Friends in myLot

@allknowing (65036)
India
June 10, 2010 9:38pm CST
A thought just struck me and that is we get notifications when our friends start discussions. Is this really necessary? Do you just go for discussions that have been initiated by friends? There could be interesting discussions initiated by users who are not on our 'friends' list. Don't you think that this in a way divides us here. Is it a healthy trend?
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• United States
11 Jun 10
I only have a few notifications turned on so I don't get slammed with new discussions my friends started. I like to see what they're writing about first but I don't consider it a division of any sort. I start with my friends when I come to myLot, and I don't answer all discussions. I only answer discussions I'm interested in replying to. No one seems to mind and the same goes for me if I start a discussion, I really don't expect every one of my friends to participate in it. Right after I start with my friends, I go to my interests, then to no responses, and sort of pop around all over the board. I'll answer any discussion, whether it be my friends or not, if I'm interested.
• Bangalore, India
12 Jun 10
ya me the same and i used to have some good mind so that the answer of the discussions will become the start of my new discussions some times and that is not all about there are a lot we have to go with what we liked and that is all about..there are wonders which we have to learn from friend..have fun..
@geojb90 (471)
• Romania
11 Jun 10
I've checked that option to notify me because I usually don't look at the "friends started" section, so it's good I'm getting e-mails when someone from my friends list posts a new discussion.
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@mysdianait (64058)
• Italy
11 Jun 10
I go for everything possible. I use all of the tans provided but I am also extremely happy with the notifications. If I am not here but I am online and a notifier arrives with a discussion by a particular friend (maybe they were missing or their dicussions are of particular interst for example) then I am aware of it as soon as they post. I do have some of the notifiers turned to off but those ar emostly users who post rarely but then spam with multiple topics in a short space of time. I use the 'no responses' tab a lot and all the discussions as soon as they are started go there but I also am happy to have the notifiers so that I can immmediately be aware of discussions started by friends when I am not logged in. Once again myLot give us a choice We can tunr them to 'off' and we do not receive them or leave them 'on'. It's up to us but I feel that it is not something that should be removed at all.
@allknowing (65036)
• India
11 Jun 10
My understanding is that users would not lose much if the notifiers were not on. And the fact that we are alerted about our friends' discussions it is possible that those friends whose discussions we do not participate in may feel that their discussions are being neglected by their 'friends' - just a hunch.
@allknowing (65036)
• India
11 Jun 10
Also, some here have countless 'friends' even more than a thousand. How does on perform the balancing feat!!
@mysdianait (64058)
• Italy
11 Jun 10
I have no idea how others cope but I have no problems. On my list there are over 1300 names but not all of them are active and only a small number are starting discussions regularly. I have no expectations from them and I hope they have none from me. When they start a topic that I can relate to I participate in it if time allows just as they do with mine. I certainly do not feel 'neglected' if they are not on my rare topics. With that number of names on my list it is obvious that they are not all here and if they were then it would be an amazing feat if they did respond on my topics or if they all started their own I have friends from over 3 years ago and some of them are absent due to offline reasons. They come back eventually and I am more than happy to be immediately notified when this happens.
• India
11 Jun 10
I realized much later that we approve even those friends whose interests do not match ours. There is no point in having a friend whose discussions are not in conformity with our interest. Now I am reluctant to delete them from my friend's list. The best thing I can do not is to create a filter so that all notification concerning friend's discussion automatically goes to spam mail.
@allknowing (65036)
• India
11 Jun 10
I feel this activity is superfluous in that it simply adds something that we can easily do away with and this applies to myLot Admin as well. What say?
• India
11 Jun 10
Yes, it serves no purpose they can do away this feature. There is no system to give them a feedback. May be they do not want feedback from us.
@mysdianait (64058)
• Italy
11 Jun 10
We already have a filter. When we add a friend their notifiers are set to 'on'. We can, at any time, then go and set them to 'off' and we will no longer receive notifiers from them. To do so you can go here: http://www.mylot.com/nr/friends.aspx?t=0 We also have 2 possibilities for making suggestions to myLot. One is by using the contact link at the bottom of the page http://www.mylot.com/o/contactus.aspx There is a drop-down menu and if you go right to the bottom you will see 'other'. A box will open where you can write to myLot regarding just about anything at all. The other is here: http://www.mylot.com/w/discussions/2219127.aspx
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@Naxous (974)
• India
11 Jun 10
Hi friend you are right to a certain extent that this is a sort of discrimination.However if you try to look at the broader picture then you will find out that the fact is a bit different.It's true that we are notified about all the discussions started by our friends however participating in discussions is our sole priority and no one can be forced to take part in a discussion even if it's started by a friend.At the same time you can always search discussions and find out other interesting topics and can participate in it.No one can prohibit you from doing that.The reason I believe a discussion started by a friend is notified because it is assumed that as friends we fall in the same wave length.So it is not that bad.
