when people leave......

@pinetree (218)
China
June 8, 2010 4:52am CST
It's the time of people around me leave,some of them I may never met again, but my heart is not ready for their leaving yet, I feel so .... a feeling of loss, or feeling of that I shoud live my life with greater enthusiasm,I just wanna know.....thoug we are from different countries, but I think people's feeling are similar, despite the culture differences..... when people leave what's your feeling and what you usually do?Thanks, your answer would be very important for me.....
3 responses
@CJscott (4184)
• Canada
8 Jun 10
Well my dear friend PineTree, you are about to learn one of my deepest darkest secrets. I feel nothing when people leave me, it is a part of life, I know I should feel something, and yet I have trained myself from a young age, to not. I feel that not feeling anything is wrong and sad, but it is the way it is for me. When I was much younger, we were abused a lot, so I am sure many times leaving people and places was a joyous occasion to be treasured, and then I remember the last time I cried because someone left my life, it was my pet cat...I was 7. One of my brothers friends from down the street locked it in an air tight container, I know this because I found it the next day...it was gross and disgusting. I do not remember the cats name or gender, only that it was taken from me. I have not cried over someone or something leaving my life since, of course, I do not think that I allow myself to grow overly attached to people or pets or things in the first place. Sincerely and With appreciation.
@pinetree (218)
• China
9 Jun 10
Hi, Scott, thank you for sharing your deepest darkest secret here! as for me, I think it needs time if I had no feeling when people left, or maybe this is the difference of personality,or I lack of the experience of saying"goodbye"to people, actually, people in my hometown live a stable life, I was not used to say goodbye to people, and always think that I will come back and see them again. Your "I do not think I shouldn't allow myself to grow overly attached to people or pets or things in the first place."is really a good reminder to me, because most people in my hometown awere not like this, me either, in part of life, I have closely attached to my first place.But I am in the course of chaning all this now, thanks! With great appreciation!
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@CJscott (4184)
• Canada
9 Jun 10
We always moved around a lot so it is what made the most sense to me. I love you!
@besthope44 (12145)
• India
4 Aug 10
Well its a heart feeling, but its a destiny we cannot make all stay with us.
@setsuna26 (2410)
• Philippines
8 Jun 10
When a friend of mine is leaving it is absolute that i feel sad thats true but sometimes i tell myself theres a reason why people needs to leave every now and then. First it might be a career move for them thats why they need to go. Or maybe its because of their family thats why they need to go. Lesson is we should learn how to let go of these people needs to go but that doesnt mean they dont care of feel anything good bout us its just that they need to go and grow as well. Yes it is sad but thats a part of reality we just need to accept this fact and move on with our lives. Just always remember that even if they are far away from us their hearts are still with us no matter what