how do i know if she's sincerely sorry?

Philippines
June 13, 2010 12:36am CST
she was once a friend. she did something wrong against me. she wants to say sorry. but she wants me to go to their house so she could say sorry. is she really sincere or she just wants me to be a prey?
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6 responses
@srganesh (6350)
• India
13 Jun 10
If she feels really sorry, then she should step down, come to your house and ask for your friendship again. If you accept to visit her house, then you seem to forgive her even before she asks for a sorry. And she might consider herself as committing nothing serious fault on you. I conclude that she is not really regretting.
• Philippines
13 Jun 10
thanks.. i also think she is not actually sorry for what she did. the offense she made is too much. i agree with you. if she's really sorry, she should be the one to make the effort.
@Sven91 (30)
• Indonesia
13 Jun 10
I can not tell if she is sincere or not, but in my own opinion, usually she is the one that comes to you (not the opposite) and say sorry. But never mind, you can not judge by the way she did it. So just follow your heart, because you know her much than I do. You can judge by her behavior, is she going to make you become a prey or not. :)
• Philippines
13 Jun 10
hi there.. actually, i also have the feeling that she's not sorry because she's not the one who told me to come to her house. she only asked her sister to do it for her. she has less effort to make it up for me.
@kquiming (2999)
• Philippines
13 Jun 10
I doubt if she's really sorry at all. Because when you're sorry, the effort should come from you...if there's no real effort to make it up to the person wronged, I'm not convinced enough that the person trying to say sorry is really sincere. I've read somewhere that there are three steps in saying sorry: 1) Say it. 2) Mean it. 3) Make up for it.
• United States
13 Jun 10
i like those 1, 2, 3's and i completely agree with this.
@aijal1 (7)
• India
13 Jun 10
I agree with most of the responses here. She does not sound like she is really sorry at all. Asking you to go to her house?? Who does she think she is? A Queen? If you did something wrong to a friend and you want to apologise, you go and ask for forgiveness. Not asking a friend to come to you so you can apologise. To me, that just shows that she does not respect you as a friend. It might be that she really does not consider you a friend. That is not the kind of thing a friend does.
@busybee10 (3191)
• India
13 Jun 10
U see the suggestions vary from person to person and these days it is difficult to trust a person.It all depends upon your movements with her and you very well know her quantum of love towards you. If she really feels sorry for the negative thing done to you - she will sincerely and boldly says a SORRY ,but will not invite you to her house to say sorry.
@skysuccess (8882)
• Singapore
13 Jun 10
enyoung, It will depend on whatever happened between the both of you and how much are you prepared to stake. Of course, your consideration will need to take into account on how well you know your friend to accept her apology and continue as friends or not. All that hype as to whether to go to (their??) house or not where there seems to have an element of surprise waiting just tells a lot between the both of you. Frankly, if she sincere about it and you are willing to forgive - even a phone call will suffice and the rest will be on her to prove her part and point. I suppose you need to be honest with yourself here as to whether you are prepared to go on. There's no point when there's even a tinge of doubt within you. Take care.