would you leave your child at your parents'?
By spoiled311
@spoiled311 (5500)
Philippines
May 26, 2010 2:34am CST
hi all!
my husband is not here as he is abroad for a week. so i am left to take care of our baby and the business. and i don't have a sitter. things are not going too well lately, many orders yet the electricity keeps going off, so we have a lot of back jobs. and it seems my baby is demanding more attention.
so i asked my parents' help. they got my baby yesterday and she spent the night at their place. they are supposed to return her today but then there was a storm, so i don't think they can go out. the streets are flooded and since our car is low, it cannot go through the flooded streets. tsk tsk.
but this time i was able to do a lot of things. so i am thinking of leaving my baby there at least once a month so that i can do some things here and at least i have some breathing space. that way, i can also unwind and give my best to my baby when she comes back.
how about you? would you do the same? would you leave your child at your parents' place?
actually, it is a win-win situation. they too enjoy being with my daughter so at least they get to spend some time with her. :D
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26 responses
@cyberfluf (4996)
• Netherlands
13 Jun 10
If you have a good relationship with your parents and they don't mind watching your baby, I think it definatly is a win-win situation. If I ever have babies I would be happy to leave them in the care of my parents. I know they would love to spend time with their grandchildren on a regular basis and it's a good thing for your child to bond with other familymembers. I would highly prefer it over a sitter. Even though they can be good to your child having your baby watched by people you have known for years, that you love and trust is the more solid option for me personally.
@ratyz5 (7808)
• Philippines
12 Jun 10
That is often the situation for most parents that are both working and don't have enough to hire a sitter for their child(ren), well that's how it is in the country anyway.
With the situation of not earning enought to cover expenses, its inevitable that both parents would be working or even doing multiple jobs just to make ends meet. Now, when they have children, that too adds to expenses so, they really have to work more not only for themselves but, also for the benefit of their children.
Sending them to their grand parents is typcally a good idea, especially when the grand parents are not as busy. Their grand children would really entertain them as they would take care of them while the parents are busy at work. It is indeed a win-win situation if that is the case. However, it is not often like that.. 
@sid556 (30960)
• United States
27 May 10
Who better to care for your child than the grandparents? Grandparents play an important role in the child's life. Parents need breaks. It all works out perfectly. I am a grandmother and I love the time I have with my grandchildren and they love coming to my place for a day or two here and there...whenever it can be fit in. Like you said...it is a win-win situation.
@evepin (721)
• Philippines
27 May 10
There was a week last year when I didn't have any household help and I had to stay at home to attend to my daughter and the house. After three days of being absent though, I felt guilty and so I decided to go to work and leave my 1 yo daughter at my parent's house, but only while i was working. They picked her up and brought her home when I'm already at home. The next day I left my daughter at my in-law's place and picked her up after work. Both my parents' and in-laws' places are only about 1.5 kilometers away from our home so it wasn't really hard for us. I know too that she will be very well taken care of so I didn't have any worries.
@manojt2 (179)
• India
27 May 10
There's nothing wrong in keeping a baby at our parents. They would also like the company and I feel they actually long to have it. In a situation where there are no baby-sitters, I feel this is the most preferable option. Keep them with your parents and leave all the tension and stress. Even the parents are happy.
@cindyspassions (510)
• Lampe, Missouri
26 May 10
there is nothing wronge with this at all. I have 3 kids and my mom takes all 3 from time to time. infact we are going camping this weekend then mom is keeping them for a few days after. last summer she took all 3 for 2 weeks while we got our new shop up and going.
i of course called all the time checking on them and to say good night and all.
@cupkitties (7421)
• United States
26 May 10
Both my dad and step mom work all day long and don't come home til late so I couldn't. If things work out the way my dad has been speaking of then my step mom will be retiring but shes not exactly someone I can count on.
@atv818 (1980)
• United Arab Emirates
27 May 10
That is the right choice. I have more faith in my parents taking care of my kids than with a baby-sitter who is not a relative of mine. Parents took care of us not so long ago, remember? Besides, they love to care for their own flesh and blood as well. One month is a normal time. Not too long and not too short. This will give you time to fix things that needs fixing. Be sure to reward your parents with the things that they like.
@arakawaii (270)
• Philippines
27 May 10
It's okay to leave your baby at your parent's care since most of the grandparents love to have see their grandchildren, yet we also have to consider if its the necessity calls for it or not, our grandparent may love to take care of the children but they should be resting since they are old.
@arakawaii (270)
• Philippines
27 May 10
In my opinion you can leave your baby at your parent's care if they themselves are willing to take care of the baby, yet we also have to consider the hardship they've been through when we were little kids back then but of course grandparents loves children so most of the time my niece is with us.
@sallyj (1225)
• United States
27 May 10
My mother was wonderful with my son. My family farms and he did so many things with them. He learnt a lot, with all the love and attention a child deserves. He usually did not want to come home when i got out of work.
My mother in-law did not want him around. she is a nasty woman & i did not want him there. Their was toys for the other grandchildren, but he was not to get into them, they might mess up her house.
@rosie230 (1696)
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26 May 10
I am a stay at home Mother, and I have left my children with my parents... it is not a bad or shameful thing to do, and as you say they enjoy it... my parents enjoy having time with my two boys. My eldest stays with them every weekend, from Friday after school through to Sunday afternoon, this was something that started when he was younger and I was working late nights. I have left my youngest there too, but these days they only really look after them overnight if I want to have a night out with my boyfriend, without worrying about the children, but this is not very regular though, maybe once in a while. If you dont have a problem and your parents dont have a problem then of course it is fine
@Noirbella (5)
• United States
26 May 10
Absolutely let the child spend time at your parents. It's a great opportunity for you to rest from being a mother 24/7 and they get to spend time with their grandchild and bond. Even more then a day a month would be fine!
@anne25penn (3305)
• Philippines
26 May 10
It depends on my parents and if my baby is not too fussy. I know grandparents love their grandkids but I don't want to impose. Maybe if they will suggest the idea first, I would leave my child with my mom. But still I would not because my mom has cancer and she might not be able to cope with the extra energy my child may have.
@cream97 (29087)
• United States
26 May 10
Yes, I would. If I have that level of trust with my parents that is strong, I will let them keep my baby. It feels good to be able to get a break from your own children sometimes. I know that I can't, because I keep my kids all day long. Enjoy your break and have fun getting as many things done that you can.
@TheAdvocate (2392)
• Philippines
26 May 10
Here in the Philippines, we have no qualms about leaving our children with relatives. We help each other out especially when it comes to children. Mind you here, we leave our parents' houses very reluctantly. It is not unusual for one household to have several families. In my family, we always welcome our nephews and nieces. The kids are regularly dropped off in our house when the parents have to do some errands and they need to do them quickly and in peace. We enjoy having the babies around. I am sure your parents do too!
@Facevalue (65)
• Ghana
26 May 10
Would I leave my child at my parents? Well I'm not yet a parent though. But if I ever do become one. Well it will depend on a whole lot of issues. Like how close I am with my parents and even how far away they are from me. If I'm not really close to them then I don't see the essence of leaving my kid in their care.
