Did you ever felt that your partner was never proud of you?

Philippines
June 2, 2010 1:26pm CST
There are instances that your partner doesn't want to introduce you to other people including their friends and family. They seem not proud of having you as their partner. They sometimes don't bring you along with them and some denies you especially if you are not with them? Have you ever experienced this? How did you deal with it?
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• Philippines
2 Jun 10
You know I'm really glad that my boyfriend isn't like this. He's very proud of me even though I can't say that I'm proud of myself. I have low self-esteem but he wouldn't hear it when I tell him about my negative aspects. He just loves me as I am and he loves telling everybody that I'm his girl. :)
• Philippines
2 Jun 10
It's good that you have a man who could stand on a mountain and tell the world how proud and happy he is to have you. Some are not lucky enough just like you and I wish he will never change. Good luck to both of you! Happy Mylotting! :D
• Philippines
3 Jun 10
hi! i can say that my husband is proud of me too. we spent 7years together before we got married and even in our boyfriend-girlfriend relationship, he used to introduced me to his friends, to his colleagues to his family....even til now that were married, he introduces me to his new friends and love to make me out to the his parties. if i wont go with him in a party then he'd rather stay home with me. i am proud to say that he loves spending every minute with him and we loved spending time together. we dont find it boring...been asking why others are complaining in spending so much time with their partner. if he finds negative about me...he talks to me, he was so supportive on every thing that i loved to do...i know i am blessed for having my partner and i always thank God for that.
• Philippines
3 Jun 10
You are really blessed for having a man whose perfect to be with. How I wish I could find a man whose like yours. :)
@clouds0327 (1390)
• Philippines
13 Jun 10
When my husband were not yet married. There came a time when we've been together for so long already and he was starting not to bring me along, lie to me and all that. I felt so looked down and humiliated. I felt like he dont love me anymore because of that.. And I started being so rebellious.. But that was years ago, how I dealt about it. After crying for 1 week and really grieving a lot, I moved on and told myself what the hell, he is not worth it, its his LOSS... And then he returned..But I was not the old innocent and nice kind idiot they can put in their pocket anymore. If he wants to get back with me, he have to respect me and treat me the way I love myself... So that's it, thank God he changed and we are married now.
• Philippines
13 Jun 10
oops typo errors there. *when my husband and I were not yet married
• Philippines
13 Jun 10
Good thing he's changed and I salute him for that. I just hope he would grow old being proud of you. Just be yourself. :)
• Philippines
13 Jun 10
I will definitely will..
@rastogisw (446)
• India
2 Jun 10
My husband never take me to his friends marraige or party or some thing social by saying this that you will get bore there because i cant give you company ther so now i alos neve bother for going with him for his parties.
• Philippines
2 Jun 10
What's wrong with this kind of men? After courting and marrying you, they are not proud to bring you with them and let the world know that he married the woman of her dreams? They are so stupid and selfish. I hate this kind of men, what do they think of themselves? Perfect? Damn them!
@bigal3 (1231)
• Thailand
11 Jun 10
Without knowing the culture you ladies are from it is difficult to respond to this topic. As a general rule a man/woman generally should treat eachother with respect if nothing else as a human being. I am however painfully aware of certain societies where this is not the case. To me the way you two are being "treated" shows no respect for you as a person much less a loved one. I don't know what's going on these days. In my day a lady was a lady and a man was a "gentleman". It seems sad for both sexes those days are gone.
@rosie230 (1674)
2 Jun 10
Yeah I experience this all the time with my boyfriend... the fact is though, I don't care anymore I think you just get used to it in the end, as much as it can be annoying... but I have learnt that if he wants to have time with his mates, then I am cool with that.
• Philippines
2 Jun 10
So sad to hear that. It's good you got used to it but if I were you, I might not be with him for a long time. I hope he will soon realize how you made up his life and regret that he was never fair in treating you as a special person in his life.
@bigal3 (1231)
• Thailand
11 Jun 10
You said it "cheatedaph...". No one, man or woman has to put up with being disrespected. That's the trouble with the world today. No "RESPECT" for eachother. To me it starts at the most basic level and that's two individuals be they man,man; lady,lady; or man and lady. It comes to respect of another person. What is his side of the story? What does he say is the reason for not being a "gentelman with you?
@p3ks626 (6550)
• Philippines
3 Jun 10
I felt that many times but I am trying to ignore it. I dont wanna feel that way especially it has something to do with how my partner is treating me. I dont know if I am being paranoid about it but there were things that he did that I can tell for myself that he is not proud of me or something. It has a negative effect on me, I tend to show him the same things he is showing me.
• Philippines
3 Jun 10
If you think you feel paranoid, well I guess not. What you feel has something to do with the way he teats you at times. Don't let this feelings affect you in a negative way so you won't lose your self esteem. If he seems not proud of you then there's no reason for you to be proud of him either. Best thing is, just be your self.
@med889 (5958)
3 Jun 10
I have experience this and it was not so far from now where he met his friend and they were talking, I was next to my boyfriend but he did not even introduce me to his friend while I always do it when I meet my friend in his presence, I told him about it later on, he said he did not know about it and does not even care to let others know about me because i am with him and this is more important than showing off his girlfriend to his friends, as from that day I have also decided to do the same to know how he will feel now.
• Philippines
3 Jun 10
If he really loves you, he should tell everyone even if you don't oblige him to do. It's like something automatic for a man and a woman to introduce their partners to someone they meet along the way or maybe to their friends as well as to their family. He's reasoning either is not acceptable. Introducing you to people he know does not mean he's showing you off, it should just mean that "my friends will be your friends", just simple as that.
@evepin (723)
• Philippines
3 Jun 10
I am proud to say that my husband has always been proud to be with me. He introduces me to everyone he knows. He immediately introduced me to his family and relatives when we were not yet married. Every time we celebrate our "monthsaries" he always tells me of how proud he is to have me as his wife and mother to his child.
• Philippines
3 Jun 10
I feel happy for you, it means you have found the right person to be with. Wishing all the best for both of you.
• Nigeria
2 Jun 10
i would like you to permit me to call that a stupid love, cos to me it make no sense of being of no proud of what you have. remember that whatever you don't appreciate will surely depreciate. and if am the other person who is not valuable, i think i don't see any sense i staying in that love any longer
• Philippines
2 Jun 10
yes you're right.There's no reason why you would stick to a person who's not proud of you. I will never be proud of someone who is not proud of me either.
• India
14 Jun 10
Hello Let me tell you, i always feel that my partner, i mean my wife is always proud of me and i am proud of her, we married in 1966.. Thanks for sharing. Welcome always. Cheers. Professor
@bigal3 (1231)
• Thailand
11 Jun 10
Have they always been that way? How long have you been togather? If it just started rather recently could mean one thing while if he has always treated you that way for sometime means something else. If it is the first oneit could mean he has lost interest in the relationship. However if is the second situation it may mean, (and this may be hard to swallow)that you've allowed this to happen right from the start. Ask yourself if it was like that when you first got togather. If not, ask yourself when did you first notice the change if there was one. From there you can draw a basic conclusion to what may have caused the change if there was one. What do you think?