Da Guy In Da Gym Started Bleeding !!!!!!

@sunnycool (12737)
India
June 3, 2010 6:28am CST
It was a bad day for me. there is one big fatso in my gym....he's been trying hard to poke me for the last one week...i have been avoiding him for the good He approached me in the morning when i was busy lifting some weights on the bench....we exchange some words and all of a sudden he tries to hit me.I blocked his right hand with my left and landed a big punch on his face...Guess what He fell down and his nose started bleeding and his upper lip was swollen ...I had no intention to hurt him that badly...just lost my temper and you cant expect me to take his blows like Gandhiji. Why on earth you would bother to poke someone if you cannot withstand a single punch? Why do i feel bad about it since morning???.....it was his mistake and he payed for it.It reminds me of a tiff between my close friend and me which makes me sad....i slapped him then and its been one and half year since we spoke. I feel bad about it.....its damn easy to hurt someone all it takes a word or two.....which isn't the same when you want them back into your life as if nothing bad happened. I have intentions to apologise him tomorrow morning......I would like to be surrounded by people who can love me than to hate me.Dont know how he is gonna react to my apology. Do you think i should apologise him(this doesnt influence my decision)....just wanted to know if i'm doing the right thing or not????
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33 responses
@cream97 (29168)
• United States
3 Jun 10
Hi, sunnycool. He had it coming! You can still apologize to him, but he should have left you alone. That was his fault. He was bullying you and he had to pay for what he has done to you. He should have been smart enough not to test you.
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@sunnycool (12737)
• India
3 Jun 10
He did used some bad words at me and last but not least tried to hit me on my face.I would make him as a friend for sure
@bigal3 (1231)
• Thailand
11 Jun 10
Why "sunny", would you want to keep someone like that as a friend? I agree with "cream97" except for the apology. If anyone should apologize it's him.
@saphrina (31740)
• South Africa
3 Jun 10
BB, first of all we don't hit people. That is very RUDE. Ignore him and walk away. That temper will get you into serious trouble. Apologise tomorrow and leave it at that, okay.
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@sunnycool (12737)
• India
3 Jun 10
I never raised my hand on someone in the last one and half year........i dont loose my temper that often
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@saphrina (31740)
• South Africa
3 Jun 10
BB, i will kick your butt.
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@sunnycool (12737)
• India
3 Jun 10
how long would it take you to be here
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• India
3 Jun 10
Just go to hime and tender a verbal apology ....Try explaining him that your act was out of temper and din't mean much ....Try avoiding him after that and try changing you gym timings ....If he really does accept urs ...i think he would himself come and speak with you .... words are more powerful to make or break a relationship.....
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@sunnycool (12737)
• India
3 Jun 10
I have no plans to change my timings though.....i damn good at impressing people so i hope he would accept my apology Oh yeah.....Welcome to mylot
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• India
3 Jun 10
Oh ..yeah Thx... I Think he would....Possibly you coule give him your hand of friendship...maybe that would change his thinking about you ....thumbup
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@sunnycool (12737)
• India
3 Jun 10
Thank you
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@onestop (79)
3 Jun 10
lol! funny you punched him, but when you say he went to hit you did he go to punch you or poke you? If it's a poke he sounds mentally ill, and im serious. People don't just go around poking people. You should appologise and be the better person (even tho its hilarious) and, I don't think many people can take a punch to the face when they don't expect it, if you clip them on the nose, their going down.
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@sunnycool (12737)
• India
3 Jun 10
He started it and raised his hand to hit me and then i landed a punch on him....it happened in a second.Oh common if he cant me then he could have completed his work outs and walked away than to bother me
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• Philippines
5 Jun 10
Why on earth he's trying to poke at you? Have you had a disagreement before? If not why he's crazy. Well my advise is, you did the right thing. You know nobody would let down people if that person wouldn't let him. Serves him right.
