Do you separate your friends to categories?
By catalyser
@catalyser (531)
Malaysia
June 4, 2010 11:59am CST
Like the title says, do you? I do. Most of the time, I keep them separated. I usually separate into two categories. One is for study and one more to have fun with. I don't mix them up together.
I of course have my reasons for this. I usually find friends who I could study with in my university. Usually its easy to find friends like this, when I need a study buddy or a group to study with, I would just call them up. The other friends who I have fun with are usually those friends who frowns on studying and only study last minute. Those who will not, not if there is a test coming up, study.
I usually study constantly because of my course progression, its soo fast that I would need constant determination to keep up and not on and off. Don't get me wrong, I consider my friends as my friends and no less than that. I was wondering if you guys do this too. I have been doing this ever since I enrolled to college straight through university.
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18 responses
@adeena2000 (845)
• Philippines
5 Jun 10
I also categorize my friends because it is so hard to put them in one basket. when I was in high school I have different group of friends from modest to naughty kinds.
when I got matured I have friends from church, workplace, social network,clients and relatives.
Those friends have different functions in our life. They have different point of view but only common denominator you hav is by being friends. No matter what the status each and everyone has.
@starsailover (7829)
• Mexico
5 Jun 10
Hi adeena: I think I do the same and it's no0t because this makes me consider one of my friends in a "higher category". No, it's just because I have different affinities with them so I enjoy my time with each of my friends according to the things we have in common. I also think that my friends are too different which it's nice butit would be strange to integrate them in an only huge group. Thanks for your answer. Have a nice day.
ALVARO.
@catalyser (531)
• Malaysia
5 Jun 10
Yea, having different groups of friends are sometimes hard though. You would have to divide your time among them. I find it really hard to integrate them together because they are just too different. Some are just way way to studious, some just come to college to have fun. I've seen good results in other people's effort to integrate their friends together and this one giant group but I have not had any good results with this. I find it really really hard because their interests are just too different
@ckyera (17332)
• Philippines
5 Jun 10
hello there,
i thought you are referring to FB. lol! just kidding! hehe coz in there i do group my friends into two. the first group to be those people that i know personally and the other group are those that i don't really know, just a neighbor in my games. lol!
kidding aside, well i am not aware if i categorize my friends but i know that i have some group of friends from school (and sub categories like friends from elementary, highschool & college)
, church, and eventually friends from my work place. but whatever group they are from usually they are also the people that i am always with, like those friends from school, they are the one i am with during study times and even on gimmick times!
and those people are the one that i really trusted and comfortable with, some people i also call them friend just because they are not my enemy. lol! i mean some friends are the close friends some are just acquaintances. those that just come & go in our life while close and real friends usually stays.
, church, and eventually friends from my work place. but whatever group they are from usually they are also the people that i am always with, like those friends from school, they are the one i am with during study times and even on gimmick times!
and those people are the one that i really trusted and comfortable with, some people i also call them friend just because they are not my enemy. lol! i mean some friends are the close friends some are just acquaintances. those that just come & go in our life while close and real friends usually stays.
@catalyser (531)
• Malaysia
5 Jun 10
Yes! different groups of friends, that was the word I was trying to find. Maybe the word categorizing is pretty harsh and sounds objectifying but I really did not know any other how to put it at the time
@feroz97 (52)
• India
5 Jun 10
Thats not right man. If you really care for your "fun" friends you would have made sure they studied. At least kick them into understanding the value of studying. What your doing is plain selfishness. To me friends are friends and I weigh them all equally. But yes, some are more close to me then others and I'll trust them with my life.
@catalyser (531)
• Malaysia
5 Jun 10
Done that, I try once in a while to at least ask them to come with me and study for a while. But the answer is always the same, at some point I just gave up. I know that it does sound selfish but when people refuse to change, I'll just go with the flow
@saurabh_rmp (846)
• India
4 Jun 10
I dont agree with you man in this regard. Nobody should categorize friends into different categories. Friends are friends, dont mix anything in friendship pleaseeeeeeeeeee....
@catalyser (531)
• Malaysia
4 Jun 10
Yep. Friends are friends but sometimes friends backstab you, some will say bad things behind your back and some would just be your friends when you are well off but disappear as soon as you have problems.
I understand that friends are important, hell, I have friends that I trust my life with. But not all of them are good. They are still people with weaknesses
@klienph (1)
•
5 Jun 10
@Catalyser
Don't be naive, have you gone backstabbing a friend? If not you must be a perfect friend.
Backstabbing is just a negative comment, its not the end of the world if you have a friend like that you know. Just think positive they might just a little jealous with some part of you.
@chirag2006 (123)
• China
5 Jun 10
yeah i do separate in different categories b'coz some r ur true friends some r just college friends some r just study friends and some r just girlfriend and boyfriend so u can divide is good thing yeah and u r right
@eman_81 (16)
• Egypt
5 Jun 10
Hii all, it is my first time to join with u :))
i think that we all must separate friends into categorize cuz we can't trust all of them ... cuz if u have a secret u will not tell all ur friends about it u just tell friend who u trust him/her & u feel he/she is deserve ur confidence & sure not all ur friends deserve ur confidence :)
@eccentricminded18 (61)
• Philippines
5 Jun 10
I think you misunderstood the word "friend". I do not categorize my friends to "for studying", "for fun", "for seeking advice", etc. A friend is someone who could be all of these.
