What I Would Give
June 3, 2010 2:20pm CST
I am sure that I am not the only person, well at least I hope I am not, as that would just make me sound terrible, but as a Mum, I do sometimes wish that I could have just 1 day now and again, where I did not have to worry about my kids, and I could enjoy being at home doing what I need to do, with out little people pulling out everything I put away, or making more mess for me to clean, when I have just cleaned, and having the chance to have a lay in, rather than get woken up at some awful hour. Don't think of me as a selfish person because I am really not, I am just saying what it would be like, and how I would enjoy the peace and quiet. But I am a Mother by choice, and I know that my kids are growing so fast, and that one day I will probably wish that they were around to keep me busy, I certainly am not in any hurry for them to grow up, I cherish every moment that I have with my kids. Happy My Lotting!
• United States
3 Jun 10
There is nothing selfish about needing a little you time. If you are over burdened by your kids every minute of the day you will quickly become flustered by the smallest of things. Find someone to watch them for just a little while and give yourself the time you need. It will make you love them just that much more when they return. Oh by the way, has anyone told you when this gets better? If not here goes. About the time they turn 21 and move out on there own. LOL
3 Jun 10
Yeah I heard that LOL... but I think I would miss them so much, I have two boys and I have to say they are very much mummies boys, so I think that until that time, whenever that may be I am very happy with them, and yes I agree it is nice to chill out when someone has them for a few hours. Sometimes my parents look after them for a few hours, but I don't rely on them too much as they need their own time as much as me
• United States
3 Jun 10
If your mom and dad are like mine, they can't wait to have time with the grandkids. They spoil them rotten, hype them up on sugar and then send them home. Then they call you a little while just laughing thier heads off about the situation.
4 Jun 10
I agree with sleepylittlerose.You are child of your parents,so let them take care of your childs for one or two days and they will love to do.My sister-in-law is not kind to my parents and she not even let them to take care of her baby for a while,my parents are sad with it but have no idea.What you only worry about is that don't let them spoil the child.
7 Jun 10
I sometimes think the same way. I was thinking it would be nice to have at least 1 day for my self. A day that I can do all I want to do without worrying about my kids. However, it does not mean I don't like having kids and taking care of them. In fact, I enjoy being a mother a lot. I also know that I would miss these days when they are already grown up. My eldest is just 8 months old and I'm currently 7 months pregnant. Sometimes I wish I did not get pregnant the second time that early because I can't play and cradle or carry in my arms that much my elder son. However, I'm also excited with the new baby because I know he would give me the same joy that my first son is giving me right now. I also don't want to rush the day that they would all be grown up. I know when that time comes they would have lesser time to spend with me. Of course they would have friends. They'd be hanging out with them more often. They might even want to spend more time with their friends. I know how it is. I've been a teen once. Now I'm feeling what my parents have been feeling before whenever I'm out always with my friend. They always tell me I no longer spend time with them.
4 Jun 10
The only worry, I think that you have is the age difference between the two kids. If they got 2,3 years difference, it was easy for you to manage. Take everything as a challenge. It is not you only with such circumstances. There are many like you and struggling with their fate. Get the best moments from the life collected and the painful ones are the ones you need to throw away. Time will come for you once they are come up, be relaxed and not be hurry for all these things. It will take its own time to get matured. Relax, relax that is what you needed now. Regard. Thank-s
3 Jun 10
If there is one thing that we mothers have consistently, it's "Mother Guilt" :) We feel guilty for wanting a few minutes of sanity, we feel guilty for wanting a vacation, we feel guilty for getting upset when a child breaks something that had meaning to us, we feel guilty if one of our children gets hurt, we feel guilty ... well you see where I'm going with this. We learn to deny things that we might want or need because we put our children first -- as we should :) However, it's not wrong at all to need to step away sometimes. We don't have to be martyrs for our motherhood. We are human. We all try to be SuperMom and I think there are a heck of a lot of days that we succeed at it too. If not SuperMom, then we are certainly the best jugglers in the Circus of Life But think of it this way -- when our electronic "this and that's" get run down on battery power, they don't function very well, if at all. So, we plug them in or change the batteries and, once they have been recharged, they're again running at peak performance, right? We're no different. We need to recharge too. Our energy levels can't help but get low due to all that we accomplish in a day combined with a frequent lack of sleep. Do yourself a big favor and ask someone for a bit of help for a day. If you have a family member to rely on, ask them to take your children for an afternoon and, if all you do is take an uninterrupted nap, I promise you will feel terrific. If it's too much to transport the children to someone, ask a friend or family member to come to your house and you take your nap while they entertain the kids. Or, go for a walk, go shopping, treat yourself to something special like a hair appointment or a sinful dessert somewhere. You cherish every moment with your children, yes... but remember to take care of yourself too. You're doing the most important job in the world