@allknowing (65036)
• India
11 Jun 10
"The reason I believe a discussion started by a friend is notified because it is assumed that as friends we fall in the same wave length.So it is not that bad" Honestly you think so ? Give me a break Naxous!!! I have included some who create tasks here but we are not notified when they post their tasks. We have to constantly find out if there are any tasks posted. Atleast here if there was a notification it would help us. There is a 'friends started' opttion which serves the purpose of looking for discussions initiated by friends and so this notification is, to my mind, superfluous.
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@Naxous (974)
• India
11 Jun 10
Hi friend indeed there are ways and measures that are needed to be done to make mylot a better place.When don't we all suggest ways that the administration can undertake to improve the site.Of course even I feel that there should be a more convenient method of finding out the tasks and their results.Also there are members who likes to alter some other things.Let's hope that the administration goes through this discussion and find out what's wrong with the site and where they can improve as there is always room for improvement.
@allknowing (65036)
• India
11 Jun 10
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@zralte (4186)
• India
11 Jun 10
The notifications get annoying when a friend start multiple discussions in a day. It just clutter the inbox. I turned notifications on some of my friends off because I know they start multiple discussions in a day and not some of those I have no idea how to respond to, or I don't see how I can contribute. I usually look it up on Friends Started Discussion on myLot to see if there's any of my friend's discussion that I want to respond to. I also respond to discussion started by any member if it is under my interests, or I find a discussion that is interesting, by any means. In conclusion, I don't respond to only my friends, I respond to any member's discussion provided it is interesting for me and that I think I can contribute something to it.
• United States
11 Jun 10
I agree with you about the email messages. They do get to be too much. Sometimes, I'll wake up in the morning and have 20 message. Don't forget to add the ones that go into bulk mail. Don't get me wrong, I love responding to my friends' discussions and if I can say something on them, I will, but it's frustrating to delete the floods of emails I get every day. I might have to do the same thing as you do and turn the notifications off for some friends.
@zralte (4186)
• India
11 Jun 10
You hit the nail right on the head. I want to respond to my friends' discussions, but when one person starts like 5 -10 discussions in a day, it's like 'Come on, I want to read other's discussion too' sort of thing. Yeah, there are lots that go into bulk mail. I started this turning off notification for some friends after I saw one discussion saying 'You made me Look you up to turn off your notifications'
@allknowing (65036)
• India
11 Jun 10
Friends expect us to respond to their discussions and as you say if there is a flooding of discussions it is not possible to oblige. In a way this notification thing is superfluous since there is already a 'friends started' option. myLot Admin are you there? Surely myLot Admin must have had to create software for this notification activity which according to me one could do without?
@Hatley (164654)
• Garden Grove, California
11 Jun 10
hi allknowing I sort of do both, I respond to others besides my friends and also respond to those of my friends that I can get an intelligent response to. I just delver all over the tabs responding to any that interest me too. But I do feel some responsiblity to try to keep in toudh with my closest friends here as they have all been most kind and responsive to me too.but I do skip around and we all should do some og that but I have over 700 friends so help.
• United States
11 Jun 10
I do the same thing! I get notifications in my email about my friends' discussions, so sometimes I go and visit them. Other times, if they don't really interest me or I have nothing to say, I browse the discussions that hold my interest. I also try to keep in touch with my friends on here as well, but I don't have 700! Goodness. I don't even have 200 yet, but I'm getting there.
• Philippines
11 Jun 10
To be balance, I do both. I participate on the discussions which my friends started when it catches my interests and I browse the top discussions and participate in it too.
@allknowing (65036)
• India
11 Jun 10
myLot has gone 'overboard' here in that there is already a 'friends started' option which takes care of our friends' discussions and these notifications if we turn them on in a way clutter our inbox.
@teamrose (1499)
• United States
11 Jun 10
I go to any discussion that strikes my fancy. I don't have enough friends starting discussions. Perhaps, I need to work on finding some friends. Will you be my friend, I'll be yours?
