Do you believe that your bestfriend is your worst enemy?

Philippines
May 28, 2010 12:21pm CST
I certainly do. A petty miscommunication started a big fight between me and my bestfriend. As bestfriends, I've revealed all my secrets to her, share all about me. She knows me inside-out. Which depresses me much because knowing even my weaknesses serve an advantage to her part. She used my weaknesses to annoy me, struck my feelings and even embarrassed me to others.That was one worst nightmare I can't forget. Luckilly, we had the time to patch things up and settle the whole problem. Now, everythings back in place. I'll never wish to be her enemy ever. Do you also share the similar views as mine? Hope to hear from you.Have a great time.
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20 responses
@simplycza (1480)
• Philippines
29 May 10
yes I do. It happened to me. I treated her as my best friend and its too late when I realized that she is not worth it. It was really sad then, though God knows how I tried to settle things and bring back the friendship, but it could never be the same again. NOw, I learned my lessons...
• Mexico
29 May 10
Hi simplycza: I understand how you should feel at the moment. IOt's always hard to find a person and beleive he/she is really your friend and then to see how this person wasn't worth to it. I think there's always a reason for these things, and life goes on. Thanks for your answer. Have a nice day. ALVARO.
• India
29 May 10
I dont think my best frienda s my worst enemy but ye it depends on what all you share with your best friend, there are some things in world which can be shared with an unkown person rather than an friend or a wife. because the known person will be around you and that can annoy you a lot
@Renhard (3480)
• Jamaica
30 May 10
Yes its like that. I would prefer to share something with someone i wont meet again or someone who don't even know me, rather than to share it with someone close to me. Its better that way.
@aimroma (69)
• Philippines
29 May 10
I agree with you. Best friends are the people who can make you feel safe but at the same time MAY put you to danger. I experienced that back in elementary. I had the fight with my best friend and we really did not speak to each other. we told our classmates our hate with each other. Fortunately, I never experience the same incident that you had. At this time, I sometimes argue with my close friend and we may have bad-feelings toward each other. Good thing, my friend does not do "that" to me. My friend just keeps his mouth shut and waits for the time I settle down. My friend is a he anyway. That's the reason why sometimes, boys can be good friends.
• Philippines
29 May 10
I agree, boys can be good friends too. They care so much and pamper you that much...
• Philippines
29 May 10
so far i never had an enemy that used to be my best friend, though your right, if theres someone whom we can be great enemy then that would be our bestfriend as they know every thing about us and they know how to tear us apart. thats also the reason why i didnt tell my all my personal secret to friends as i dont want them to use it against me, im already contented opening it up here in mylot as i know my secret is safe here as they dont know me personally.
• Philippines
29 May 10
In one way or another, you got a point there. Thank you so much for sharing.
@jamed28 (1909)
• Philippines
29 May 10
A bestfriend knows you in all aspects. Then he/she will be your enemy? So he/she knows how to hurt you most. that simple!
• Philippines
29 May 10
its very true. she has all the information about you. She/he can destroy you even in a snap.
@1anurag1 (3580)
• India
28 May 10
Yes i do agree. But who are friends. Friends are those who will not do any thing bad to us even when we are not in a relationship. So if she is really your best friend. You must not worry about any thing. I think you must just be normal. Yes i agree with the point that she could be dangerous if she wants. As she knows all the secrets of yours.
• Philippines
29 May 10
I'm just glad that right now, everythings ok between us. And i did understand that what she did to me was maybe a mere reaction to what she felt about the situation..
@jaiho2009 (39001)
• Philippines
28 May 10
That's the sad part of any friendship,could it be best of friends or common friends. People will use our weakness or secrets to blackmail us,or destroy us,which is not a right thing to do. In friendship,when things go wrong,secrets must be kept a secrets. It should not be used to manipulate or destroy the other person. Sharing secrets and personal life with our best friends is trusting our life. So,if your friend had ever use your secrets to humiliate and destroy you,she doesn't deserve to be a real friend. I can say is,be careful with her. She's not trustworthy,and she doesn't deserves your trust and honesty. I am not saying that you avoid her,just be careful and keep some distance or reservation from her. Or she will use again all your secrets when things go wrong on your relationship. Have a good day always
• Philippines
29 May 10
Thanks for reminding me it means so much...
