Update On Me And Our God Kids

@CatsandDogs (13964)
United States
June 12, 2010 3:16pm CST
About time, huh? I know, I know. I've been so overwhelmed and mentally worn down with all that's transpired since my last update so here it goes. First of all, our God kids mother and us got into it and now we're not on speaking terms. What happened was, she called me and told me that she got pulled over because her registration on her car had expired and for not having insurance between such and such a time which she swears she did but couldn't find the paperwork to prove it and had a $300. fine which she couldn't pay. She said she tried calling her two sisters, both are in the army, and couldn't get either of them on the phone and is why she called me. She said she would pay us back when she got her tax return. I told her I'd call her back after talking to hubby about it. I was really hoping hubby would say no because neither of us trusted her because she's a user of the worst kind but hubby surprised the crap out of me by saying yes and even took the money to western union and sent it to her with the agreement that she's pay us back when she got her tax return. Now having three kids, we knew she got tax credit on each of them so she got a significant amount returned to her every year. Well she had her daughter send a text to me saying she had to pay out $200. this year and would have to make payments to pay us back. I let her know then and there that I know better than that and that was NOT the agreement and that we wanted the money back then. She avoided me like the plaque and even gave her daughter her cell phone so she wouldn't have to talk to me. Well, since we couldn't get a hold of her, I called her parents and told them all that went down. He talked to her about it and she really got mad at me then! OH WELL! Next thing we know is we get a western union money order in the mail of $25. and the next day I get a very hateful letter from her saying she doesn't want to speak to me ever again. I sent her a text telling her that I got her "really nice" letter and that's when I really let her have it! I told her exactly how I felt about her and her mothering skills because she did not and would not defend her kids against their grandmother's beatings and A LOT of other things that went on over the years. I was going to wait till the youngest one turned 18 then let her have it but I couldn't hold on any longer after that hateful letter she typed up for me, not after ALL we've done for her and the kids over the years and got crapped on time and time again. I let her know that once the money ran out, she turned on us and now we really know what she was about! A USER! So, we won't see the kids anymore until they turn 18 because she won't allow it. That comes to no surprise. I think I should call social services on her because of how the kids are being treated.... like second class citizens, in the way. It's affecting the middle child the worst and is growing mean. I was hoping to stop that some how by holding on to him a little tighter than the other two because he was so sensitive and very loving but since we won't get them any more during the summer months, we can't do anything anymore. There's so much to tell on what happened over the years that I could write a book but I can say this, this girl is so stupid that she let a 19 year old guy live with her and her boyfriend and HER three kids, the girl being the oldest at 13. Needless to say, she isn't a virgin anymore. This so called mother let this happen and wonders when she left them alone long enough for it to happen? If it were me, I'd have pressed statuary rape charges against the guy! Her excuse why she didn't is, he moved out when they found his father a few months ago and is a ways away. This so called mother makes me sick! She's lied more times than I can count but I overlooked it because of the kids. I overlooked a lot of things because of the kids. I wanted for them to see a structured life when they were with us and they did and loved coming here for the summer. If we were so bad as God parents, then why did they love coming and spending the summer with us? It's just the so called mothers way of getting back at us. She's using the kids against us. Oh well. Such is life, ya know?
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@ANTIQUELADY (36489)
• United States
12 Jun 10
Bless your heart Cat, there is always someone taking advantage of u. U are too good for your own good. I'm so sorry u want be able to see your god children. I know they mean alot to u. It takes a sorry person to be a mother like that. People like her don't deserve children.I'm surprised she hasn't been turned in to human services for her mothering. She needs to be. I feel so sorry for children who has a parent like this.
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@CatsandDogs (13964)
• United States
14 Jun 10
Hi Jo.... my mom warned me about her but we kept doing the things we did for the kids, not for their mother. I kept telling mom that but still, she knew just as I did that the mother was just using us. I was ok with it as long as the kids got what we sent to them. But now, I'm not so sure they got all the stuff we sent because later on I found out that the toys that we sent on Christmas was put in their shed. If we sent cash for their birthdays or what ever, I'd hear that they spent part of it or all on their mother. She's a leech of the worst kind! To sponge off her kids is the lowest of the low! So we started getting gift cards to what ever store the kids wanted it from and still, some how that "B" would find a way to have some of it spent on her. We couldn't win no matter which way we tried to do things. One time we bought the two boys two bed frames and sent them to them and because they weren't bunk beds, she gave them away.... supposedly. Now that the bank had closed, she turned on us and now won't let us see the kids. We've spent A LOT of money on them over the years and would've continued to do so had she not turned on us. I just got tired of her crap and let her have it. The youngest is now 11 so it'll be years before we'll get to see him again, if ever. So be it, I guess but it won't stop us from loving them from afar.
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@ANTIQUELADY (36489)
• United States
14 Jun 10
I'm so sorry Cat. She is a very sorry person but u can't change people like that. The sad thing the children love her no matter what she does & that has always been odd to me that they can love such a bad mother. It's very sad situation but i think y'all have done more than u probably should have. I hate a person that takes adnantage of someone's good intention. She is a sorry person & u are too good for your own good.
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@gabs8513 (48716)
• United Kingdom
15 Jun 10
I hate People that make Children suffer because there is Ill Feeling This whole incident is disgusting, you lent her that money in good Faith and she let you down like that after you helped her out of the goodness of your Heart I really hope that you will still get your Money back
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@CatsandDogs (13964)
• United States
17 Jun 10
So do we gabs. So do we. It just goes to show how low a person stoops when they act this way especially when children are involved. All I can do is hope and pray that they'll be alright and if not, they'll know how to contact us if they get in a jam. As for the so called mother, she has made another payment of $25. so maybe she'll keep up with the payments. Had she not avoided me, we could've worked it out civilly but she kept hiding knowing full well that she owed it. The sad part is, we were going to make a deal with her and see if she'd bring the kids up and if she did, she could've kept half of what she owed to help towards gas to get up here and back home. Oh well, her loss and of course the kids are the ones who pay the most.
@Thoroughrob (11750)
• United States
15 Jun 10
It is sad that things have turned out this way. No matter how she feels, she should not keep the kids from you. It is sad that the kids have to pay for her decisions in life.
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@CatsandDogs (13964)
• United States
17 Jun 10
I can't agree more Thoroughrob. She's the lowest of the low and her kids will find that out one day. Right now they think she walks on water but they're kids so time will tell. I just hope they don't 'need' us during this hardship or can get a hold of us if they do. Hopefully some how we'll be able to keep in touch because we do love them and miss them something awful.