@bigal3 (1231)
• Thailand
11 Jun 10
Sunny and Merced... you both hit it right on the money. sunny you have no reason to feel down on yourself . NO, you do not need to apologize.
• United States
4 Jun 10
Absolutely not! Listen I am not one to initiate violence, however there are these mean awful bullies in this life that seem to think that they own the world. I can sense from your posting that you feel really bad, and that is what bullies do, they jab and they jab making us feel like we are worthless. There is only so much we as humans can take. Hon, you did nothing wrong, yes as a human with a conscious it was not your intention to hurt him. If he approaches you to discuss things I would say that you are sorry that you "hurt" him that way but he has been getting on your last nerve for a very long time and you no longer could take it. If he never approaches you well it's his loss. Look at the great sensitive and caring friend he would've gained. I am in no way condoning violence or egotism, I am just saying if he doesn't change his ways, next time he will be approached by someone with a caring conscious and he will get killed. It is the way of the world. Maybe this will get him to be more caring towards others. We can only hope. Take it easy and keep yourself busy so you don't think about too much.
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@Hatley (164652)
• Garden Grove, California
4 Jun 10
good for you, he was wronged by that bully so no do not apologize as if the bully did not start the whole thing, he would not be having a bloody nose. I would have then kicked him smack in the seat of his pants. do not apologize.
@sunnycool (12737)
• India
4 Jun 10
That should be working...he did try to bully for his very own reasons and i think its time to leave them behind and get along with other than to exchange blows on each others faces which does no good to either of them
@zed_k4 (17627)
• Singapore
3 Jun 10
Bro, spur of the moment huh? Ha.. sometimes things like this happen.. If you feel bad, just apologize to him, I think he will be alright with it.
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@sunnycool (12737)
• India
4 Jun 10
I did apologise him hoping for the best and he didnt say a word in return...
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@zed_k4 (17627)
• Singapore
10 Jun 10
Maybe he's still angry??
@apples99 (6564)
• United States
3 Jun 10
Aww man sorry to read that you got into a confrontation that resulted in someone getting hurt. As to whether you were right or wrong in the situation, I dont know because I wasn't there I can only say that I do not condone violence in any way shape or form, and I try to avoid fighting or hitting someone because its just not cool to fight or hit people. I would only use protective measures if I had no choices meaning if someone was trying to inflict bodily harm on me that could result in me being seriously injured or worse. Meaning I would only consider fighting as self defence only. but when it comes to situations like what you described in your post, I most likely would have avoided the situation completely instead of allowing things escalate to violence's, by avoiding I mean go to another Jim especially if this person had bothered you before or showed you an unpleasant attituds in the past, now on the subject of apology its a very sticky thing because this person my not be willing to accept your apology right now, and it could result in another fight. though I think its good that you are considering an apology, but maybe you should let things cool off for a while before you do that, just my opinion.
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@sunnycool (12737)
• India
4 Jun 10
You cant expect me to take in those bad words for so long...There is a limit for every thing and he did cross it yesterday...what bothers me is i didnt intend to hurt so badly...i knew i had a hard hand but it was involuntary. I did apologise him today and i dont think he is in no mood to pick a fight in the coming days.
@apples99 (6564)
• United States
4 Jun 10
Yes I understand that its dificult to take when someone is being rude and throwing insults but words can only hurt you if you let them, all I'm saying is maybe you should have avoided this person. but that dosent matter now. I applaud you for being the bigger person in the end and apologizing thats really decent of you.
@peedielyn (1210)
• United States
3 Jun 10
If you have intentions on apologizing, then by all means do it. It can't hurt. Just do it short and sweet. "Look guy, I am sorry I reacted the way I did. I deserve respect just as you do. I would appreciate it if you would just stay at your station and I will stay at mine." Short and simple and to the point is what I say. He can either accept or not but you did the right thing by attempting as such. From now on, just ignore him. Report him if he continues to do what he did.
