arguments
By laila675
@laila675 (528)
United Arab Emirates
June 4, 2010 3:19pm CST
we just had an argument and i really feel bad about it. i've been doing chores since 8am since we don't have a helper. having a child makes my work goes slow as i have to check on what she's doing. i made for him some coffee in the morning, he took a nap for almost 2 hrs, prepared lunch and set it on the table, cleaned the dishes, tooked the dried cloths and fixed them back at the cabinet, bath my daughter. by 5pm he told me we're going out and prepare quickly for the 3 of us and so i did. right after i finished dress up my daughter i fixed myself. while dressing up suddenly, he shouted and was mad. coz our daughter found a nose spray and used it alone,then her nose bleeds. Then he blamed me for everything. i got so too mad as i was inside our room and our child was in front of him. he was busy playing the ps3. i was so very mad that instead of taking her and calming the child he continued playing while nagging me. the nose spray was inside the bag and probably our child took the bag and tried to find something inside. Is it my fault? really i'm so tired and i'm not talking to him. gggrrrr
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8 responses
@strawberrychocodahi (4818)
• Philippines
5 Jun 10
Sorry to hear that but both of you are really concern with regards to the safety and well being of your child. But i really don't like how your husband reacted when he was still busy playing PS3 instead of attending to your child since her nose was bleeding.
Hope your man should be more considerate and loving towards you and your child. It is his responsible to keep his family safe and with number one priority, not focus on games or other things. Anyway it is much better for the both of you to talk, specially share your feelings and thoughts to your husband so that you can be both cleared when this happens again, wish not.
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@dawnald (85130)
• Shingle Springs, California
7 Jun 10
Children get into things. And he's her parent too. He's got just as much responsibility as you do. And he wasn't doing anything...
@krischine (269)
• Philippines
5 Jun 10
Of course it's not your fault, you have done a lot in your part and that time you were busy to fixed your self. So it is his responsibilities since he is finished tidying up himself so he must look after for your daughter. Have you ask him to watch your daughter while you are busy? because kids usually play around and curious in any thing and they need to be watched by an older one.
thanks for the responce
@kukueye (1759)
• Malaysia
5 Jun 10
It not your fault.He should have help your too.Maybe your should explain the situation to him.Like saying I am tired and i hope your can help me too or Please help me take care of your daughter too when i am busy with house work.That how my girlfriend said to me when i am lazy i don wish to do house work.She will ask me direction initially gently but with a motherly command voice.I will also grumply silently and do those chores.
@laila675 (528)
• United Arab Emirates
11 Jun 10
whenever we talk about the responsibilities at home and even told him that i need help, he always says it's not his job to do home chores. 
it's ok with me to do all the house chores but i'm not a house wife, i'm also a working mom. i guess it fare enough that he at least do some part of it even just to take care of our daughter when i'm busy. but let me try to talk to him more sweetly and with a motherly command voice 
thanks for sharing / advice
it's ok with me to do all the house chores but i'm not a house wife, i'm also a working mom. i guess it fare enough that he at least do some part of it even just to take care of our daughter when i'm busy. but let me try to talk to him more sweetly and with a motherly command voice thanks for sharing / advice @chirag2006 (123)
• China
5 Jun 10
yeah its not ur fault b'coz u r doing so much ork u dont have rest and ur still doing work so ur partner should understand this kind of thing and the child is not only ur responsibility its also his he also should take care of him just dont talk to him after 2 or 3 days everything will normal
but still my heart can't help but to just forget about it and maybe the next time i will really not going to talk to him until he realize it. thanks a lot
@jessicaryan18 (212)
• Philippines
5 Jun 10
hello... i was once a wife and i know how you feel.. if this is always your situation hey.. you better talk to your husband in a nice way of course that you are partners as husband and wife and as a partners there are sharing portion.. and tell him that you are not a robot only a human being trying to fix and settle anything and everything but all are not under your control..hug and kiss him after telling that.. stay cool!
@Wizzywig (7847)
•
4 Jun 10
Of course its not your fault. You are both responsible for the safety, well-being and overall care of your daughter. I think its very sad that a PS3 seems more important to him than his own child. I dont doubt that he loves both of you dearly and maybe, him being mad at you was a reaction to the shock of realising that your little girl could have been in danger. Hopefully, he will switch off the ps3 next time he is supposed to be watching her. If you still went out, I hope it was somewhere nice and you were all able to enjoy it
@jhodevera (32)
• Philippines
5 Jun 10
hmmm... definitely not your fault. i am just wonderin' how old your husband is? it seems that he is still engaged to this computer/electronic games that he didn't bother much 'bout his own child.
but you know what, i recommend you to watch "fire proof". though, not so sure where can you grab a copy. if only i could send it... this is really a good movie. it deals with marriage.
