Would you ever force your child into a relationship?

United States
May 30, 2010 11:36am CST
Are you the kind of parent who sets up your child on blind dates? Or arranges for them to meet someone to marry? Do they listen to you? I personally am happy with whoever my child wants to marry. She can get married when she wants to. (Not too young though as long as she's living under my roof.)I don't care to who it is, man or woman. As long as she's happy and they both love and respect each other. But if I get suspicious of any kind of abuse, I WILL intervene, for better or for worse. So what do you think? When do you think is the right time to intervene? Are you a mother-father-in-law? Are you happy with who your child has chosen? Share your story so we can all learn from each other!!!!! =) thanks!
6 responses
@kukueye (1761)
• Malaysia
31 May 10
Well , sometime parents opinions are vital too , since they are more expensive,however the final decision lies on the children.Parents can advice and point towards that direction only. At the end , the children have to find their own and judge whether parents advice are wrong or right. Sometime , when a person think he/she is in love , hence sometime blinded to see the facts.Love is blinds and sometime is cruel and it is not a bed of roses.
@werty009 (404)
• Philippines
31 May 10
well my girlfriend before well sadly i ended up that way she dump me because her older sister don't want me as her boyfriend and then my past girlfriend tell me that her sister want her to marry an American or not a Filipino guy well it was hard and harsh for me cause i love the girl so much and just an order from her sister get me dump
• Malaysia
31 May 10
Personally i think many parents out there especially those who still hold on to tradition will choose for their children. I remember during my school year most of my teachers are arrangged marrige just because the parents are afraid that they might end up marring the local girls or guys from our state (most of them come from different states). My parents also force me. Force me out of a relationship just because they don't like the guy i'm seeing. they did not even try to get to know him...but i still see him because i am only happy with him and not with any other guy. I believe the elderly should give advice and not force their children to take a path that they think is the best for them since it is not their life and they can't predict what will happen in the future.
• Philippines
31 May 10
No, i'll never be that kind of parent. I won't setup my kid on dates. He can choose who he wants to marry, i won't choose for him.
• Philippines
30 May 10
If I was a parent I will never force my child into a relationship. I will give suggestions and advise but I won't force it to them. I don't like it if ever my parents will do that to me.
@jaiho2009 (39079)
• Philippines
30 May 10
My eldest is only 16 yrs old and is a freshman at university this coming school opening. She don't have boyfriend as of now,and i wish she won't have any until she finished her course. But if in any case,she will have one,i will asks or make some investigation regarding the boy's background,just to ensure my daughters future and welfare. I am not a kind of parent who will choose for my kids partner. I will leave the choice for them,it is their life and not mine. I will intervene if i know my kid is not in good hand or condition,or,if,proven that,their bf or gf is not a good influence. Freewill to love and choose is for my kids when it comes to marriage or relationship. But still,i will make sure they'll choosing the right one.