Love Cheaters

India
June 6, 2010 8:00pm CST
This is case of my life just 8 months back, A girl came in life just through face book, whom accidental were online same time and were playing a same game, so we started chatting through which we continued,than few days later we stopped gamin, but we continued chatting, than moved to g talk to have better chat, than Skype to have calls, we were having a nice time so i proposed she accepted my love, But who was knowing the future, when i asked her to met she postponed it, we started having phone calls together , we used to speak whole nights altogether, Than one day i proposed to her to get marry and i said i will speak to her parents next week , she just said no when i asked she said she want to understand each other little more, but after that few days later she messages saying "One guy is flirting with me " so i messaged back to know what was that,and why she messaged to me through some people i got to know she is already engaged and getting married soon and i got to know she messaged that to him and not me she said regarding me :I just lost everything all of a sudden , just after that when i asked her she just disconnected phone and she has changed her number , now hat shall i do?
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@zsarhea (302)
• Austria
7 Jun 10
thats so bad of her!!( was going to say something more harsh but mylot didnt alowed me,hehe) Thats why i hate online chatting because people online are deceptives,they are trying to be someone they are not just to ignoredHurting and let someone love you is really bad then just left them broken hearted?Thats so mean and bad of her...well its 8 months ago,you should try to forget her,no offense meant but shes just a crap!! you dont deserve someone liek her,your love deserve to someone better..shes good for nothing and i just wished that her boyfriend wont do whats hses doing...she has the guts to make you fall for her then left you with heartache.Shes not the only girl in the world.Hope you'll find someone better...goodluck. Smile :)
• India
7 Jun 10
Yeah true, but now i dont know whom to trust so i have left the option to choose a partner to my parents who can decide better than me, and give me a good life
@zsarhea (302)
• Austria
7 Jun 10
thats not a good decision either!! How bout if you dont want the girl or love the girl?will you still follow your parents? YOU are the only person who can decide for your happiness,not other people and not even parents!!..one day you'll end up finding the right one instead of what your parents told u...I think its not too late for you,come on! your not old to find the right one or should i say that you should just wait for the right time to come,love will come on the right time when you less expect it and when you needed it most,what do you think?will you let someone decide for your happiness?that girl already hurt you so dont let others hurt you again..
@krischine (270)
• Philippines
7 Jun 10
So sad to hear that, look a relationship that starts online are difficult because you don't know what's the real truth about that person. If you really like the person, then you must not proposed to her online. Meet her first and know her better if both of you are compatible with each other. You will know the person is sincere to you when you see her personally. Now that you know everything about her, that she is engaged with somebody. Well, better not to call her or not to make any moves just to have a connection with her because girls will always reject men when they don't have a feelings for that person. The only advice I can share with you, try to have a date with someone and move on, don't expect love in ONLINE relationship specially you haven't meet her.
• India
7 Jun 10
Yeah i learnt that mistake, but she never gave an opportunity to meet her even once, every time she had got a reason. it was short time that when i realized all had gone
@Hatley (164654)
• Garden Grove, California
7 Jun 10
ganeshrabhuk I am so sorry for you but a lot of these internet romances just do not work out, sounds like she was playing you for a sucker,so shame on her as she knew she was engaged. she was really dishonest and lead you through all that only for you to find out she is getting married soon. i am so sorry for you but there are other girls off the net who would love to go out with you, and who knows you may fall for her and her for you. the only you can do my friend is to forget her and move on to find a girl who will appreciate you for who you are. good luck God bless.
• India
7 Jun 10
I was in worry for weeks now i just want to teach her a lesson
• Philippines
7 Jun 10
well what can i say, you proposed to her even without seeing and meeting her in person, of course the girl is right when she told you to get to know more besides its only an internet romance and for that fast then you proposed marriage is somehow difficult to decide unless youve been seeing in person as i said. she become pressured with that. offering marriage is not a guarantee of real love specially if you just meet the person online.
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@andy77e (5165)
• United States
7 Jun 10
I don't think you ever really had anything. It was just an internet friend. Nothing more. She had a separate life from you, and that's that. She clearly is getting married, and had to sever the relationship with you because, you wanted to be lovers instead of friends.
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• Romania
7 Jun 10
You haven't lost anything, so stop complaining. What we're talking about here is a little Internet romance that ended. Nothing more. Maybe she wanted a little excitement in her life, maybe she wanted to experiment slightly different emotions, maybe she just wanted attention. The point is, you never really had anything with her, apart from an online... uhm... relationship, if we can call it that. And virtual romance is never to be taken seriously. She probably used you. Or she probably didn't think it was that serious for you. Who knows? Who cares? Stop falling in love so easily and consider dating people in the real world. Have fun!
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@med889 (5958)
7 Jun 10
I think she has made a decision in her life without telling you anything which had to be the contrary, it hurts I know, however love should be from both sides instead of one sided, if she really loved you she would have never lie to you.
