What I Would Give

There is nothing selfish about needing a little you time. If you are over burdened by your kids every minute of the day you will quickly become flustered by the smallest of things. Find someone to watch them for just a little while and give yourself the time you need. It will make you love them just that much more when they return. Oh by the way, has anyone told you when this gets better? If not here goes. About the time they turn 21 and move out on there own. LOL

I sometimes think the same way. I was thinking it would be nice to have at least 1 day for my self. A day that I can do all I want to do without worrying about my kids. However, it does not mean I don't like having kids and taking care of them. In fact, I enjoy being a mother a lot. I also know that I would miss these days when they are already grown up. My eldest is just 8 months old and I'm currently 7 months pregnant. Sometimes I wish I did not get pregnant the second time that early because I can't play and cradle or carry in my arms that much my elder son. However, I'm also excited with the new baby because I know he would give me the same joy that my first son is giving me right now. I also don't want to rush the day that they would all be grown up. I know when that time comes they would have lesser time to spend with me. Of course they would have friends. They'd be hanging out with them more often. They might even want to spend more time with their friends. I know how it is. I've been a teen once. Now I'm feeling what my parents have been feeling before whenever I'm out always with my friend. They always tell me I no longer spend time with them.

If there is one thing that we mothers have consistently, it's "Mother Guilt" :) We feel guilty for wanting a few minutes of sanity, we feel guilty for wanting a vacation, we feel guilty for getting upset when a child breaks something that had meaning to us, we feel guilty if one of our children gets hurt, we feel guilty ... well you see where I'm going with this. We learn to deny things that we might want or need because we put our children first -- as we should :) However, it's not wrong at all to need to step away sometimes. We don't have to be martyrs for our motherhood. We are human. We all try to be SuperMom and I think there are a heck of a lot of days that we succeed at it too. If not SuperMom, then we are certainly the best jugglers in the Circus of Life But think of it this way -- when our electronic "this and that's" get run down on battery power, they don't function very well, if at all. So, we plug them in or change the batteries and, once they have been recharged, they're again running at peak performance, right? We're no different. We need to recharge too. Our energy levels can't help but get low due to all that we accomplish in a day combined with a frequent lack of sleep. Do yourself a big favor and ask someone for a bit of help for a day. If you have a family member to rely on, ask them to take your children for an afternoon and, if all you do is take an uninterrupted nap, I promise you will feel terrific. If it's too much to transport the children to someone, ask a friend or family member to come to your house and you take your nap while they entertain the kids. Or, go for a walk, go shopping, treat yourself to something special like a hair appointment or a sinful dessert somewhere. You cherish every moment with your children, yes... but remember to take care of yourself too. You're doing the most important job in the world

The only worry, I think that you have is the age difference between the two kids. If they got 2,3 years difference, it was easy for you to manage. Take everything as a challenge. It is not you only with such circumstances. There are many like you and struggling with their fate. Get the best moments from the life collected and the painful ones are the ones you need to throw away. Time will come for you once they are come up, be relaxed and not be hurry for all these things. It will take its own time to get matured. Relax, relax that is what you needed now. Regard. Thank-s