Busy life

United States
May 23, 2010 2:09pm CST
I have five kids, ages 2 - 10, I go to school full time, take care of the house. My husband works 60 hours a week sometimes more and his family go mad when we dont visit more. My mother and father in law both work full time jobs opposite schedules and when do they expect us to go over there? It's not like they invited us to dinner or anything they don't even call, but we are to blame because we don't visit. If anyone can shed some light on this for me that would be great. Oh and after my mother in law stated she wasn't happy about it I asked what her schedule was so we could set up a time for dinner or something and all she would say was "busy". LOL I had no idea what to do at that point.
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@Jaluke (679)
• United States
23 May 10
I may be out of line saying this, but it sounds like your mother in law just wants something to complain and be rude about. I would have been extremely ticked off if I were in your shoes and that was the only response they could give me whenever I was trying to make an effort...something they clearly have never done with the exception of complaining that they want you to visit.
• United States
23 May 10
They never used to be like this but I think they want my husband connected to them by the hip. Their other son has now moved out so they have no one else to complain at and I am very ticked off.
@cream97 (29169)
• United States
23 May 10
Hi, danielle101282. Your mother-in-law just wants to keep mess going on. She knows that you and your husband are just as busy as her husband and she is. If they wanted to come visit you, they should say something about this to you, rather than having a cold shoulder. That is just her childish way of acting because she is scared to come out and ask you all this. If she wants you all to see each more then she should come out and say so. Either her or her husband should. I know that it can be very difficult to see each other more often. I don't go to school. I am at home with my kids, and I still don't have time to see my in-laws as often. I sometimes worried what they might would have thought about me, but I stopped caring. I don't know why in-laws always expect the daughter or son in law to make a move when it has to do with visiting. Since they would rather see you so badly, they can mention it to you and to your husband. Don't let your mother-in-law make you feel bad about not asking either.