Would you hold a grudge?

@la_chique (1499)
June 14, 2010 6:45am CST
I have a question for you. If you have a bad dream about your partner, for example if they dream-cheat or if they leave you in your dream, do you ever have bad feelings toward them the next day? I think this is a funny one, because I can honestly say that what goes on in my dreams stays in my dreams. Uusally I forget them by the time I've woken up properly or if I do have a dream about my partner where he does something bad, I certainly dont hold it against him the next day. He does though. He gets a bit upset sometimes and will sulk with me even though I have actually done nothing wrong. Do you react like this to dreams? Also would you tell your partner about a worrying dream you had had about them?
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@suryachalla (1370)
• India
10 Jul 10
Dream Evil - Many a time, we have dreams of "evil", where your closest friend, brother, father, mother cheat or betray you in the dream "sequence". We get up with a start, only to fall back on the bed with a moan.
Yeah, it happens quite often that someone close to you betrays or cheats you in a dream. The grudge is spontaneous and lasts a short while before "reality" takes over.
• India
12 Jul 10
I forgot to add that when I was young, "betrayal dreams" used to leave a bitter, unpleasant aftertaste,.........sometimes lasting for days! Of course, now that I am aged, I don't care about such dreams since I have more pressing reality issues.
@ahinora (57)
• Bulgaria
20 Jun 10
By me- you are afraid to lose him.You are not sure his feelings, his love . Maybe you think that your partnership is not so strong.
@ElicBxn (60762)
• United States
18 Jun 10
I so seldom remember dreams that it has never been an issue for me. However, Maggiepie used to dream she was mad at me and would wake up and take it out on me. At least until I figured out what was going on. The last few times I flat out told her that "I didn't know what I did in your dream, but I didn't do it and I wasn't going to put up with it!"
@cream97 (29169)
• United States
16 Jun 10
Hi, la_chique. Yes, I have had dreams of cheating with my spouse. I have also dreamed of leaving him too so many of times. I would wake up feeling bad about it. I may also mention it to him. But, I would not try to let it make me think badly about him, because it is only a bad dream and nothing else.
• Nigeria
15 Jun 10
Dream! Dream!! Dream!!!,Some dream do come to pass but depends on individual talent, every living person on earth is talented differently, if you know your talent about dream ,then you can work on it.
@meemingNEW (2228)
• Philippines
15 Jun 10
I have always been told that if I ever dream about someone or something that'll make me suspicious like a cheating boyfriend.. I don't immediately tell my partner about it the next day. I'll just keep it to myself and observe the things that I wasn't observing before. Like my partners activities and what not. If my gut feel will tell me that it is just nothing, then I won't mind anymore. I just don't want myself to be bothered nor my partner over a dream I had. I'd rather keep it to myself and wait for my partner to tell me if there's really something going on behind my back. I just hope waiting is the best thing for me to do.
• United States
15 Jun 10
i would not hold a grude about it but yes i would discuss it with my partner the dream could have been a way of letting you know that this is something you two need to discuss but get mad how could you it was just a dream nothing has happened in real life and by calmly discussing it and talking it through it may prevent the same reaction in the dream later on in life. But no you certainly can't get angry about what happened in a dream that would be saying that you can control what your partner dreams about and that is impossible also it could be that your partner is having doubts in the area that went wrong in the dream. but you can not control waht you do in someone elses dreams that is just rediculous. try talking with your partner in a positive way and asking if they think that you can control their dream and what you do in their dream or vise versa they would think it silly to think they can control what they do in your dreams godd luck and God Bless
• Philippines
15 Jun 10
Never like to do it for a long time it is very stressful and unhealthy habit which do not like to practice. maybe their is some people who is annoying and irritating but i never put too much interest on them with lesser concentration. Since the more you focus on them it is like feeding them and it would even inspire them to annoy their target of their childish demeanor. same with me for the last months i rarely dream and even if I had it also gone the moment i wake up. I could easily forgive but not forget easily but if the person is sincere I may combine both.
@clouds0327 (1390)
• Philippines
14 Jun 10
Yah, usually I get so affected when I dream about my husband cheating on me, or they are flirting of some sort. I feel bad towards him the next day.. and then start thinking that maybe its a sign or something or letting me know that it will happen in the future. I can still the pain I felt in my dream and its so hard to erase it the next day.
@avani26 (1521)
• India
14 Jun 10
I do not think I would hold a grudge against my partner for something he has not done. Usually I get some dreams and always make it a point to tell my partner about it or I would surely feel miserable. My partner is much more mature than me and also would not take such things seriously.
• Philippines
14 Jun 10
I will never take it against anyone if I dream something bad about them. It wouldn't really matter at all, it is just a dream and why would I take it seriously and take it against the person. . Well maybe I will mention the dream in passing with my partner and maybe laugh at it together but I will never dwell on it after all it is just a dream.
@sender621 (14956)
• United States
14 Jun 10
I have never been the type of person who csan hold a grudge for very long. i do get angry from time to time. This happens to all of us. Most of the time, i forget that I am mad about something. Holdng a grudge is not a healthy way to live.. it is isn't good for you or the person your anger is aimed at, Try to work it out. You will feel better for it.