Does Anyone Know About Social Security Benefits?

@cjsmom (1423)
United States
June 17, 2010 4:47pm CST
I am taking CJ and moving to California at end of month. My husband of almost 20 years has decided that I've had an affair. I've loved him from the moment we met, over 20 years ago and, in my mind, if I were to have an affair it would've been years ago. I'm just not that kind of person. We agreed when we married that if we wanted out and had found someone else that we'd be honest about it and not sneak around. I have never wanted anyone else even through the rough years and will always love him. But he has told me over and over for the past 2 and a half years that he doesn't trust me and he doesn't believe me. We will have a place to stay when we get to where we're going but no income except for $300 a month that he's going to give for child support. We've decided not to divorce at this moment, but I may have to sue for divorce eventually in order to get an acceptable amount of support for my child; I need to eat as well... I plan on looking for work; prayerfully as a school bus driver, but... My question is, with CJ having Autism and all, shouldn't I be able to receive Social Security for him? We had applied before as a family but hubby made to much money. From what I understand you can't make over $3000 per month. I, myself am paying back child support payments to the state of California for my children from a previous marriage. My current husband has been kind enough to give me the money each month so I won't go to jail. But now that I'm leaving, who knows. My mom is going to help me with that, if need be until I can do it on my own and will be paying her back. The other question I have is this...If I continue taking care of my support obligation each month, they wouldn't deny CJ assistance from S.S.I. would they; or take monies from him for my obligation, will they? I sure have a bit of a dilema here and would appreciate any help mylotters could give me. Even if it's just to point me in the right direction to find out. Thank you all in advance...
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@GardenGerty (99159)
• United States
17 Jun 10
I am so sorry that this is happening. I would just suggest that you apply for SSI and see. Obviously you do not have an income to support him. Meanwhile, you may get other kinds of help. Go to Social Services as soon as you get there.I am not sure I understand why you have to pay back support for you children from another marriage. I am really puzzled about the whole situation with your husband, but I am not there and do not know either of you. Good luck dear. Keep up with us and keep in touch.
@cjsmom (1423)
• United States
17 Jun 10
Thank you so much, Gerty...I plan on doing just that. The reason I have to pay child support for my children from a previous is that I wanted the divorce at the time (young and stupid) and we were on Welfare. The kid's dad didn't ask me to pay him anything, the state of California/Welfare did. Thanks again and I will keep in touch.