Jealousy...How jealous can you be?

Malaysia
June 9, 2010 5:59am CST
Hi mylotter, how jealous can you get with someone? i think i have problem with it because i can't help myself but get really jealous especially when it envolves my partner. sometime i think my mind is making me jealous...
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@Theresaaiza (10484)
• Australia
9 Jun 10
Symptoms include extreme paranoia, or sense of distrust over someone like your partner. Whatever it is, it is not easy being in, and unhealthy as well. What could be the reason for that? Has he/she ever cheated on your before? As for me, I am rarely jealous. I trust my partner with all my life. In fairness to him, he also makes sure he doesn't break that trust. I know he has admirers too but that's not a reason for me to be insecure. If he will fall for another, then he isn't for me. Im not saying it will be that easy but in time I will realize that I deserve someone better.
• Malaysia
10 Jun 10
No he never cheated on me but i feel like i'm not that important in his life. i caught him planning on having happy hour with the boys but he never mention it to me instead he lied saying i was making things up. i don't mind him seeing his friend as long as he is honest and doesn't forget that he has someone waiting.
@Theresaaiza (10484)
• Australia
15 Jun 10
It's good that you make it clear to him that a boy's night doesn't bother you at all but dishonesty does.
• United States
24 Jul 10
For me, I have found when I am feeling jealous it is because of one of two things, or both: my own insecurity or a lack of trust. When jealousy seeps in, I ask myself if trust has been broken, if not then I ask myself where am I feeling insecure and why. In any case, I place the blame on myself, not on others, respect my feelings and repair them if needed, changing my reaction to the circumstance in which I felt jealousy creep in. If another has violated trust in our relationship, repair it if at all possible, if not then I move away from that relationship.
• Malaysia
25 Jul 10
Yes most probably i feel insecure and lack of trust. thank you for your respond :-)
@vanity666 (260)
• Spain
9 Jun 10
I'm not a jealus person when i'm a relationship..but i'm a little bit jealous when i start to like someone and i see he flirts with other girls and not me... but in my relationships i'm not jealous, just possesive and i ask for a lot of attention of my partner
• Malaysia
18 Jun 10
we ladies sure do like to get attention from your partner. I'm not that possessive but i don't like him hanging out too much with all his single friends who act like young teenagers.
• United States
9 Jun 10
I can't help it either and it is not a pretty sight. I get violent and very loud with the person. I am sitting here mad with Tim right now because he could not come last night. if I get jealous of him spending time with his friends again we may split up.
• Malaysia
18 Jun 10
sometime i get loud too but only when he acts like a single person. I hope you can cool down and talk things over with your Tim. Don't take drastic action you might end up hurting more than you know it.
@setsuna26 (2410)
• Philippines
9 Jun 10
Im a very jealous person, even with my friends i can be really jealous most of the times. Like when my bestfriend is not around and i saw him or her going out with someone else something inside me is jealous i dont know why. Thats even worse when my girlfriend is not around, and ive known that shes out with someone else, i just cant think quite right when i feel jealous even if i try to calm myself its pretty hard for me.But at the end of the day if i dont calm myself i will just hurt myself and might as well fight with my bestfriend or girlfriend with the way i act or the way im jealous for something that i should not be jealous at all.But even though i admit im jealous i am also trying my best to change and to understand other people's needs too .
• Malaysia
10 Jun 10
I know how you feel, i often feel the same way too. for me my mind will create situation that is beyond my own imagination, it's is like my mind has its own mind.
@nanayangel (7839)
• Philippines
9 Jun 10
Hi there Curious Play 54! I used to be very jealous especially on the first couple of years of our marriage. After that, it lessened and I am now proud to say that I am not jealous anymore unless I have a perfect reason to be. I think that after I got over jealousy and after my husband did too, we now have a better relationship.
• Malaysia
10 Jun 10
Ohh i am worry that this jealousy of mine will never fade away. is it really possible not to feel jealous after a few years in a marriage? my mum always says she is no longer feeling jealous with my dad can that be true nanayangel?
@laglen (19782)
• United States
9 Jun 10
jealousy is a very bad thing. If you can not trust your partner, you shouldnt be with that person. It will eat you up and your partner. Ask yourself why, and work on that .
@krischine (270)
• Philippines
9 Jun 10
In a relationship there will always be a Jealousy, specially when you really love the person so much. Most of the girls has this symptoms, we tend to think a lot of things and make our mind paranoid. Thinking in what our partner been doing, or whom he talked to. But we must have the trust in that person.
@rushikm (96)
• India
9 Jun 10
I feel jealous when she do anything with my friend and she is talking with him just for i feel jealous.I fill sad when i see her with any other boy.But finally i got cried and all rock of love broken and i got freedom. :D
• Philippines
9 Jun 10
i think there's nothing wrong to be jealous.. i mean its normal to us especially when it involves to our partner.. me myself is a very jealous person but i just handle it and make things in right place.. :) we should be jealous in right place.. :)