Getting over your past

United States
June 6, 2010 6:38pm CST
My mother is not a person that I want in my life for many reasons, mainly because of the torture I went through as a child and young adult, but I don't know how to get over the things she did to me growning up or how to put her behind me and move on. My dad is married to a wonderful woman now, and I love her to death and I just want my mom's memory to vanish from my mind even if she is still alive? I want her gone from my life and my head completly!
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@sallyj (1225)
• United States
6 Jun 10
You may be able to keep her away, but time is all that will get her out of your head.
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@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
7 Jun 10
hi lilly its truly hard to get over what bad parents did to us but do this forgive her,if only in your own heart, then fill your mind and heart with love for the people in your life who have been kind and good and loving to you.do not waste emotion on your toxic mom as you need to wipe those thoughts out and fill your mind and heart with pleasant thoughts of those you really love. Think a lot of your dad and the wonderful woman he married and enjoy their love.
• South Africa
7 Jun 10
Hi Lilly, I agree with Hatley. Forgive your mom and really mean it and perhaps take one day and talk to someone about everything that she did that hurt you, this will help to get her out of your system, which will help to get her out of your mind. Then spend the rest of your life loving your family and showing them how much they mean to you. Keep positive and let love guide you.
• India
14 Jun 10
the best thing to do is forgive your mother. thats the wisest decision. sometimes you need to love the person who hates you. "vengeance is mine, saith the Lord. I will repay. If thine enemy is hungry, feed him, if he is thirsty give him drink, for by doing so, you will heap coals of fire on his head." romans 12:19-21.
@sahm01 (22)
• United States
22 Jun 10
I understand where you are coming from. I have a mom with personality disorder and I want so bably to not see her and just cut her out. But, then I won't be able to see the rest of my family during holidays! My grandmother keeps telling me that she is sick and we can't hold it against her. But she is so mean and hateful and selfish it is sooo hard not to. I am 24 years old now and I know it will never change.