"I LOVE YOU"- do you really mean it every time you say it!?

May 26, 2010 9:30am CST
Hell0 people! WE all have used these words at least once in our lifetime. there are many of su who even use them many times per day, but I wanted to ask, do you really mean it, when you say it, or you just say it so, because it is already like a habit!? there are many people who say it just so, without having any feeling!
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@annavi23 (6302)
• Philippines
28 May 10
i'm not always saying iloveyou to my family members specially my parents.that's why when i do i know that it's true. well, i always tell my 3yr. old niece that i love her and i mean it well of course. well,i remembered one time that i have said i love you to a guy that i don't really love.he's like "torpe" and doesn't know how to court a nice girl like me. so i was the one who courted him.i think it's not court by the way,but it looks like it. well,he doesn't talk much because of shyness.but i know that he likes me.we even have a date but i'm the one who talks than him.kinda boring in a way. well,i like his physical features,taller than me and dark and slightly handsome. i just would like to know if how can my life be when i'm with him? so,i told him that i love him. just as i thought,nothing would change.he doesn't still talk much and is like don't care for me much.so i broke up with him after a month and to my surprise he has a girlfriend when we're still together.luckily,i didn't fall for him...
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28 May 10
well, I also don't tell it to my family members, maybe because I feel a bit shy or something like that, I really don't know why, but it is a really nice suggestion that you gave me- maybe I must think over it and find the answer. well, it was a bad experience yuo have had with that guy but I hope ti won't happen again!
@annavi23 (6302)
• Philippines
29 May 10
yeah,sometimes i felt shy saying iloveyou to family members specially parents. what do you have to think over,my friend? about my experience with the guy,well it don't matter to me anymore. i really don't like him by the way and i just tried having him for just once because my best friend is the one who is really madly in love with him.she knows that she was not the type of the guy so i just tried to have experience and didn't turn out as just as i thought.i even don't have friends with him.he's too quiet and i'm also quiet.what will happen to us,right?i dson't like being bored cause my life is boring itself.i want someone that will make me happy and always be there for me.not like him.
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29 May 10
well, I guess that you have to keep searching for that guy and don't get upset if you can't find him soon, because as we all know there is the right person foreach of us, but someone finds it earlier than someone else. Powered by Phoenix8606
@neildc (17268)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
27 May 10
me and my wife used to say "i love you" everyday. i don't think either one of us will say the words without really mean it. but i remember i told someone before that i love her, but i lied.
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28 May 10
well, it is nice to know that people love each other and tell those three words, but what was the reason to tell that you love someone before you actually felt that feeling!?
@neildc (17268)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
28 May 10
it's actually i just told her that i love you but not. and it's not my wife but to some other girl. just to get her. silly me.
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28 May 10
well, you were a naughty boy Powered by Phoenix8606
@CJscott (4184)
• Canada
26 May 10
I say what I mean (most of the time, I occasionally have trouble with semantics.). But more to the point, I mean what I say. I tell people all through the day that I love them, and I do. I love them as friends, and neighbors, as coworkers, and as people I can learn from. I love all the people that come into my life, for the lessons I learn from them, and the joys they bring me. Even those that chose to do me harm, I learn from. I learn so much, and I appreciate all these people. I love each and every one of Gods Children, and I say so. And I mean it. Many people think I over use the words, so few people can feel the sincerity now a days, sometimes, I wonder whether or not it matters, because of how insensitive we are to the finer emotions. Sincerely and with Love and Appreciation.
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28 May 10
well, I can't say that I truly love so many people as you do, just because love for me is something really precious, something that is deep in my heart and only few people can deserve. as for the coworkers I can say that I respect them, but really not love them, and asto the friends- yes, there are some of them that I can say I love and many that I respect.
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@CJscott (4184)
• Canada
28 May 10
I agree completely phoenix, Love is something really precious, something that is deep in my heart. I just feel that a lot more people can deserve it then, well, most people think. Jesus taught us to love our neighbor, and love our enemy, I understand and follow his teachings to the best of my ability. It makes me the most smiley person I have ever met. Sincerely and With Appreciation.
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28 May 10
yes, I know that many people deserve to be loved not only our family members and our spouses, but I just can't open my heart for so many of them, maybe because I am afraid not to get hurt :( Powered by Phoenix8606
• Philippines
9 Jun 10
me,,when i say I LOVE YOU i really mean it because this is the way how to express your feelings to someone you loved so much in your whole life...when I'll say this phrase to someone I'll make sure that i really mean it a lot,, there are some people just say the phrase without any feelings maybe they have no intentions to take it seriously,,maybe for the satisfaction of someone... if you say I LOVE YOU to a person or the one you love take it seriously from the bottom of your heart because you don't know life is short you have to say what you feel before it's too late....
