does parents knows best?

Philippines
June 14, 2010 10:16am CST
I am just wondering if parents really knows what is best for their children at all times to the extent that they need to meddle on their children's life even if they are of age. At times they tend to make decisions for their children without asking them what are their thoughts or decision about the matter they just jump off to the decision with out respecting or listening to the children. I am a soon to be parent and I want to give my children the right to speak up his/her thoughts. I want to know the take on this topic of parents and children alike. Does parents knows best at all times?
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@Theresaaiza (10454)
• Australia
16 Jun 10
Do parents know best? No, not ALL THE TIME! Some of their decisions can be really irrational and out-of-date. But their opinions are worth listening to. I am a very stubborn person but in the end I always end up obeying what they want. I just don't want to break their heart. My parents were protective of me but not overly coercing. What I don't like sometimes is because I feel that I am less free.
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• Philippines
17 Jun 10
Hi theresaaiza, thanks for sharing your opinion. I can feel what you feel for I had been in that situation as well.
@tomitomi (5441)
• Singapore
14 Jun 10
I am a parent and I must admit that there are lots of things out there that I don't know. I love my children very much and that's the only reason why I make decisions for them until they are old enough to reason things out. As a modern parent I do not necessarily have to throw away some of the old habits my parents used to have. Instead I would rather approach them from a different perspective. I give my children the right to speak up their thoughts and as much opportunities to do so as you would like to. Parents may not know best but loving your children may just bring out the best in parents.
• Philippines
15 Jun 10
I think as parents we also learn from how our own parents have brought us up and we make sure that those habits that we saw that are not that good should be improved on so that our children will be better citizens of this world.
@Bebs08 (10690)
• United States
22 Jun 10
Of course not!! There are lost of parents who don't think or consider the feelings of their children. They want their opinions to be followed because they said they are always right and kids have to obey and follow because it is for their own good. But no!!! they have to consider the situations. Not at all times that parents are right in their decision about their children. Children''s rights must be respected by parents. They should understand the feelings of their children.
• Philippines
22 Jun 10
H friend, I hear you loud and clear. Well, of course here in the Philippines no matter what you age is or even you got your own family parents tend to always protect the children. I think it has something to do with the close family ties. They tend to think that their decisions are better off with the children's decision or don't consider how the children feels. I just pray that as I become a parent I will try to be different from how my own parents raised me.
@shiloh_222 (5480)
• Philippines
15 Jun 10
hi. depends on who are your parents... and doesnt know best all the time.
• Philippines
15 Jun 10
Thanks for sharing friend...
• China
14 Jun 10
In some topic parents really know batter then other or child. As they experience. More over all parents want best for there child. But i am sure in some matter they don't batter then there child. But as maximum time they knows batter then us that's why we should obey them.
• Philippines
15 Jun 10
Hi there, thanks for sharing, but do they have the right to make decisions for their children even if they are on age?
@dorannmwin (36698)
• United States
26 Jun 10
I definitely don't think that parents always know what is best for their children. I know with my two children (aged seven and three years old) I don't think that there are a lot of decisions that they are ready to make completely on their own, but I want there to always be very open lines of communication with my children so I will work through decisions that need to be made with the children. My hope is that by doing this now we will be able to continue this trend in the future so that we will be able to work together on decisions later in life.
• Philippines
14 Jun 10
I believe that Parents knows best for their children but the way they show what they know best is sometimes not the best.