What would you feel if somebody is trying to pull you down?

Philippines
June 8, 2010 6:30am CST
Good day to you fellow mylotters! In an office vicinity, you cannot avoid a situation wherein, there will be some debate or discussions that will arise. And for me, this is just a part of the day-to-day transaction and activities. But, what if, one of your colleague, try to pull you down. Wherein, he slowly acquires your work and step-in at your jurisdiction. Where he always do that as if he is just trying to help you. And he loves to do that especially if the boss is around. In a situation like this, what would you feel to your colleague? Will you get angry and mad at him? Or you will just keep quiet?
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14 responses
• Philippines
9 Jun 10
hello there! of couse initial feeling is ill be mad but i will take it as a challenge,, i will not talk to him/her about what he/she is doing to me cos if we have an argument it will just worsen the situation.. i will just do all the job assign for me and i will try my best that ill be a good example to this person.
• Philippines
9 Jun 10
i will feel bad because even if you do good in the office and be responsible on that you are doing.. there will come a time that your officemate will pull you down because they know that you will earn a lot of money compare to them because you are a hardworking person.. so when i always encountering that people.. i'll just ignored them and prove to our job or work that i am doing good and not pulls down the image of other people especially you co workers..
@ebuscat (5949)
• Philippines
9 Jun 10
For me they feel angry at you to get you down so that at t5he result they are the winner's.
• China
9 Jun 10
having the same experience. several months ago, I quited. later she replaced my position, because of capacity, she was usually shouted by boss, and now she will be fined next week.
@kkanaka (887)
• Singapore
9 Jun 10
I think I almost have a situation like yours. This one is a new guy and he tries too hard to be friendly with others and also to me, which is quite irritating, I try to avoid him but he seems bend on to make my life a hell. Whatever we do now will look like we are at fault, so you need to be very patient, dont do anything in an haste which will make you look as if you are in the wrong or is bad, so just be yourself, dont even get angry with him/her after some days he will surely get the message....
@braiym3 (135)
• Philippines
9 Jun 10
It depends on the results of his actions. If it really affects my job I would rather talk to him/her in a professional way before anything went wrong.
• Philippines
9 Jun 10
I think anybody would get mad if they feel that somebody is envious of them and being destructive already. I get envious too sometimes of other people's achievements, but its a harmless kind of envy .In fact , i get inspired by how i admire/envy people excelling in something productive. But when gets destructive already and is doing things that really causes damage to another person, i say this person is a menace and should be taught some lessons.We should all be happy when other people succeed and know that we will have our own time of triumph.
• Philippines
9 Jun 10
Hi! I will not be angry or mad nor will I keep quiet, instead I will let him know where he should be standing and that's not gonna be in front of me. Have courage and tell him how you really feel and let him know where he should be at. You should make a stand now for your self, before he steps on you some more. You can do it!
@elvieb02 (696)
• Philippines
9 Jun 10
hi! I've been in that situation, at first I keep quiet as I was quite new in the office but as days passed by, my officemate was really stepping out of her bounds, so what I did, every time she would "help" me, I would say direct to her face in a "polite" manner, that I don't need her help and I can manage and would ask her if I need to. In this case she stopped stepping into my boundary.
@joyce318 (139)
• China
9 Jun 10
I hate the people who have double aspects. I met a person,not a colleague, but a friend who grew with me in the same viliage. We studied in the same school for nearly 20 years. Though she has some problems, I treat her sincerely. But one day, I knew that she always say my wrong in the front of my friends and did something to hurt my feeling.After that, I did not quarrel with her, but I started to treat her coldly. I will never forgive her.
@kaka135 (14099)
• Malaysia
8 Jun 10
If I encounter that kind of situation, I'd just think the colleague wants to show his performance in front of the boss, and I suppose I'd just let him be. I do not like to fight for anything at work, and I only like to do whatever I like, but not involved in any office politics. I am a simple person, and I just wish I can do what I want at work. Unless the colleague really did something that make me can't tolerate anymore, otherwise I'd usually just keep quiet. I'll voice out if I think it's necessary, otherwise I'd prefer to have happy working environment but not bringing up any issues.
@zengy57 (59)
• Philippines
8 Jun 10
i don't mind dealing with those kind of people,just do my job and excell with it anyway its my job description nobody can not take it away from me unless i will be promoted.she can do it for me but keep an eye with her, she might do a mistake at my expense. huh if she did mistake apprehend her in front of some officemates or my superior.Am i right?
@syankee525 (6294)
• United States
8 Jun 10
kick them in the face knock them off and go and prove myself to them, i never allow anyone to hold me down
@rosie230 (1674)
8 Jun 10
I would just try and rise above it... and not show that I am getting angry... especially in a place of work, because it could become much harder to work with someone if you argue with them, even though it is annoying you it is probably best just to say nothing, or maybe just to give a few hints to tell them.