To have a child or not?
By krischine
@krischine (269)
Philippines
June 8, 2010 7:21pm CST
If you found out that you and your spouse could not conceive, would you (a) use a fertility treatments, (b.) use a sperm or egg donor, (c) become a foster parents, (d) adopt, or (e) remain childless? and why you choose that answer.
5 responses
@ckyera (17332)
• Philippines
9 Jun 10
hi krischine,
well my husband and i is facing this kind of situation, we have been married for 6 years and still we are not lucky to have one. we are trying but still we always fail, but its okay. even if we are already waiting that long we still don't rush, hehe and still patiently waiting in its time to come.
but if its really already impossible for us to have our own child, we can consider adoption but my husband and i have to talk about it first, but for now we are no plans of doing so, unless someone will give us the child? huh!
@krischine (269)
• Philippines
9 Jun 10
I found someone who sell that chasteberry online, he is located at Makati I guess, but try to search it at Sulit, you can find lots of seller there.
@krischine (269)
• Philippines
9 Jun 10
Have you tried taking some herbal medicines to increase fertility? try to take a chasteberry, maybe that could help you. Try to browse some sites and search engine for chasteberry, you will know all the details.
Adoption is a better choice for me, if I can't conceive and yes it needs to be discussed with our partner.
@Galena (9110)
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9 Jun 10
I would be releived to know that we were unable to conceive.
at this point in time we're using several forms of contraception, and I still worry that it may happen by accident.
as we are not trying to conceive, in fact, trying not to conceive, I have no way of knowing if we're fertile or not. just that so far we've been successful.
if I am fertile, I wish there were some way of giving that fertility to someone that would make use of it, in exchange for the peace of mind of not having to worry about conceiving.
@krischine (269)
• Philippines
9 Jun 10
Yes Galena, there are lots of women out there who can't conceive a baby and they were doing a lot of medical examination just to have a baby. You could help them, if you are fertile and makes both of you happy.
@chanlot (189)
• Indonesia
9 Jun 10
... Hey, if I marry my partner, of course I would prefer to own and nurture their own children, it can I do if my wife and I own no problems with fertility.
Now I am not married and did not know whether I was fertile or not, so that if later I got married and it turns out I was not fertile, then I would choose to adopt a child. Obviously I would adopt a child who really, really good.
I disagree if we have children of sperm donors, sperm is sperm let alone anyone else, because I'm not sure it will give me a good offspring and the donor sperm is prohibited in my religion.
@krischine (269)
• Philippines
9 Jun 10
If you have plans for adoption, would you rather adopt a child with in your family or distant relatives?
@leighann675 (78)
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9 Jun 10
Difficult one! I would want a child so i would either adopt or use fertility treatment. The advantage of treatment is that you can give birth and feel like it is really yours! but mu Dad was adopted and he and many others take their adopted parents as their own. It is an interesting debate.
@krischine (269)
• Philippines
9 Jun 10
Fertility treatment will cost too much of money, but If I have that money of course I will grab that treatment. Adoption also difficult nowadays it needs a lot of papers. What's with the money if that baby can bring happiness to a family.
@krischine (269)
• Philippines
19 Jun 10
Hi Kuncen, welcome here in mylot. Thank you for your response, Yes if we have a child they will be our future offspring.