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@sunnycool (12737)
• India
3 Jun 10
I dont think he would try to show his attitude....only reason i want to apologise him is he was hurt badly...i didnt want to see him bleed badly .things should be much better when he accepts it as we gotta come accross each other daily at the same timings
@bigal3 (1231)
• Thailand
11 Jun 10
"Sunny" it wasn't your fault he got hurt. Why do you feel you have to apologize?
• United States
4 Jun 10
why was he trying to hit you in the first place? i think you should definitely talk to him and since you feel bad, you should apologize. even if it doesn't do any good for him, in your heart you will know you did the right thing.
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@sunnycool (12737)
• India
4 Jun 10
I want to say sorry to him for loosing my anger so easily...i could have blocked him on and on but that wouldnt have helped me either from taking his blows and it was involuntary...my hand raised off and hit so hard on his face
• Philippines
3 Jun 10
i think you dont have to apologise. your punch is enough for him as an apology.
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@sunnycool (12737)
• India
4 Jun 10
how come my punch was an apology .....its quiet the opposite
@piya84 (2591)
• India
3 Jun 10
hmm i dont know why he is acting like that.It wasent your fault if he was irritating nut.I dont think so your apology is going to work but after such a thing.He got hit on nose hard it seems.
@sunnycool (12737)
• India
3 Jun 10
He has his own weird reason to bother me and paid the price for....i know that it doesnt make any difference but i would prove him wrong
@piya84 (2591)
• India
3 Jun 10
weird reason? Is he gay ?
@piya84 (2591)
• India
3 Jun 10
If it is a case i wont blame on him for irritating you.
• Pamplona, Spain
3 Jun 10
Hiya sunny, I would try and let things cool off a bit and see what his reaction is towards you now. If he leaves you alone now altogether he may well try and approach you and try to talk to you. You only acted in self defense he should not have been trying to pick a fight from the start. Even so try to let things go and see what happens. If it was me that is what I would do. However everyone´s reaction is different and I am not you. Good luck anyway.
@sunnycool (12737)
• India
3 Jun 10
hello angel, Your advice seems good to me but i dont want to take any chances which might make him think that i'm arrogant despite of hurting him so badly.i'm sure he would accept my apology and we go around like friends from then onwards .
• Pamplona, Spain
3 Jun 10
Hiya sunny, Well then if you think you can talk to him and say you´re sorry that must be what you really want to do. That is a great thing if you can get to being Friends. Good luck and see how it goes.
@sunnycool (12737)
• India
3 Jun 10
he's got no other option than to accept my apology lol i hope he wouldnt be so stupid to come back bullying me....and i dont want to raise my hand on anyone again...it has been biting my damn head for many hours now.hurting is such a bad thing
• Malaysia
4 Jun 10
maybe he's avoiding you because he might not be able to resist trying to hit you again..because he might get his butt kicked for real this time around and why the heck was he poking you in the first place? lucky it wasn't a superpoke..
@sunnycool (12737)
• India
4 Jun 10
haha i dont have to mention the after effects if it were a super poke Poking can give us pleasure as well...it depends on the location you poke in though
• Malaysia
4 Jun 10
mm...poking thoughts are going through my head now
@sunnycool (12737)
• India
5 Jun 10
were you successful in implementing those
@dawnald (84146)
• Shingle Springs, California
3 Jun 10
Let's put it this way. He was aggravating you, he took the first punch, and you just defended yourself. There is no reason TO apologize, but no harm in doing so. If you're going to apologize, I'd just say "I'm sorry I bloodied your nose, but I was just defending myself. Please don't do that again." Or something that conveys your regret at hurting him, but that you're not sorry you stood up for yourself.
@saphrina (31740)
• South Africa
3 Jun 10
Dawny, how about i am not sorry i punched you, next time i will try a kick or something?
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@dawnald (84146)
• Shingle Springs, California
3 Jun 10
I know just where you can aim that kick!