• Philippines
28 May 10
I do believe that your bestfriend can be your worst enemy cuz he knows your weaknesses. He can use that to his advantage over you but you can too. Knowing this, i also believe that two friends can destroy each other completely. :)
• Philippines
29 May 10
Hi. Oh yes I can destroy her to but prefered not to coz I still believe in the bondage we have.. thanks.
• Philippines
22 Jun 10
you are not the only one in this world who is experiencing that problem. I had that dilemma to. I have a friend and we became best friends and we treat each other now as sisters. I told her almost all my secrets and we never thought that bad times would come for our friendship. Then something happened that almost broke our friendship. We fell in love with the same guy. That started our cold war before. But because we had developed a really strong friendship foundation, we got to patch things up and now we are still best friends. This best friend of mine is really talkative and she shares secret without intending it. The remedy that I made is that I decline from telling her much of my secrets. I thought that wasn't fair at first because I thought that you were supposed to share secrets because you are best friends. But I found out that that an little privacy between close friends won't hurt...
• Mexico
29 May 10
Hi rhaze bustamante: I sometimes fight with my bestfriend, but thanks God he doesn't do these things to me. If he'd did it I wouldn't forget him for a while because he's my friend and it's supposed that he has to respect me and that means that if I have shared some important secrets with him, their mine and he can't reveal them. I trust on my bestfriend and I hope he'll never be an enemy to me. Thanks for asking us this question. Have a nice day. ALVARO.
• Philippines
29 May 10
I agree because I can't fight back with my utmost bad attitude. I will still think of our friendship and that will matters most to me.
@kirthy (387)
• India
29 May 10
no, i won t believe it. becas my best friend know about me. but she always give me good ideas. she will happily enjoyed my victories, when i get tears she gave me her shoulders. the true friend ever be an enemy.
@Renhard (3480)
• Jamaica
29 May 10
Yes i also think that my best friend is my worst enemy. Just that, what i have learnt from past experience is that I don't tell ANYBODY not even my best friend things that can hurt me. I might only tell them things that make me feel better. You know I start to hide almost everything from everybody nowadays. I don't want anyone in my business nowadays as it might turn out to a disadvantage to me some day. It is better if I keep my mouth shut as I can't trust anyone.
@monkeylong (3146)
• Guangzhou, China
29 May 10
As far as I am concerned, I think I can not agree with you so much that our best friends can be our worst enermy in the world. As we all know that the friendship is so important for us. Without friendship, I think our life can be so terrible. In some ways, our friends are usually trying their best top help us. No one is trying be a role as a enermy.
@Devilova (5396)
• Indonesia
29 May 10
For me.Best friend was the best place to share, so they know everything about me.It will be so worst if we get fight, most of my secret has known by them.So, I never try to make something that can boiled the situation.
@cupkitties (7493)
• United States
29 May 10
No I'm pretty sure I'm my worst enemy.
@ebuscat (5949)
• Philippines
29 May 10
For me yes it is the way the best friend in result because Satan tend to do so so that your friend isnot your friend and became your enemy too.
• Philippines
29 May 10
i can't really tell by experience because i think i don't really have a best friend. ahahah... i have a really close friend and i'm also pretty open to one of my sisters, but i don't really share everything. and so based on the book rule of what a "best friend" is, i figured i don't have one.^_^ but logically (i know this won't be much of a help, because really you can't be logical when it comes to relationship but i want to respond to your discussion so i'm sorry this is all i have), i think a friend can never really be the best if in times of misunderstanding he/she took advantage of your relationship- using your weaknesses against you, etc. i'm often at war with my close friends and with my sister too, but as far as i remembered they had never used my weaknesses to humiliate me in public. they do use them against me while we're having verbal fights privately but i think never in public. because i don't remember any humiliating experiences with our fights at all.^_^
@jugsjugs (13045)
28 May 10
I think you are right that some friends could be your worst enemy as i have a friend that i have known years and she knows all there is to know about me aswell as my family and i know that she has spoken about me to other people the same way as she talks about them behind their back to me.
@qamarep (4449)
• Pakistan
28 May 10
i believe that this can hapen. so thats why Expert people say that dont make anyone too close that in bad times he will be your enemy