@catalyser (531)
• Malaysia
5 Jun 10
I only have about three friends who can be all that. Does that mean I only have three friends?
@ganeshprabhuk (1722)
• India
5 Jun 10
I usually categorize depend on the level of confidentiality they maintain and the level of the friendship they have with the person whom i dont like , I basically scorpion i dont like my secrets to be shared to anybody, i dont mind hiding myself rather than telling to any person by which information gets leaked
@cutelang (83)
• Philippines
17 Oct 11
Nope,sorry i don't do that..I treat my friends as human as I am and not a mere something that can be organized or categorized.It is normal they may have negative or unpleasant character just like i do because just like me they too are humans and imperfect sometimes..
@p_vadla (1685)
• India
4 Jun 10
Even without our knowing we categorize our friends as per their talents or traits.Its a kind of a reflex action.For instance when we face a problem and want to discuss, we automatically tend to think to whom to pose the problem first to? Usually it depends.if a friend is academically brilliant, we naturally tend to discuss academics with him.Some other might be a financial expert, not in too formal sense.It looks like reflex action when we turn to friends differently in different times.
@catalyser (531)
• Malaysia
4 Jun 10
You speak the truth. I guess it is innate. We do tend to categorize people (not just friends) according to their competency. In my honest opinion, if we don't do this, then our lives would be a complete utter mess. Imagine asking for help whom you know is not competent enough to help you. That would be a disaster
@kquiming (2997)
• Philippines
4 Jun 10
yeah i guess i do, but i do it quite differently. i categorized them as .. group A - friends I can really trust. B - friends I could trust a little... C - "friends" i don't think I trust that much...i mean yeah, I act nice to them and treat them the way I want to be treated but, of course, these people are usually the ones I do now know very much so you can't really blame me if I don't find them that trustworthy (yet).
@catalyser (531)
• Malaysia
4 Jun 10
Yeah, thats another way of putting it. I do that too, some I would trust with my life and I know they would have my back. Those people in group C are what I would call acquittance
@malpoa (1216)
• India
5 Jun 10
Hmm I do categorise according to those dependable and those who are not. I know who are true to heart and who is a good friend and who is not. I do not socialise with them much but I do stay friends.
@starsailover (7829)
• Mexico
5 Jun 10
Hi catalyser: In my case I have a different classification of my friends. I have some friends that are serious just like me and they are the ones that I could work with and theres another category taht is the funny guys and it's also very important because, being a nerd I value people that makes me smile. I also have a political group, those are my friends that have the same politica interests or similar point of views in the political context so I know I won't fight with them when I talk about this very sensitive subject. Thanks for asking us this question. Have a nice day.
ALVARO.
@sherielapjat (169)
• India
4 Jun 10
yes man i do .but not as you done. i will separate them according to those that i can trust the most to whom i can tell all my problems and feelings and the others who is my friends just for fun. and i am always take care about the first category because i know them and they know me very well.these are people that i can trust the most and without them i cannot live for a second
@catalyser (531)
• Malaysia
4 Jun 10
Oooh, its the same with kquiming. Same as you, I would just confide my problems to a select few of my friends. I don't tell all my friends about my problems, my concerns and my worries, especially the guys.
When I want to talk about touchy feely stuff, I feel much more comfortable talking about it to my close female friends. Do you find it the same way as I do?
@kooltiger (848)
• Pakistan
4 Jun 10
yes i do this.. but at this time i have no friends at all.. the people whom i meet are out of my friends list.. this world is just full of mean and selfish people.. i just hate this word now friends.. because there are no friends exist in this world..
@zyxel999 (44)
• China
4 Jun 10
Yap,I agree with you. To tell the truth, I have many friends, but only a few friends are my indeed true friends include female friends. Some of them only have fun with me like playing, singing and drinking. Especially sometimes some friends backstab me and say some bad things behind me back like a gossipmonger. Some of them would just be my friends when I am well off and disappear when I have problems. So we will recognize the trustworthy friends and separate into categories that need for a long time together.
@Alan70pct (171)
• China
4 Jun 10
I classify my friends into 3 categories.Since I'm a college student,one of course is my college friends.Another is my friends in senior high school.And the last group is friends I picked up with during junior high school.That's regretful since I have lost contact with my friends in primary school.
@sakerxfalcon (109)
• United States
4 Jun 10
I don't really separate my friends in to categories like those; but I do separate them in to true friends, and just people I can hang out with. The people I can just hang out with are those that I fight with often and we never don't really talk too much, yet apparently they still say we are friends. The true friends are people I talk to all the time, and are loyal and honest and just there for you when you need them. As for study and fun; I don't really have any that fit both the categories.