@saphrina (31740)
• South Africa
3 Jun 10
Dawny, you know my BB will now try that one. Really.
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• Philippines
4 Jun 10
I love you Sunny. Anyway, guys guys guys. Girls and guys I think have some differences with the way they react when they're mad although sometimes we hurt each other also physically. But girls can be plastic or civil to talk with each other again.
• Malaysia
4 Jun 10
lol @ fist sentence..
@sunnycool (12737)
• India
4 Jun 10
Never knew Ninja Girls can love toooo I have seen some girls picking their hair whilst fighting lol and they do shout like awww ohhhh haha I do enjoy women wrestling in WWE
• Philippines
5 Jun 10
Of course! WWE? I'm not fond of watching that. EWW
@basqui (3890)
• Philippines
4 Jun 10
Well, if it's his fault then you don't have to apologize anyway.
@sunnycool (12737)
• India
4 Jun 10
He had something else in mind and initiated this so called verbal argument which had gone beyond my tolerance.... Meluan he didnt mistook me for someone else
@basqui (3890)
• Philippines
4 Jun 10
Well, he got what he wanted.
@sunnycool (12737)
• India
4 Jun 10
yup he's got something to cherish about for a week now
@Jotomy (6354)
• India
3 Jun 10
Hello sunny, you are doing a right thing, you should go and apologize him tomorrow. Are you learning gym or fighting there? Anyway you tell me the place where is that gym i will provide two police people to protect you. if anything happens wrong..
@Jotomy (6354)
• India
3 Jun 10
The above is just for fun. You go and tell him apology sure he will accept it if he is good. Don't be in tension, be happy.
@sunnycool (12737)
• India
3 Jun 10
lol why did you change your opinion in two minutes and what makes you think that i wouldnt take your initial response in jovial manner Police man for security-----sounds good man
@sunnycool (12737)
• India
3 Jun 10
ohhh yeah i'm there for building muscles...i wouldnt mind using my muscles in few exceptional cases as this
@nangisha (3504)
• Indonesia
4 Jun 10
Hi sunnycool..... Its make me confuse why he don't like you that much?. Are you hurt his feeling because I thing its hard to imagine someone wanna hit you for no reason. I thing its good idea to apologize and settle the problem between both of you. Its not fun at all to have enemy. Like wise people always says: one enemy is to much...
@sunnycool (12737)
• India
5 Jun 10
he had a tiff(in which i'm no way related) with one of my friends...so he did try to take me ON in the gym and eventually failed.Its good to have nice people around than to have a couple of bad ones who always try to backstab you
@nangisha (3504)
• Indonesia
5 Jun 10
If you not have tiff with him why he hate you . I scary to have a couple bad friends, one is more than enough .
@sunnycool (12737)
• India
7 Jun 10
Its always nice to have good friends
@archon309 (404)
• Philippines
4 Jun 10
Yes! you are absolutely doing the right thing. Go ahead, I hope everything goes well with you and your friend.
@sunnycool (12737)
• India
4 Jun 10
This is entirely different...the one i punched wasn't my friend....i did feel bad as it reminded me of my tiff with one of my close one and half year back Welcome to mylot Archon
• Philippines
5 Jun 10
ahh.. ok.. anyways, I won't add any damage if you apologize...(unless it will hurt his pride more... if he has one. :))
@sunnycool (12737)
• India
7 Jun 10
He just walks away when he comes accross me and hope it ended that day itself
@coffeegurl (1470)
• United States
3 Jun 10
I have no idea. I used to lift weights, and I would be very pissed off if someone tried to "poke" me or distracte me while I was lifting weights, especially w/o a spotter.
@sunnycool (12737)
• India
3 Jun 10
Having no idea....it does help sometimes Distraction in your sense can be what
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• United States
4 Jun 10
ANY kind of distraction when ur lifting heavy objects is NOT good.
@sunnycool (12737)
• India
5 Jun 10
Okies so you wanted to play it safe