i thought we were all.........human

@saphrina (31740)
South Africa
June 7, 2010 2:37am CST
Okay, now i need to understand this from all ages and genders here. As a human we cry, laugh, behave childish and laugh. Where is the law written down that these emotions only apply to women or girls?? Never seen or heard of it. We all have feelings and emotions. Whether you like it or not, male or female, you won't skip any of these emotions. No matter how hard you try. I always say., Cry if you want to, Love if you want to, And show the world you are human, you are capable of all these things. Nothing to be ashamed off. Would my nephew ever gloat if he could read this now. TATA.
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@nina_khan (749)
• Pakistan
8 Jun 10
yes, you are right and we all are humans and there is no saying about this that only women has to do all of these things actually women are more soft hearted so they start to lose hope faster then man do and start crying earlier than them, but that is nothing serious it is natural who said man never cry. i cry, and i have very emotional too does it mean i am a women? ahhaha no it does not mean it depends up on the nature of the person
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@saphrina (31740)
• South Africa
8 Jun 10
Good emotions there sweetie. Men can cry i don't have a problem with it. And yes, women are more emotional. Thanx. TATA.
• Pakistan
9 Jun 10
thanks for your comment
@saphrina (31740)
• South Africa
9 Jun 10
@paula27661 (15899)
• Australia
9 Jun 10
That is true...We are all humans and we all have emotions and feelings. Some of us have been culturally brought up not to reveal emotions; a lot of men have been taught to bottle feelings which can show themselves in other way with violence or addiction for some, having said that, it is not just males who hide emotions, some women do it too and react in inappropriate ways. I am one of those who expresses feelings way too much and generally reveal too much of myself to the wrong person. It is a matter of balance like so many other things in life but there is no doubt that yes we are all human, we hurt, we cry and we sometimes rejoice!
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@saphrina (31740)
• South Africa
9 Jun 10
Sweetie, i wish i can get hold of the one who started this whole 'men can't cry' thing. I think i can make that person cry a lot. Thanx. TATA.
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@epicure35 (2822)
• United States
9 Jun 10
We have all been given a full range of emotions by our Creator. However, men are not encouraged or even permitted to express themselves in certain ways while women are given free rein. From childhood boys are discouraged from crying or called wimps, etc. if they do. Girls give vent their tears easily, are not labeled for doing so ,and some use tears as a way to manipulate others. I believe forcing boys to keep their emotions pent up when they are hurt or suffer loss causes deep anger, rage, even violence. They are told to be "the strong silent type" and keep emotion in or push it down. Girls are allowed much more freedom of emotional expression and are allowed to verbalize feelings, while boys are not given freedom to do so and are labeled if they do.(Of course there is variation between and among the genders, because we all have individual differences as well). Tears and other expressions of emotions are natural and healthy and provide a release physically and spiritually, as well as emotionally when they are not misused or used as an excuse for bad behavior or actions. Emotions are vital to our well-being and are a natural part of a balanced life, if not misused, as in using them for results and not natural, normal release or used to justify bad behavior and actions. Men have their emotions denied or channeled only into physical release, as in sports. That does not provide them a proper venue for adequate emotional and spiritual release, and pigeon-holes them into finding only physical release, as in agression, physical acting-out, even violence, or aggression in sports. They may also be denied expression of their creative abilities, as in art, writing, design, and more sedentary, studious pursuits. A good example of this is that a boy may choose to be more intellectual or not participate in sports, and he is denigrated or mocked. A boy who may want to become a ballet dancer is laughed at. It takes incredible physical strength, agility, grace, and athletic ability for a man or boy to be a ballet dancer, but he may be chastised for not choosing a more aggressive sport, such as baseball, football, hockey, etc. We should all be regarded as equals in emotional expression, and we should all learn to keep our emotions in check, as in under the dominion of the spirit (a moral base) so that we do not become dominated by our emotions, but express them freely and in a balanced fashion in order to achieve a healthy benefit from them.
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@saphrina (31740)
• South Africa
9 Jun 10
Sweetie, i don't think anyone could have put this any better at all. You touched every emotion of male and female. Very good points. Thanx. TATA.
• India
9 Jun 10
There no such rule that only women feel emotional and cry. As you said we should cry when feel like crying. I cry when it is out of control, if I try to stop from crying there is pain on my throat so its better to cry. After crying I feel relaxed. We all are human being be it man or women and everyone has feelings so nothing wrong on expressing emotions.
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@saphrina (31740)
• South Africa
9 Jun 10
Thanx, i am glad to hear that you cry without feeling bad about it. Good for you. TATA.
@Opal26 (17691)
• United States
8 Jun 10
Hi Saphy! How is one of my very favorite girlfriends? Of course, we are ALL human! And yes, men do cry and personally I find that more manly then some of the other stuff that they do! I have seen quite a few men cry and I appreciate the fact that they can show that they are "human" and not afraid to show that side of them! And there is nothing to be ashamed of! It is just a part of being human that we all have! It is not something that is gender select! We all have the same capabilies top laugh, cry, be silly, funny and have varied emotions! What's wrong with your nephew? Is he missing an "emotion gene"?
