"my closest friend skipped me from making comments"

@annavi23 (6302)
Philippines
June 7, 2010 3:30am CST
yeah, all of us here have our own time schedules and work outside this site, i know. and i know most of people here have gained friends of their own,whom they get to know personally like chatting outside this site or maybe the best way to meet them in person. the main purpose of being here is to post and respond or comment on discussions. as i've said most people here had gained friends who they know personally. and having the fact that you are friends,you just think of hearing their thoughts in your own started discussions,right? so,what would you feel if the closest friend you ever got here skipped from commenting your response? given the fact that he/she is busy on his/her own life. but still manages to comment back on responses.what if you happen to recognize that all of the responses have been commented,but the one that you post,didn't get any. would you feel sad about it? would you confront your friend why didn't you get comments? it's like talking to someone who's really close to you but you didn't get any response from that person,it's like you're invisible to that person. you didn't even get recognized by him/her. too bad,what would you feel?
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@ckyera (17262)
• Philippines
7 Jun 10
hi annavi, well it will be disappointing specially if you are expecting him/her to be there in your posts and if he/she is not doing that in the past. but of course they might have a reason for not responding as well, like yeah being busy with their offline life or others. and maybe they just have nothing to say about that topic that you have? those were possibilities coz sometimes i am also like that. hehe i have some close friends here some are even my friends offline but i don't respond to each and every discussion that they make, not because of anything but only because i have nothing to say or no idea at all. but it doesn't mean that we are not friends anymore. but what's annoying for me and makes me feel frustrated is when i saw him/her responding/commenting back & forth actively to others but skipped mine. arrgh. i hate that. hehe but anyway i can't do anything about that though so just let it be.
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@annavi23 (6302)
• Philippines
7 Jun 10
yeah i feel the same way. when you said what's annoying for me and makes me feel frustrated is when i saw him/her responding/commenting back & forth actively to others but skipped mine. yeah,you have got to talk to them why are they acting like that. i guess my friend just don't want to comment back cause he/she just don't like to post anymore.it's just that simple. and now i can accept that,now i understand. but i'm still friends with that person. that's happy to know!
@ckyera (17262)
• Philippines
7 Jun 10
well i have come across to one like that and i think she just don't like me and my post anymore. lol! so from then on that i observed that he/she is behaving like that i just stop expecting for them to comment back whenever i respond to them or i don't expect them to be on my post whenever i started one. that's life. hehe its good to know that you are still friends with that person.
@annavi23 (6302)
• Philippines
8 Jun 10
actually i've talked to the person, i just hope he/she would still be my friend! i guess i should give that person a chance. well, as i've known that person, is a jolly person though sometimes i just don't think what he/she really feel. we just have to take a little break then. but i'm still hoping we'll be good friends again... yeah, i also have noticed other users here that i also want to be friends with,but everytime i say i hope we could be friends,they just don't even bother to comment anymore.well, i guess that person really don't like me to be their friends,even here! it's just sad that we have to be in a lively discussion then after that they'll just left me in the air... as you've said,that's life,i just would feel happy if they are there in my discussions though i will just not expect if they comment again or not. we have our own freedom here,and i think not all people would want to be friends. i guess for them,it's just because of money that they are getting here,not to make friends! so,i'll accept that if that's the way they want it to be.
• Philippines
16 Jun 10
You have a close friend here? I mean this person you know even personally? Well if a friend skipped my response I do not feel bad. Maybe he or she overlooked it or maybe he or she had nothing to comment on my response. But if my response is so interactive like I am asking questions and he or she skip it and I see all the responses have been commented then I will think there is something wrong. I will feel bad slight but I will not take it seriously. If he or she don’t want to write a comment, I will just respect him or her for doing that.
