How to deal with “NOT SO COOL CO-WORKERS”?

India
June 9, 2010 8:24pm CST
A demanding job and bothersome colleagues is a deadly combination, not something that can be dealt with everyday. However, while politics, groupism and gossip are an inevitable part of most organizations but that should not affect the end result of our work and ultimately it goes as performance degrade. I am saying this because there is a co-worker who is very nice to talk and always smile too much even without reason but he does not support me when I need to understand some work which he knows best. I am not sure if he is trying to be the expert and not willing to share the knowledge so that he is most valued employee in the department. I can escalate the issue to his boos and he will have to help me after that but do not find that suitable in long run. I tried to find the root cause but does not seem any solution to it. Do you guy find any such irritating co-worker? If yes. How do you deal with them without hampering the relation?
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7 responses
@yahnee (1243)
• Philippines
30 Dec 11
Some co-workers can really be selfish in sharing their knowledge with others and we can not blame them for that since they might have also worked hard to gain the experience. Some can be rather helpful but will tend to remind you now and then that you owe your knowledge from what they have taught you. All the scenario of politics and gossip are most often a part of big companies. In their need for advancement, some would not think twice of stepping on other toes just to be promoted or recognized by the management. In order to get above the rest, do your own self study of your job requirements and how you can best perform according to the needs of your job. Use your observation skills in learning how to improve and ignore your irritating co-workers otherwise you will just be distracted from your own performance. All companies have this certain kind of workers and more often than not, these people do not stay long on the job. I have been with HR for too long that I have met all these kinds of personalities. Just do your job well and in time it will serve you well.
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• India
8 Jan 12
Yeh, I am not too much worried about it now a days as my manager has taken care of this situation by complaining against that guy to his boss so all good. Thank you for sharing.
@kingparker (9673)
• United States
30 Dec 11
The best bet is talk to your supervisor and sit down with this particular co - worker of yours and talk it out loud. Otherwise, he just would play you out, and not gonna teaching you a thing. I had met such individual at work before, and you just don't want to make a big scene about it at your work place, it gonna make you ugly if you know what I am saying. So, the last resort is to your supervisor, see if he can deal with this individual.
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• India
8 Jan 12
Yes, this looks like a suggestion which I followed and kind of worked for everyone who did not want to complain but at the same wanted to stop this non-sense. Thank you for sharing.
@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
12 Feb 13
hello there! Ha. you can really meet a lot of people and a lot of many different attitude as well in our workplace. You sure know that there will be those who would seem friendly and helpful at first, but when it comes to work they are unwilling to let you know more than you do when you ask them. I think, these people are like this, because... they are insecure, they are threatened that if they help you and you learn more... you would then become someone that would probably be better than them. So that just happens, really.
@smiley83 (1534)
• Malaysia
10 Jun 10
yeah it did happen a lot to me and I would simply treat this person in the same way he or she is treating me.. I would even escalate the whole issue to the boss if nothing seems to work out!
• India
10 Jun 10
You are brave but I feel that this should not go long, I will have to work with that person for long time and Cannot go to boss for everything he does to me. Thank you for sharing.
@smiley83 (1534)
• Malaysia
10 Jun 10
hahahha well not that brave but sometimes I find no other options but to tell!! although, I don't like it too..but sometimes I have to make it... you are welcome by the way
• Mexico
10 Jun 10
Hi smiley and Ajay Singh Baghel: I agree with you smiley, as an employee you don't need to tolerate this situation but if you can't talk to the boss my advice would be, try to ignore it and do the things by yourself and you won't need this person that doesn't help you at all in the near future. Thanks for your answer. Have a nice day. ALVARO.
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• Mexico
10 Jun 10
Hi Ajay Singh Baguel: i think that's not good with you but if they are so competitive, I think you should not ask them for help and do your work on your own and I'm sure that you won't need them for so long. In the end these not so cool co-workers will need you when you learn everything about your job so try to not feel so affected with this. Thanks for your answer. Have a nice day. ALVARO.
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• India
11 Jun 10
I am very much confident on the work that I have done earlier and do not need any help on that but the new work is new to me, that need some input from these guys. There is no documentation os manual that can help so have to ask these so called experts. As you guys suggested, I am spending 1 hr everyday to learn that thing and hopefully will not need any help from that guy. Thank you for caring and sharing.
@kingparker (9673)
• United States
23 Sep 10
Honestly, I don't know how to deal with those people. It seems to me they are the most selfish kind at work. I have encounter such person at work too. Oh well, if they are unwilling to teach me, then I have to ask someone else then. I would ignore those person in life too.
• India
24 Sep 10
I too try to ignore them but sometime you have to work with them only and than its too difficult to move on. Thank You for sharing.
@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
22 Aug 12
Haha, some people are just competitive at work. i think too many are just like that.. often we can only trust ourselves at work, many people do not like to sharee their knowledge or what they know to others because they see them as a threat that if they get better... they can already replace them, or get the recognition... most insecure officemates would react like that. Perhaps what you should do then is just to ignore and be careful about people who appear to be smiling on your face, and then backstabbing you... just be careful with these kinds of officemates... =)