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@saphrina (31740)
• South Africa
9 Jun 10
I'm fine sweetie, thanx. As for men who cry, i am happy about that. We don't want people in our lives who don't show their emotions. It can get uncomfy, you know. As for my nephew, he is worse than i am, so that should speak volumes when it come to genes. TATA.
• Malaysia
7 Jun 10
waaaaaah...! it's like you've opened up floodgates in me...now i can't stop crying all those years of pent-up emotions bursting forth like waves upon the bathtub sides... i'm not ashamed anymore...thank you
@saphrina (31740)
• South Africa
7 Jun 10
uumm, ughem, okay. I am glad you feel better now, Mario. Need some towels to dry up everything?
• Malaysia
7 Jun 10
...yeah, that'll be great. and i need a shoulder too..to cry on
@saphrina (31740)
• South Africa
7 Jun 10
And i am done here. Bye you two.
@vandana7 (63799)
• India
7 Jun 10
*Vandy scratches her head and thinks - blonds are supposed to be dumb - so is that a dumb suggestion*
@saphrina (31740)
• South Africa
7 Jun 10
Vannie, this blond will teach you some manners, EVENTUALLY. meluan, we might be born that way. Hennie, don't you dare go there.
@saphrina (31740)
• South Africa
7 Jun 10
Good, now i know exactly where is stand with you.
• Malaysia
7 Jun 10
i used to be dirty dishwater blond... and then i started using clean water instead
@sunnycool (12737)
• India
7 Jun 10
At one time or the other every human being would exhibit his feelings---- i dont think it is that easy to hide your feelings from someone whom you love without your conscience---and the worst would be when they keep on coming accross you---i did try to kill those damn feelings----eventually ended up enjoying them now and its real coooool to be in love with someone
@saphrina (31740)
• South Africa
7 Jun 10
UUGGHHEEMM, BB, okay so you just let your feelings and emotions go? How nice of you. TATA.
@sunnycool (12737)
• India
7 Jun 10
yupppp i did let them to go to her
@saphrina (31740)
• South Africa
7 Jun 10
Hope it was the right freaking direction.
@ElicBxn (60825)
• United States
7 Jun 10
but... but... but... I thought we were part alien... even tho we act human... mostly...
@saphrina (31740)
• South Africa
7 Jun 10
Sweetie, i am part alien, so that means all of you are as well. What a freaking shock. meluan, did you have a look as well?
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@saphrina (31740)
• South Africa
7 Jun 10
I think you need to consider doing that yourself.
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• Malaysia
7 Jun 10
Mario quietly volunteers...
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@tomitomi (5441)
• Singapore
7 Jun 10
Love, cry, laugh, whatever, we are all humans. No man is above them. It's just how you manage them differs.
@saphrina (31740)
• South Africa
7 Jun 10
And the grand prise goes to tomi, with Hennie tagging along. TATA.
@tomitomi (5441)
• Singapore
7 Jun 10
Love your sense of humor saphrina! Henniesaunders, you've got a good one there as well.
@saphrina (31740)
• South Africa
7 Jun 10
Thanx sweetie.
@dawnald (84131)
• Shingle Springs, California
8 Jun 10
And if you don't want to?
@vandana7 (63799)
• India
8 Jun 10
Saphy doesnt like people who defy! Isn't it Saphy? :)
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@saphrina (31740)
• South Africa
9 Jun 10
Dawny, you have no choice. Vannie, i'll have to consider this.
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@dawnald (84131)
• Shingle Springs, California
9 Jun 10
there's always a choice... the consequences may be unpleasant, but there's always a choice.
@Yori88 (1468)
• Philippines
7 Jun 10
I agree that women and men are equal when it comes to showing emotions. Meaning no matter what our gender is I still believe that we should show our emotions if we feel like showing it and not care whether we are men or women. I admire men who cry because I know that they are being true to themselves. I like men who cry because for me that is honesty. So I guess all human at some point experience intense emotion and we should just be honest in expressing ourselves.
@saphrina (31740)
• South Africa
7 Jun 10
I actually wish to see more men cry, sweetie. They tend to keep that emotion so intact, and that is not healthy at all. I agree, men who cry are more honest with their feelings. Thanx. TATA.
• Malaysia
7 Jun 10
Waaaaaaah...! i'm so honest
@saphrina (31740)
• South Africa
7 Jun 10
@ericpapasit (1276)
• Philippines
7 Jun 10
Cheers! TATA Cheers! yes to that be human though!
@saphrina (31740)
• South Africa
7 Jun 10
Sweetie, you sound as if you just love being human. TATA.
• Philippines
7 Jun 10
Yes... That's how God make me
@saphrina (31740)
• South Africa
7 Jun 10
Nice.
@suspenseful (40316)
• Canada
7 Jun 10
Men are more practical and they have to be strong. The only men who cry easily are those who prefer their own gender sexually. Men do cry when it really affects them more unlike us ladies who would cry at the drop of a hat, or seeing a story about a puppy getting run over. It is just that men are built different and I would not want a man who cries all the time or who shows his emotions. I would not be able to depend on him if something went terribly wrong and he broke down, and started crying, screaming or doing all the other feminine things that a lot of women do.
