How can you make someone feel that you love Him/Her without yourself look stupid

Philippines
June 8, 2010 6:54pm CST
I just wanna know how...we have a new player in our computer shop.. He's not handsome or cute..you can tell that he is ugly when you see him.. but I like him..and I want to make him feel it..but I am so afraid that I will make myself a fool or I may look stupid in him.. He's not a kind of guy that talks a lot..He is semi-silent man..so I find it hard to make friends with him.. Any advise? Thanks! Happy mylotting! :)
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@derek_a (10874)
9 Jun 10
Everything in life is a risk, and when we feel we love somebody, if the other person is equally afraid of looking stupid, we may never get to be with that person. I have always thought deeply about this, and decided some time - many years ago - that I will have to risk feeling stupid, as feeling stupid would not cause me any harm at all, and I may even get into a beautiful relationship and not feel stupid.. It was worth the risk. _Derek
@derek_a (10874)
10 Jun 10
Yes, I understand the difficulty. It was in my culture too when I was young that men did all the courtship, but not so much nowadays I understand. Girls do a little chasing too. What I find is important is never to make it look obvious that you are wanting a date with a guy, but just to be yourself. Push through your shyness, if you have any and just start conversations about yourself and asking about the guy. If it is meant to be, then it will be so. There is a risk of feeling stupid in life for all of us and sometimes, we don't look stupid at all when we feel we do, it is just our own feelings that are telling us so. _Derek
• Philippines
10 Jun 10
Thanks Derek! you making me brave! ^__^ yep..maybe it is just myself and my mind who telling me that I looked stupid..
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• Philippines
10 Jun 10
Thanks derek! :) You have a point..but honestly, it's really hard to do for me.. 'cause I am a girl..all of my afraid with looking stupid are all just because i think, that I am a girl..and here in our country..boys are the usually do the courtship.. :( what can you say? pls reply.. :( thanks for the nice answer though...
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• India
10 Jun 10
Show him that you are interested in him. Do small things for him. Give him a small present once in a while. This way he would know that you like him and you will not be making yourself look stupid too.
• Philippines
10 Jun 10
thanks my dear! Ok..I will. :)
• Philippines
9 Jun 10
Hi mhekhies, your a funny girl! I like the part when you said he is ugly when you see him lol. Thats us girls, not after looks but after character! Anyway, why not try to play the game he is playing then compete with him. IM not sure how you guys play things on net cafe but something to that effect. Or, ask him how he play the games. Pretend you dont have any idea lol. I know you get what i mean. Goodluck girl!
• Philippines
10 Jun 10
haha thanks girl!! you really make me smile!! ^__^ actually He use to play DOTA (depend of the ancient)...but He and his friends just go and play in our computer shop for a tournament..meaning,He go there for a serious play with money involves..our regular player in our shop fight them on that game. so..how can I ask him to play DOTA with me? :( I can't even ask him to teach me how to play dota 'cause he already know that I know how to play it. If not, maybe he will just wondering why I asked him to teach me for that thing and not on our regular player..waaahhh! My head is aching!!! :(
@saphrina (31552)
• South Africa
9 Jun 10
Sweetie, since you like him so much, why don't you just go sit and talk to him. You need to get to know him. Maybe he will start talking when you start. Be yourself and go for it. TATA.
• Philippines
10 Jun 10
thanks my dear..okay I will try to get close to him.. I hope I can... :(
@setsuna26 (2751)
• Philippines
10 Jun 10
I think you should start by trying to figure out what is it that hes doing in the internet most of the time. When you already saw what is it that hes doing then maybe after sometime you can casually ask him if hes just new to the thing, talk to him casually say you tell him you just got curious with what hes doing because you know someone doing the same thing as well. If hes just playing games then its pretty much simple to approach him, try to learn some stuff bout the game so that you will have a common ground to talk bout. The rest will be easy and simple you just have to be yourself and dont make him see that your interested at him first.Just be casual
• Philippines
10 Jun 10
Thanks for the comment... okay..I will always remember what you've said.. "JUST BE CASUAL" Thanks! :)
@jonnifc (1017)
• Philippines
10 Jun 10
I think you should make him your friend first. Everytime he comes into the shop then strike up a little conversation with him. You have to be prepared with the topics ok? Like where he goes to school, where he lives, what does he like about DOTA (make him think your really interested in it). petty things like that. then move on to being his friend in fb. when he pays for his bill at your shop, try to make conversation with him again. when he's comfortable talking to you, maybe you'll become friends and not just acquaintances. if you really like the guy, looking a little stupid is worth it. at least you'll never wonder "what if". good luck!
• Philippines
10 Jun 10
Thanks my dear!! I think, It will help.. I like your idea about, when he will going to pay his bill, I will try to make some conversation to him..but the problem is..his friend was the one who was pay their bills...because, they always go to our shop as a group to fight on the DOTA tournament.
• Mexico
9 Jun 10
Hi mhekhies: For me that's a big question and the thing that always makes me stop. Whenever I think about this situation I feel stupid. I think it would be better for me doing this online I think I'm better writing than talking, I'm a poet so that's the way I'd say someone I love you. Thanks for sharing with your feelings. Have a nice day. ALVARO.
• Philippines
9 Jun 10
thanks alvaro.. yup..it's really hard.. and i don't really know what to do.. i feel its killing me softly.. :(
@cleewlkr (160)
• Indonesia
9 Jun 10
well why don't you try to help him while he needs help? try to have more time to talk with him.. (I'm a semi-silent man too... but when I'm online or by SMS, I can talk more than what I say^^)
• Philippines
9 Jun 10
really cleewlkr? thanks a lot! i think.. it can help.. he also talk a lot online..because he always post a shoutouts on his facebook account.. :) He's not handsome..really..some of my friends said that he's ugly..and somehow, it's true..but I can't help but to have a crush on him...because of his being a silent man, he catch my attention..and I think, even my heart.. hehe :p How I wish, there comes a time that he will be needing my help :p thanks again! :) God bless!