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@annavi23 (6302)
• Philippines
16 Jun 10
yes,i do have a close friend here. i know that user,personally. we always talk out of this site. and yes,it seems he/she is always busy and i already talked about this matter.we already have understood each other. yeah,that friend of mine is always busy,nowadays i haven't talked to that friend of mine. but i do understand that someone has to live freely. i know time will come that i will receive comments from that friend. as i've known the person, i can understand now what it feels like. yes,there were instances that i feel bad cause i recognized most of the responses that are there, left by a comment,not with my response.my friend really skipped it,so i felt bad for a while but then after hearing my friend's reason,i can understand clearly. and i'm okay now if i don't get any comment after all.as long as we're friends,it doesn't matter.it's just like that!
@vivek2006 (1419)
• India
8 Jun 10
Ofcourse i would ask that friend the reason for not commenting back but hey some problem could have also come in the way. Just like i tried to reply to one of your discussion yesterday but my internet got disconnected and wasn't able to connect back on so i wasnt able to reply to that discussion of yours. Now when i came back i thought lets reply to my friendz discussions and i saw annavi's this discussion so i replied to this one instead of the one i was trying to reply to yesterday. So you need to just ask your friend and tel that frnd if you felt bad and maybe a good enough reply from that friend will make you alteast feel better. Just like i'm feeling very rite now and wont be able to reply to anymore discussions so i'll check my frndz discussions later but it doesnt mean i'm ignoring them.
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@annavi23 (6302)
• Philippines
9 Jun 10
yes,you're right,vivek! thank you for the wonderful thought and it really helped me a lot. well, i've talked to the person and now i understand well enough what's the reason behind these things and i also apologized for being selfish. i know my friend is facing problems of ownself and i still do believe that we're still friends. i heard it from my friend and i trusted it so much!
@cloud31 (5811)
7 Jun 10
Maybe she just wait for the time she can make a better response to you! Don't mind that too seriously as long as you are friends and maybe she think you don't mind that too,since you were friends and I think she is just in a sense that she can skipped a while but not all I guess!you're too sensitive my sweet! Maybe your friend just skipped your comments because she want to read it with concentration.
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@annavi23 (6302)
• Philippines
7 Jun 10
ok,i understand if that would be his/her reason.well,i know most people here are too busy so sometimes i just also don't mind them. but to a friend who i know is always online,yeah,whatever the reason is,i'll just don't take it seriously.maybe that person would take time to comment back soon when i no longer need their comments.
@jennyze (7048)
• Indonesia
8 Jun 10
Disappointed was the first feeling, but I will look a it in a different way. Maybe she/he does not agree with whatever I wrote in the discussion and does not want to hurt my feeling by responding. Although I can also think, maybe she/he is bored with the discussion that I wrote over trivial matters. I will let her/him skip my discussion if they want to, it is entirely up to them.
@annavi23 (6302)
• Philippines
8 Jun 10
oh,i think i should think also that way. yeah,sometimes i also don't comment back on someone i don't want to hurt feelings with. so,better keep it blank. it's our own freedom to choose who to respond or comment and leave it when you don't feel like posting to it.
@jennyze (7048)
• Indonesia
9 Jun 10
Exactly! Don't feel bad about a little disappointment. It happens in life, despite of your effort to be always good to others. Enjoy your life.
@annavi23 (6302)
• Philippines
9 Jun 10
yes,thank you jennyze for the uplifting words. i know life has its natural unfairness and we just have to accept it,there's nothing we can do if people really don't like us to be their friends. sometimes i just felt bad cause i know i treat them well enough,but i guess they just find me not their type,so just let it be. there are more things in this life that i would want to think not just the two of us....
@allknowing (55080)
• India
7 Jun 10
There could be several reasons for this situation but you have chosen to get affected adversely by it. All what you could do was to PM her/him and directly ask, since you are so close. It is better to nip things in the bud than to wallow in self pity over it!
@allknowing (55080)
• India
7 Jun 10
You too have done the same. You have commented on the response you received later but have ignored mine!
@annavi23 (6302)
• Philippines
7 Jun 10
ooohhh... am i that bad to ignore other's responses? are you serious i haven't commented on yours? in my other discussions? or in these one? i'm sorry if i haven't commented back also to my previous discussions. i know sometimes it's also hard to be ignored. i'll just have to take time to comment back when i have the chance. well,as i've said we all have reasons why sometimes we just don't comment back to some,right? now,i understand i also do the same sometimes.
