Can it just be Friendship??

India
June 7, 2010 5:40am CST
I have seen many many boy having friendship with girls.But in the end they become lovers or something else.how can all think like this in their life? I dont think boys and girls can just be friends in life.they can just be casual friends but they cant be best friends in their life.I am 24 years old i have never seen a boy and girl who are best friends although they are just friends Does anybody does not agree with me?
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13 responses
@zralte (4186)
• India
7 Jun 10
You are definitely entitled to your opinion. But I respectfully disagree. I have lots of friends who are male. And my best friend in college was a guy. We go to parties together, helped each other out with romantic problems, etc. etc Men and women can be friends. They don't have to be lovers.
• India
8 Jun 10
Ok what i said is what happening in real life... Any ways thank you for your opinion
@srganesh (6350)
• India
8 Jun 10
I think it is very rare to have a best friend in opposite gender.There may be friendship but they can't share each and everything with opposite gender friends.And they can last as good friends only if their life partners can understand and accept the relationship.It is very hard on the girl's side.
@smints8985 (1595)
• United States
8 Jun 10
I still believe a man and woman can still be just friends. Just like a guy can have another guy for his best friend, and a girl can have another girl for her best friend, I think the same thing applies to a girl having a guy as her best pal and the other way around. The only thing is, some girl and guy friendships may turn into something more special than just friendship, given that it is a normal thing for 2 persons of the opposite gender to fall in love with each other. Still, not all guy and girl friendships go to that same path, do you notice that with some people there is an automatic attraction, but for some it's very platonic? I believe that if the first time you met that person you felt something for him/her, attraction or liking, when you become friends there is a possibility of things going beyond friendship. But if it was just friendship from the start and you really know that nothing beyond that can happen then you'll remain friends. Just plain friends.
@ladyg26 (59)
• United States
8 Jun 10
i have a best friend that is a guy and we never ended up being together.i guess you can choose between lovers and friends.i mean i can never see us together.you can choose.
• Philippines
7 Jun 10
we can always treat the friendship of younger boys with younger girls as real friendship but once the boy grows up and makes friends with girls that is not pure friendship anymore..a lot of boys want to start a relationship over friendship..girls also treat that as a good ground in having a strong relationship later on..
@kukueye (1761)
• Malaysia
7 Jun 10
GOt but rare, usually my culture here is when the boy become the girl best friends she will call her stepbrother, or big brother so like family like that. Girl and boy best friends i also see very rare indeed.I guess because of sexuality,usually there are young man and girls hormones are raging and such. i hear homosexual guys having best girlfriends that is a higher posibility i guess.Or lesbian girl having guys as best friends?.
@med889 (5958)
7 Jun 10
Well me and my boyfriend have been friend too and then we turn to lovers after six months however we still have a lot of friends who are still friends from the very beginning so we can have a relationship with a boy/girl without falling in love with him/her too. My best friend is not my boyfriend but a boy who has been my friend before my boyfriend.
@Zhizho (1352)
• Indonesia
7 Jun 10
Hi, maybe I am one of them who are not agree with you.LOL. I think it depend on what friend we want. I have purpose when making friend or making relation. So when you want to build friedship so just go as friend. I want making friendship to build network, socilaization, to make me better. So, it is imposible become lover to all friend who boys/men. I have some boy friends and still be friend. I was married and have one son and always keep contact or visit each other .
@dorothy09 (1520)
• Philippines
7 Jun 10
hi there arukrishnan005, well for me it is possible, I am more comfortable in the company of gentlemen, I just love what boys can do, the sports and the attitude.. But I am not a lesbian.:) One factor that my partner hardly courted me because I am surrounded with guardian friends...its good to have a lot of boy friends, they really loves you.when you are not a flirty girl , boys will love you and respect you.. have a nice day ...
7 Jun 10
I think that although what you have said can happen I wouldnt say thats what happens the majority of the time. As a rule I tend to find I get on with guys a lot easier than girls. Personally I find that my friendship with guys tend to be more solid as we are less likely to fall out over minor things as I am with my friends who are girls. I also think that friendships with males tend to be less high maintenance and if I can not contact them for awhile when we do get round to talking its just like we're best friends.
@kharlav (1673)
• Philippines
7 Jun 10
I disagree with you. I guess unless they like each other a little bit when they became friends then they still not become lovers and fall for each other. I had a boy bestfriend before but we never became lovers. We were bestfriends for more than 3 years but never have I fallen for him. I treated and looked at him like a brother because of our closeness.
@Ravenladyj (22937)
• United States
7 Jun 10
they can just be casual friends but they cant be best friends in their life sorry I totally disagree with you and I PERSONALLY have and have ALWAYS had guy friends that were some of my closest and best friends..I'm like a sister to htem and they are like brothers to me..
• Philippines
7 Jun 10
well in my circle of friends casually they start to say they are just best friends but sooner or later they become a couple. hehehe. That's why when we see a friend of ours that that's been closer to each other than usual we do not bother to ask if what is there relationship because they would just tell us that they are only best friends but later on they became a couple. :)