@chanlot (191)
• Indonesia
7 Jun 10
ouw .... I'm sorry, because it was losing people you care about. I'd always do not trust the acquaintance of a girl from the internet. In my opinion there is no original data that was included in Internet networks such as facebook, all false. hai friend .. hope you quickly find a replacement girl and be patient and make this experience as a lesson for us to decide something in the future.
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@ellie333 (21029)
7 Jun 10
Hi Ganeshprabhuk, It is hard on you I kniow but if you never met how can you really know that it was love and she said it was too soon you needed to get to know each other more. I would just move on and don't believe everything and everyone online. I think by changing her number it is telling you she really wants no more contact at all so you just nee to learn from it and move on. Huggles. Ellie :D
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@saphrina (31740)
• South Africa
7 Jun 10
That was freaking nasty of her sweetie. I am sorry to say this, but she played with you. You get people like that. I am sorry for what she did to you, but you need to forget about her. Those kind are the ones who make it impossible for others to trust people they start to care for. There is nothing you can do, but try to forget her, okay. TATA.
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@celticeagle (118231)
• Boise, Idaho
13 Jun 10
You will learn from this situation. You will take things slower, be surer of the next one and know that you are not to blame. It wasn't your fault nor did have to do with your actions. She obviously was not strong and wanted one last harrah I guess. She was the weak one, not you.
• India
14 Jun 10
But one thing is true i have learnt a good lesson, now have to think how to teach her a lesson
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@celticeagle (118231)
• Boise, Idaho
14 Jun 10
That is what life is all about. Lessons. We either learn from them or we don't. We can only try to let others know about them. Sometimes they have to learn things for themselves.
@dawnald (84148)
• Shingle Springs, California
8 Jun 10
there's the problem with many internet romances, you just don't really know who you are dealing with. I"m so sorry this happened to you. The best thing you can do is forget about her.
@webzap (885)
• Philippines
8 Jun 10
I don't know about your culture because mine is different than yours. But if you will ask me, you know she dilly-dallied about your proposition of getting married, perhaps she's been meeting the other guy a long time ago, maybe much earlier than when she met you. And you didn't even met her so she is really weighing her options on who is better. Consider it a blessing in disguise, and that is better than when you are already married then as time goes by you will come to know that she has another man behind your back.
@eLsMarie (4148)
• Philippines
8 Jun 10
Well if she's already engaged, back off. You should know in the first place that your relationship towards the girl is very much crucial. Since you both started and continued your relationship online then I suppose that it'll be just online. Face-to-face or personal conversation is very much important because you'll be able to get physical with the person and at least, you can know more the person. I feel sorry for you but I guess it's better if you'll just move on. She's not worth it anyways. Good luck and change for the better.
@amelly (1558)
• Malaysia
8 Jun 10
well, it is hard to predict what will happen if your love is found online..i do think that you are a nice guy based on your story and i think the one that create the problem is that girl..i'm just saying what i think is right..so no hard feeling eyy..she seemed to have interest on you and so do you but she is being unfaithful..you are being loyal and so in love with her..she played with your emotion and leave it like that..that is so cruel and mean..i am a girl myself..if i loved someone dearly,i won't so such thing....but i'm so sorry to hear that..
@jamed28 (1909)
• Philippines
7 Jun 10
It should be a lesson for you. Never trust anyone online. If you cannot trust strangers in real world, you should triple that untrustiness online. Lying is just a key away in the internet. Try those woman in the real world.
@paula27661 (15899)
• Australia
7 Jun 10
It is a shame you had to experience that! It sounds like she never took your friendship as seriously as you did and just enjoyed the attention which is a lousy thing to do to you and to her fiancé! Your story reminded me of a guy I met at a party once who asked me to call him if I was interested in a date. I called him a few days later and he acted like he didn’t even remember me and I found out later that he was married with children! In regards to your situation the best thing to do is allow yourself to move on from this bad experience. Remember you deserve so much better than this and you will find another girl who will be worthy of you.
• India
7 Jun 10
I am sorry for you man. That is one reason I have less faith in online love relations. These are some expectations which people set an dwhen its not met, all around disappointment. Just move on and do not think about her. Forget like a bad dream. I know its not as easy as I am saying but thats a fact. You are not in her life. She was just playing for time pass. Move on. Its not the end of the road , just take a turn, there are many ways to love your life and must be someone much better waiting for you. Cheers to life :)
@mspitot (3834)
• Philippines
7 Jun 10
i think you should let go of her. why? because she accepted your love. she didn't tell you that she's already committed to another person but still she accepted and communicated with you. she knew that you are already falling for her but she didn't resist it but in the end she told her boyfriend that you are flirting with her. i think she is the one flirting cause she is the one committed yet she's getting close to other people. i think you should just send her a message. maybe thank her for having a good time with you and that you hope her that she will not flirt and do the same thing that she did to you to other men.
@jennyze (7048)
• Indonesia
7 Jun 10
It is so easy to fall in love in virtual relationship. I experienced it several times; having good conversations, same hobbies, same view on life and suddenly I want to be with him everyday. I would be disappointed if he did not online for even one day. Then I would reason with myself: do I really believe him when we've never even met? As I understand people lies easily, too on virtual relationship. So, I take is easy from there.