@saphrina (31740)
• South Africa
8 Jun 10
You've got a point there sweetie. I don't mind a man crying, but i do not want a cry baby on my hands. TATA.
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@suspenseful (40316)
• Canada
10 Jun 10
Neither do I. I want a man in whom I can demand on. Even though my husband has als, and is dying, and is helpless, he still acts like a man. But to hear of a man that breaks down when he breaks his finger nail, well that is a bit too much.
• India
7 Jun 10
Hi, Well there are other emotions that prove humanity. Crying is not absolutely necessary. Love is good, though the things we usually mean by 'making love' is not one of the few things that distinguishes us from animals. Even animals make love. Animals may cry as well. I've seen plenty of them do the same. I don't cry, and that is not because I am ashamed of crying. Its just that I apply a different method to treat negative emotions. Does that make me less human? Thanks God bless you
@cloud31 (5811)
7 Jun 10
I'm a human my angel, I don't keep emotions inside of me, when hurt I cry for it, when sad I will shut in a corner , when laugh I laughed out loud I don't mind noticed me for that. When I feel loved I returned what supposed to be in fair with them.. I really can't pretend but for sure when I like him I will wait for him to proposeand he did so!kidding! Miss you my angel!so much!!!
@saphrina (31740)
• South Africa
7 Jun 10
I am glad to hear you show your emotions, IJ. I am waiting for that proposal you know. I can't go on when i have to wait for everything. TATA.
@cloud31 (5811)
7 Jun 10
Soon my angel! I hope you'll be ready for that proposal then?
@ladygator (3469)
• United States
9 Jun 10
I agree with you completely! I often wonder who decides that we are not allowed to have emotion unless we are the woman. IE the weaker one. Ironically I have yet to consider a woman weak.
@saphrina (31740)
• South Africa
9 Jun 10
That we hear a lot. Women are only as weak as we show them. All need to understand that when it comes to emotions, we are ALL equal. Thanx. TATA.
@mentalward (14697)
• United States
8 Jun 10
That is excellent advice, saphrina. Too many men have been taught to hide or control their emotions and that is just plain wrong. Oh, there are times and places where emotions should be held in check but that applies to women as well as men. But, when the time and place is right, like in the privacy of your own home or when you are among friends or family, there is no reason to hold them back. I prefer to see men showing their emotions over men who hold them back. Holding them back only makes them look stupid because we all know that every human being has emotions. You wouldn't be human without them. So, hiding them and pretending that you don't have these emotions only shows that you have a problem. I can do without over-emotional people, though, the "drama queens" whether they are male or female. But, when something is experienced that is exceptionally sad, it's normal to cry. A very long time ago, I met a man who tried to tell me that I should not be showing my emotions so much. I am not an over-emotional person but when I'm happy everyone around me knows it. This man tried to convince me that it's not "cool" to show emotions. I told him that he's the one with the problem and I felt sorry for him because he would not be able to fully experience life if he constantly held his emotions in check. He would probably die of a stroke or heart attack from the high blood pressure he got from holding those emotions in. Stupid man!
@saphrina (31740)
• South Africa
9 Jun 10
And that is what most men don't understand. To keep all those emotions bottled up, is freaking unhealthy. And that stupid guy, hopefully he changed or something. TATA.
@Hatley (164671)
• Garden Grove, California
8 Jun 10
hi saphrina we should all post this up someplace and read it to all our male friends and relatives. Yes male or female we all emotions and we own them and when someone says to me why are laughing,its not that funny, I feel so ticked off because my emotions belong to me. how dare she tell me what I can laugh at and what not? I cry at lot of times reading discussions where my mylot friends are having a bad time, or some moron has treated them badly. Awful of me, I dont think so,it just say I am a human being with feelings. My husband once cried then apologized and I 'said what for, we have a sad situation and we can cry if we wish, you are just as human as I am. we lost a child, we have a right to cry. And even today many years later I find a picture of Lisa Rose and the tears start. My son claims I am too emotional but I think I am just being me.
@saphrina (31740)
• South Africa
9 Jun 10
We love you just as you are sweetie. And to post this up for everyone to see. Very good idea. Enjoy being you. TATA.
@Christoph56 (1508)
• Canada
8 Jun 10
I just have to mention, when you start to cry, its a reaction of chemicals in your brain. I know this very well after going through brain surgery. After that had happened, my emotions would swing way further then usual, and I could break down so easily. In the situations I had, everytime I asked a girl about it, they would automatically know just what I was talking about, because it had happened to them many times as well. Every time I told a boy about it, they would have no idea what I was talking about, and almost brush me off like I was crazy. It's extremely seldom that men want to cry. It doesn't grab us the same way it does women, and let me tell you, it's pretty awesome to have it this way.
@saphrina (31740)
• South Africa
8 Jun 10
Thanx sweetie, i did not know that. As long as you are happy and healthy and it works for you, that's fine. TATA.