what do you think of a boyfriend who is just so careless over your things?
May 29, 2010 10:38pm CST
my boyfriend is just so careless that this becomes a frequent topic in our quarrels. he has lost my memory card, card adaptor, usb and lately my precious mug that i was hesistant to let him borrow. i am just so furious about this carelessness because i treasure my things so much that it is to frustrating he is just the opposite! will somebody help me ease this anger?
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31 May 10
In that position, I'd give him an ultimatum. Either start respecting your things or go. My ex was like that. A lot of my things got ruined because of him. My CDs for example, he would take them out of the player and just toss them aside instead of putting them back in the case that was RIGHT THERE. The last straw was when he decided to use a picture of me with one of my favorite musicians (which he had signed) as a coaster. The picture was ruined, I was furious. That's when I realized something very important. If he doesn't have any respect for the things that I worked hard to earn the money to buy, or the things that were important to me... how much respect did he have for me? The answer was none. So I kicked his sorry butt to the curb.
30 May 10
i'd like to answer your question with another question. what did you do about it? i'd say talk to him and tell him it angers you when he loses your things. if he doesn't change then say goodbye to him. if you can't see yourself saying goodbye to the relationship because of his talent to lose your stuff then you just have to grin and bear it. personally, if my boyfriend is like this the relationship would be over in a jiffy. who knows what else he can lose when we're already committed and life is already complicated?
30 May 10
Sometimes i'm like this. I get so careless with stuff. Not just my girlfriend's stuff but everybody's. Maybe you should talk to him and tell him you value your stuff and if he can't take care of it then you're not gonna let him borrow your stuff. And prolly don't give him any lovin' either. Lol.