@allknowing (65036)
• India
11 Jun 10
You are on the right trace teamrose. There are so many options under 'discussions' that has a drop down menu with so many choices. Go there and make your choice. There you will find my discussions as well. Then again you could create interests and go for discussions under your interests - sky is the limit here. Being your friend is no big deal but I still feel what you are doing is the right way.
• United States
11 Jun 10
I don't really know why there are friends on mylot lol. Most people who come on here treat it like yahoo answers. But thats just my personal opinion. I've used the friends updates to answer their questions before but I rarely have done it in the past. I agree most people do update way to much. Thats what this sites for though. Asking a ton of questions and getting payed for it. So i really can't say im disappointed in people for trying, just don't expect me to post to everyone and we'll be great mylot friends lol! Thanks for posting! -Scott
@mysdianait (64058)
• Italy
11 Jun 10
I agree that many people use myLot as though it is a question & answer site and do not undestand that to get the best from all that is offered it should be used for discussions. It is not just for asking questions and posting responses and those that only do that are ususally those who complain about their earnings too Welcome to myLot!
@annavi23 (6302)
• Philippines
11 Jun 10
hi there,allknowing... it depends on you,it's all up to you my friend if you want to respond on your friend's discussions,it's your free will. sometimes i prefer to check homepage of mylot so it will be better also to start responding to other users not on my friends list. yeah,you can say it can divide people here cause of just focusing on friends' discussions.you can always explore yourself and have fun! all of us have freedom here,right? and there's nothing wrong if you respond on users that are not on your friends list! it's also a way of reaching out to people.especially those who are new here. that's what we are here for,to help each other out,right? what matters here,is it's all up to you! enjoy!
@allknowing (65036)
• India
11 Jun 10
My feeling is that it is better in the interest of healthy participation to do away with this notification option. There is a possibility that it could create ill feelings if friends do not see us responding to any of their discussions despite there being notifications!
• Philippines
11 Jun 10
I do not see anything wrong in getting notifications, when our friends start new discussions. In fact it is helpful for the users to get more motivated to participate here in mylot. Now to avoid getting divided here in mylot, let us not just participate on the discussions our friends started,but rather let us also check out other discussions as well. There are so many things where we can participate here on mylot actually. One is reading the news and commenting on it.
@allknowing (65036)
• India
11 Jun 10
There is a 'friends started' option which takes care of this in full measure. The notification activity according to me can be easily done away with which will help both the user and myLot Admin.
@cyberfluf (5005)
• Netherlands
13 Jun 10
I don't know if I like this feature, it clutters my inbox and I mostly delete them straight away. If I want to know what my friends are posting, I will visit their profiles or look under the tab 'friends started'. Some people might like it as it reminds them that they could go spend some time on mylot and it can be a motivation to come here more often. For me personally it doesn't do anything extra.
@Opal26 (17690)
• United States
12 Jun 10
Hi allknowing! First of all we don't just get notifys from all our friends. I have over 500 friends here and I don't get anywere near that many notifys because the notifys don't ever work correctly! I always do what I'm doing now and that is to go into the "discussions of the day" or the "hot" discussions to see what else I can find! And I think that is what most people do too. I am always interested to see what other people are saying and to meet new people. That is how I found your discussion!
• Bangalore, India
12 Jun 10
why do u think in the negative way go in the positive way it is so important to think in the good and so we have to think in the way we have to i think it better to communicate with the friends what they think and go with what they try to say and that is all about there are a lot we have to gain from friends and so mylot try to connect with friends in the better way ..have fun..
@laratri (254)
• India
11 Jun 10
hi... I agree that many people use myLot.There are some discussions from my friendsI always looking forward to. I have some friends in mylot. Thanks Mylot.
@balasri (26554)
• India
11 Jun 10
There are some discussions from my friends I always looking forward to.These notifications help me to respond to them immediately as they always do respond to mine dutifully.This helps me to be decent enough to respect their responses to mine.And it is always a pleasure to interact with a person one we have chosen for their wit and substance. And we can always scan for the good discussions by others all the time.
• United States
11 Jun 10
I don't have notify on for my friends. So I will not get anything telling me they started a post. I removed this for many reasons. One being the biggest was I had to pass many by as I was not interested. So Now I just go to my friends posts from the drop down menu. It works out well for me and I never miss a friends post.