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11 Jun 10
Yes, I also think that we should only tell these three words only to people we really love and not just so, just because someone else has said it to us. We must feel the love and express it with words and not just talking foolishness. I also say it only if I really mean it! Powered by Phoenix8606
@nangisha (3504)
• Indonesia
2 Jun 10
I rarely saying I love you in my life. Every time I say it. It come from my deepest heart. I am not the kind of person who saying I love you without no meaning, I have a friend who say I love to many people so with easily every day, Its hard to imagine he will say it from his heart because he said it with no feeling in that word.
2 Jun 10
hell0 ningisha! yes, I also don't say it without to mean it realy, because that's the way it must be, we must eb fair with the people and don't lie them about things like that, because sometimes lie-words can really hurt somebody which would be very bad to that person! Powered by Phoenix8606
@ouch88 (32)
31 May 10
I not that kind of person who always say the word I LOVE YOU . That's why when I say it, It really is true and besides. Why should I say I LOVE YOU if I don't mean it? It would just be a waste of time.
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2 Jun 10
well, i guess that you won't waste that much time :) but yes- there is no need to asy it if you don't mean it and some people do that, because they want to achieve something! Powered by Phoenix8606
@Ninaaah (93)
• Serbia And Montenegro
28 May 10
Well it depends. When you are drunk you say some things you don't mean haha. Yes I agree with you that this is phrase becomes daily habit and sometimes when I want to say I like you I say I love you. But I really mean it when I say it to mom, boyfriend etc.
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28 May 10
yes, to the people we really love, to our family we mean it, but so metimes even as you say when we are drunk we use it voluntary or not, but in both cases we actually don't mean it truly and sometimes we can hurt somebody just because he/she will know that we are not honest!
• Philippines
28 May 10
I really mean it when i say i love the person specially who are attached to me.but you know what some people just say they love the person just to satisfy other feelings but they don't really mean it.
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28 May 10
yes, there are always people like that, who say words like that just to satisfied someone or to get something that they want, which is really sad!
@cerebellum (3871)
• United States
27 May 10
I try not to say that unless I really mean it. When someone says it to me, I don't always believe it. I think the way you act means much more than what you say. That phrase seems to be said too much to mean anything lately.
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28 May 10
hell0 cerebellum(long time no see) well, yes, actions can really be more valuable and better than words, but sometimes the right words, from the right person, in the right moment can worth much more than any action
@Opal26 (17694)
• United States
26 May 10
Hi phoenix! Why are you so young, but yet so wise and so right! Some people have no trouble saying those three words, and that is because I believe that they don't mean it! There are no real feelings behind them and some of them just say them to get what they want! No offense, but more often men do it, although don't get me wrong there are plenty of gold digging women who will drop those words like their hot to get what they want and drop whatever else they have too along with it (get what I'm saying)! So, if someone says those words to you, make sure you KNOW who they are and if you can trust them! Me and my girlfriends say it to each other, but even to them I won't say it unless they are a true enough real friend and I mean it!
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28 May 10
hell0 Opal! Thank you for your support, it makes me feel really proud with friends like you well, guess that there are really many people like the ones you have describe here and yes, we can recognize them just if we lsiten to their voice, just of we look them in the eye, because a person who really means that and knows what it erally means to the person he/she says it, will have some flame, some sparkle in his/her eyes and won't say it just so. nowadays it is really hard to find friends like that, whom you can trust fully and know that they are honest with you when they say that they love you!
@dawnald (84132)
• Shingle Springs, California
26 May 10
yeah I don't say it unless I mean it...
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@1anurag1 (3581)
• India
26 May 10
i think most of the time No. Yes we could love someone alot. But some time we just say these words to show our gestures and not each time this means what it should be. What ever i think the feelings are more important than the words.
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28 May 10
yes, guess that you are right- sometimes it is just a habit or a selfish behavour and people reall ydon't mean it and don't feel it when they use these three words. sometimes it is sad, because people feel that you are not honest saying it to them and that makes them sad!
• China
26 May 10
Usually i don't use this so much. And I love you we can say to our family member,friend and people also without our lover. So i say it and i meant it. With out mean we can not say this i think.
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28 May 10
well, of course we can say it to everyone, not only to our spouse/partner, but to whoever you tell it, you must mean it and not just tell it because the other has told it to you and you feel obliged to say it too!
@Baluyadav (3644)
• India
26 May 10
hi,yes,friend.Few valuable words become casual now a days.I love you...is one of those..bye..sorry...pardon me...execuse me...all the best...best of luck..God bless you............ Here the point is those words are not coming from the inner heart of the persons,who are pronouncing these words...as you mentioned.
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28 May 10
yes, there are also some other words, that you haev alerady mentioned that can be valueable as I LOVE YOU, but as you know it too, there are some " fake people" who tell those words only to make some positive affect on others and they actually don't mean it and don't feel those words in their hearts!
• Philippines
26 May 10
Yes i mean it. That is the best phrase in the world. Best day ever.
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28 May 10
well, good for you! I really like it because I think you are honest with me :)
@bachyyy (195)
• Bulgaria
15 Sep 10
I use this words very often ... But only 1st time i say them i realy understand what is real love ... after that when i say it i don`t feel anything :)