@allknowing (55080)
• India
7 Jun 10
@zralte (4186)
• India
7 Jun 10
Not having my own experience, I am not really sure how I would feel. I probably would feel hurt, but I'll let it go. If it is the person I know in real life, I'd probably call them up and ask the reason. Provided my response is worth commenting back on. And if it is a friend that I gained from myLot, I'd probably do nothing.
@annavi23 (6302)
• Philippines
7 Jun 10
yes,if you really are friends in person you should come contact him/her for the certain reason. all of us have reasons but not all people can be fooled. but still you want to hear and read their comments here,right?
@zralte (4186)
• India
7 Jun 10
Yeah...it sounds to me like a valid reason to be mad. If the 'friend' has time to comment on all the other responses and not on the other friend, any one would like an explanation for that. Saying that, I agree with cloud. Don't mind it so much. If it happens more than once or twice, then I would make my decision that may be that friend does not count you as a 'friend'.
@annavi23 (6302)
• Philippines
7 Jun 10
yes,it really needs to have explanations,why that friend is not commenting. well, i guess you're right if i haven't had comments to lots of my responses to their discussions, maybe that user don't treat me as their friend. thanks for the thought,
@JOIEMARVIC (2342)
• Philippines
7 Jun 10
Personally , I will not feel about it. Sometimes close friends really do have silent moments between them. This moments does not necessarily mean that their fighting, this just means that they have nothing to say. Having nothing to say does not means that the friendship is on the rocks. Friends are open minded. They should be well aware that monents of silence are just moments of silence. They ahould not think negatively about it.
@annavi23 (6302)
• Philippines
7 Jun 10
thank you for such a lovely thought my friend. i will always remember that! i think my friend just need a moment of silence and now,i respect that! i just have to talk with that user,personally to know that reason.
@vivek2006 (1419)
• India
8 Jun 10
Wow JOIEMARVIC nice lines and a lovely thought. I think you can be a good writer lol i seriously think.
@cip116 (1011)
• Romania
7 Jun 10
I do not understand,your friend ignored only your comment? If she/he answered the rest comments on a topic...then is like me. When I do not like something,do not comment (except my friends) If this thing repeated many time,you need to send a message with question for she/he
@annavi23 (6302)
• Philippines
7 Jun 10
yes, i know that! thanks for the help. sometimes,there are responses that i find it hard to comment on or like that i don't know what to say,or just i just don't feel like there's anything to say. that's why sometimes i just leave it. but for a friend,i have been close with,i just have to let him/her talk in private.
• Philippines
7 Jun 10
Hello anna, Don't let it bother you, some people just too rush in or too busy commenting on some one else's that they had to skip others, and you're not exempted, don't take it personally but with all these responses and comments everywhere not all people are oblidged to respond to yours and his/hers. that's what i like about this site, it's freedom in some pace.
@annavi23 (6302)
• Philippines
7 Jun 10
hi knight,yeah i understand now. i just have to respect each users' reasons why they don't have chance to get back to comment. yes,i just forgot that we have our own freedom to choose on who and when will we post our thoughts with. thanks,my friend!
@ericpapasit (1276)
• Philippines
7 Jun 10
... Yup we have to be understanding then after all they are friends... regardless of what level of friendship... No hurt feelings when it will happen though.
@annavi23 (6302)
• Philippines
7 Jun 10
yes,they're friends and friends do understand each other,that's right! i guess i'm just being selfish sometimes...
@Qaeyious (2362)
• United States
7 Jun 10
"Hell hath no fury like a poster spurned -" Is this person a spouse? Or a lover that you have a physical relationship with? Is this member so personally involved that you post this kind of post about this situation? Goodness, I better start checking my friend list - Any one available to be my bodyguards?
@annavi23 (6302)
• Philippines
7 Jun 10
not at all, be safe okay?! no need to have bodyguards,but if you can afford,then go! thanks for the nice thought!