Don't Blame to the parents?

@siliguri (4224)
India
May 26, 2010 4:16am CST
Why the persons always blame to the parents of a child who has a bad manner? About me they are wrong we should not blame always to the parents the main factor which makes their child bad may be his/her friend circle with whom they roam. All parents taught a good thing to their children..what you think my friend on this matter..?
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@se7enthbird (8328)
• Philippines
26 May 10
other people blame the parent of a certain child not looking or not knowing that their own child has flaws too. we parents do are everything to guide our child/children. but when they go out already, play outside, go to school and hang out we can still guide them but sometimes kids attitude differ from what they are inside the house and what they are outside. we are not with them 24/7 but still parents do a great deal to make sure that kid/s are well guided. sometimes when they make a wrong turn, it was their own decision. but with this it makes them aware and strong and learn from their own mistakes.
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@karen1969 (1788)
26 May 10
Yes, we can only start our kids on a path and hope they continue to follow it. But once they are out of our sight, it is their decision as to how they behave and whether they act well or not.
@qamarep (4449)
• Pakistan
27 May 10
no the children also may have the bad habits . they spend alot of time with friends outside so they could be responsible them selves too
@calixto21 (103)
• Argentina
26 May 10
they blame to the parents because.. .. well there are just a lot of parents that barely pay attention to the kid's activities and/or that the kids does with or without there circle of friends, many parents just dont give a f*ck for there kids, and many others are just to busy with there works paying some girl to do the "hard work", anyways is just my opinion and not ALL the parents does what i just said above. Oh and btw if ure feeling like they are blaming on U!, then think what are u doing wrong and watch better ur kid.
@1anurag1 (3580)
• India
26 May 10
I agree with you, that parents must not be blamed in each case. But they are responsible and they must give good habits to their children. Because the first school of a baby is home and if there is no good education how can you expect to him or her to be good. So parents are responsible.
@nixxi76 (3192)
• Canada
26 May 10
I think they use this threat on parents so they will keep thier kids in line. Sure the children's peers are the ones that throw them off and are to blame for directing the kids in the wrong direction. There are also those parents who are not deserving of parenthood you know the parents who let their kids out after 10pm and roam around the streets all night? I've seen that and I believe those are the parents who should be blamed for their children's actions because they are very careless and don't care what their kids are doing and just using them as a meal ticket when they get money for their children. Take care
@Bebs08 (10689)
• United States
26 May 10
Well, all people think that parents are the ones responsible for the behavior of their kids either it is bad or good behavior. I agree with you that parents are teaching their children good things but children are sometimes, pressured by friends to do bad things. It is still the responsibility of the parents to follow up the whereabouts of their children every now and then and always remind them to do good because everything will reflect to the parents.
@karen1969 (1788)
26 May 10
Yes, I agree, parents try their hardest but it is down to each child to how they choose to behave. I have 4 teenage children. My 2 eldest (19 and 18) don't smoke, are polite, don't commit crimes, work hard, etc. but my 17 year old smokes, drinks, is disrespectful, doesn't want to work, steals, etc. So how can that all be my fault - some good kids, some not? I asgree their friends make a big difference, as they will often copy their friends behaviour (like they will smoke, if their friends do).
• India
26 May 10
U r aboslotely right as one should not blame parents for the behaviour of the children as they r not the only one who teach them as they go to school have friends and may learn some bad habits from them too which their parents have not taught them ever.
• Philippines
26 May 10
So you're saying we should just blame the kids? That's a great point. I love it.
@ifa225 (11098)
• Indonesia
26 May 10
i think we all have the will to make our self to have a bad manner or good especially if we had grow up as an adults.
@med889 (5958)
26 May 10
Parents do whatever they can for the children and the latter should be able to understand this fact too. There is something called Generation gap where there are and will be many things which both of the parents and children won't accept and agree about but the only way to deal with it is to show affection and there should be communication instead of alienation.
@hanna811 (132)
• China
26 May 10
Never ever tread bad to our parents .They gave us lives and raised us .It's the most difficult work in this world ,so is there any reason to blame them ?
@babyanna (1217)
• China
26 May 10
Hi,siliguri! Maybe at a certain degree,many people think that it is the parents who should be responsible for their children's behaviour.It is the parents that educate and discipline their children and tell them what is right and what is wrong.And for sure,the parents should also prevent their children from making friends with some not-so-nice ones. It is sure that we shouldn't blame every fault to parents.We are all responsible for the mistakes we have made.And some are just unavoidable. However,I think not all the parents are teaching their children right things.Some parents don't care about their children.Some focus more on their business than their children.Some think they are teaching their children right things while they are not.You see,my friend,everyone has their own values.And we can't say what we think is right is definitely right.What do you say? So,I think,yeah,we should not blame to the parents of everything.But sometimes they do need to take on their responsibilities. Have a nice day!
• Philippines
26 May 10
hi! Yes, I do agree that it's not the parents who should be blamed. We must put into consideration that it's not only them that the child gets involved with. A lot of factors especially the environment partakes in the child's behavior. And I don't think that parents would teach their children things that are unpleasant.
@rosie230 (1674)
26 May 10
As a parent myself I do agree with you, the reason for this is because before my son started school he was very polite, and thankful... and then he started school, and after a couple of years, he seems to have such an attitude, he has become quite rude, although not to people he does not know that well, and of course not to his teachers... but having said that he answers back a lot to me and other family members, he thinks that he is the only one that matters, and that he has the answer to everything... he has become quite ungrateful with certain things that he gets or gets to do, and he seems to expect everything has to be dropped for him. I know this sounds quite bad really, as he is only 9, but this is not something that happens all the time, but it does happen very reguarly these days... I have spoke to other parents a the school and they have had and are still having the same problems with thier own children... so in my mind i think that school has changed him in a huge way, and probably because of his group of friends... maybe because he wants to be better them all the time or because he wants to be like them... whatever it is I can say that it is a worry, as I just do not know how he will be the older he gets. As his mother I expect him to respect me, I do not want the respect to be lost and for him to treat me or speak to me in such a bad way.
@kirthy (387)
• India
26 May 10
yaa siliguri , you are right. we should not blame our parents. i think it is a sin.