jealousy

@la_chique (1499)
June 3, 2010 8:59am CST
Have you ever experienced jealousy in a relationship or paranoia, and what effect has that had on your relationship? how did you overcome it if at all?
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5 responses
• United States
3 Jun 10
In my last marriage i had always suspected my husband cheating with his son's mother. I was extremly jealous of their inappropiate closeness and according to THEM & THEIR FAMILIES, i was just this crazy,paranoid woman, who was extremly insecured. Finally, after all of the endless mind games that my husband, at that time had played on me, i had gotten up enough nerve to leave him. It wasn't until after the divorce that i had learned that sure enough, him and this woman had been together the whole entire time and TRIED to play me stupid. They had tied the knot, before the ink was even dry on my divorce papers.
• United States
3 Jun 10
I had forgot to add---it took me years and years to get over that whole ordeal. Every so often, wonderful husband, who i am happily married to now, hugs me and reminds me that everything is going to be just fine. Word of advice to others: If couples would just treat each other the same way they would like to be treated, minus all of the head games, then there shouldn't be any room for jealousy and paranoia.
@laydee (12814)
• Philippines
4 Jun 10
Yes. Actually that's the main source of our fights. I do have trust issues because of the problems we have encountered before. Perhaps it's really tough to have trust back when you've experienced cheating but it isn't impossible. We all need to face our issues and the people in the relationship should try to work on it in order to heal pains. I haven't overcome it fully, but we are trying our best. He does his part too in order that I don't go paranoid and think or assume things. He has been very supportive and cooperative - but it takes a lot of patience and understanding not to mention super long length of time to heal.
• Philippines
3 Jun 10
yes. i experienced that with my ex boyfriend. because he was a flirt and he likes to see me all jealous. but my situation isnt applicable to yours. what you can do is talk it over with your boyfriend. tell him how you really feel and ask him for assurance that both of you trusts each other so that you won't feel jealous. happy mylotting! :)
• Philippines
3 Jun 10
Yes. I think when you get yourself in a mutual relationship, it's unavoidable to feel these things. What i do to overcome it is avoid thinking too much into things cuz that often leads to paranoia and jealousy.
@emerillus (477)
• Philippines
3 Jun 10
hi la_chique! several times I feel jealous over my boyfriend's friends but I'm thankful my boyfriend doesn't get annoyed by my way of expressing my jealousy. He is an understanding and usually calm guy, so my jealousy doesn't affect our relationship badly. With his style, I get better at handling my fears and I trust him more each day. It's just the way of handling things that make jealousy just an ordinary thing that is easy to settle.