact more with other people so that i can have more friends and don't feel so stressed up in life as well... take care and have a nice day...
@Crizzack (43)
• United States
23 May 10
eh cant really say the same. I know just as much about the people I've met online as the people I know outside the computer world. I think its good to get out there and meet people who arnt on the computer, but theres nothing wrong with interacting with people online.
• India
23 May 10
No, not really. I know a lot more about people in the real life than in the virtual world. Virtual world is an anonymous place and hence you never really know how much truth who is speaking until you get to meet them in person and even then, you cant be sure. I know a lot more about people around me and on daily basis, I like to interact more with them.
@zandi458 (27952)
• Malaysia
23 May 10
Time is changing the way we live our life. The internet has created a virtual world for us to spend most of our time rather than living the reality of the real world. I can honestly tell you that I have more friends in the virtual world than I have in the real world. Since I am a reserved person in real, I can however connect well with people in the cyberworld. I spend endless hours sometimes in front of the computer and probably it goes the same way with others. That make them live in fantasy world without bothering what happen to the neighborhood.
@yresh12 (3222)
• Philippines
23 May 10
Hi Sagnik As for me... I can't really say I have lots of friends online. I do but there are only a few people which I could count who has been close to me and I know what's going on with them. I sympathize and try to be a good friend here. Hmmmm I hope that you would have the opportunity to meet and get to know the girl next door. Good luck!1
@rinzgca (317)
• Philippines
23 May 10
Hmm. This is like a wake up call. I realize that I am actually more active in my online activities than with interacting with actual people. But I guess, that is when you would measure how I spend my leisure time. In general, I don't think I have more interacting in the virtual world because the nature of my work prevents me from doing that. Why? Because I am a teacher in a highschool. Thus, I would really be interacting with real people. But I believe, that if my job wasn't that of a teacher, I would really be more active in the virtual world than in the real world. Which is of course wrong. There should be a balance between the two.
@saphrina (31739)
• South Africa
23 May 10
Sweetie, it is nice to have such good friends in the virtual world, but we have to make sure that the line of the virtual world and reality is very thick and dark in black. Just so you won't miss it. We interact more with online friends than with friends and family. A shame, actually. Now, tell me about that goodlooking girl next door. TATA.
@celticeagle (119846)
• Boise, Idaho
23 May 10
I don't interact with much of anyone. I have severe depression and panic attacks. I live with my granddaughter who does the shopping and goes in places so I don't have to. I go in restaurants and such but only if not too busy. We live in an apartment house and I don't interact with any of the other tenants at all.
• Philippines
23 May 10
hi there sagnik. nice topic. =) well, i guess, more and more people get to live and enjoy the life in virtual world where you can possibly be anyone you want to be. as for me, i guess it's a balance. i really enjoy the real world, but i am fascinated and hooked with the virtual world as long as my real world friends are involved. for my age, i've outgrown the interest to meet with people over the net who are totally strangers. how i use the virtual world is for re-establishing relationships i had for decades with the people whom i haven't seen in long while. the virtual world, however, can promote the following: lack of self confidence, deceit, lack of human sensitivity. anything that you see in the virtual world is made up or synthetic. the real world is more challenging. one must enjoy the real world much rather than the virtual. because at the end of the day, it is with the real people whom we share this life.
@bjcyrix (6910)
• Philippines
23 May 10
LOL That discussion introduction is quite endearing.^_^ Why not try and talk to her sometime. I would have to agree with you on your main discussion point. Most of the people are "connected", online I mean that real life is passing them by the day. That is mostly true for me as well. I hardly know my neighbors and the neighborhood as a whole are just very private people. Its a rare scene to see kids playing outside. Good thing though that some of my neighbors are my classmates so that lessens the stress of knowing of them.LOL But, Im a homebody so whether Im online or offline, its most likely that Im still at home anyway. So why not get some sense of "outside connection" right?^_^ Well, that's just me anyways.^_^